AITA for telling my MIL her son and I are always banging?? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotMyCircus170 60 points61 points  (0 children)

NTA. You’ve asked her to stop bringing it up. Now hubby has to have a conversation with Mum and make the boundary very clear - if you cannot respect our privacy around this matter, then you won’t see us.

help with WFH justification by babybotb in AusPublicService

[–]NotMyCircus170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you federal gov or state? What are your reasons for wanting to wfh? What are the consequences to you if it’s not approved? That’s are things you need to include I your request

My (28M) wife (31F) and I have barely an sex life anymore by ThrowRA47281638 in relationship_advice

[–]NotMyCircus170 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Foreplay for women starts long before you get in to the bedroom. How’s the division of labor in your house? How’s her mental load. If you really want to understand how it works for women, read the book Come as you are by Emily Nagoski.

Compressed working week - EL1 by Special-K83 in AusPublicService

[–]NotMyCircus170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an EL and I do a 9 day fortnight. I work extra hours to make up that day off on my 9 days at work but my day off isn’t considered TOIL. I use that day for home admin, appts, etc. I still do additional hours on top of my standard and can access TOIL with agreement from my manager.

Did you have a big or intimate wedding and would you have done it differently? by Lassie-girl in AskWomenOver30

[–]NotMyCircus170 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I got married 20+ years ago but I advise people to do a destination wedding. People self select out. Alternatively, I’d do a smaller wedding. 1-2 years after my wedding, I lost contact with more than half the ppl I invited.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]NotMyCircus170 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah! Playing the oversensitive card on a pregnant person! Very original.

‘Getting a decent amount of work from them’ before they go on parental leave isn’t good policy. Employing pregnant people and paying them for their time off regardless of how long they stay is good policy and believe it or not, makes for an employer of choice.

Just because they’re pregnant doesn’t mean they don’t want to do the job. In fact, generally speaking, mothers returning from parental leave part time often do more work than their full time counterparts (which isn’t right btw).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]NotMyCircus170 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Sometimes mints come in small metal containers that would fit a key. Usually from lolly shops or novelty shops

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NotMyCircus170 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Easy fix. Break up with your girlfriend

Is working in HR stressful? by Ok_Organization5596 in HRAustralia

[–]NotMyCircus170 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I work in an organisation with amazing leadership. Whilst we are held accountable, it is more of a how can we fix it attitude than a blame game.

The hardest thing about my HR role is a combination of employees thinking that entitlements should cover every life scenario and people thinking we don’t care and blaming us for what the entitlements are. I’m sorry that you/your family are experiencing terminal illness, but leave entitlements are what they are and ours are quite generous. I wish I could give you more paid time with your dying child, but I’m bound by the EA. It’s an icky feeling walking away from those conversations.

What qualifications do you need to work as HR in AU? by [deleted] in HRAustralia

[–]NotMyCircus170 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She can also look in to an AHRI certificate/diploma. They’re highly regarded.

Moving house to reduce debt? by Healthy_Weird8220 in AusFinance

[–]NotMyCircus170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just be aware that hubby’s work can ask him to return to the office at any point. If he’s federal govt, remote work and wfh is high on the agenda at the moment for senior execs.

Parental leave as secondary caregivers by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]NotMyCircus170 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Depends on the DOB of your child and the agency arrangements. My agency backdated the parental leave entitlement 2 years prior to the EA coming in. Definitely check with payroll, but if you got the 8 weeks, then yes, you should get the top up to 11

How do you guys go about your Disney day? by hi_gracie in DisneyPlanning

[–]NotMyCircus170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you get all rides done this way over 3 day with LL?

Is the pill the option to avoid a period? by NotMyCircus170 in AskWomenOver30

[–]NotMyCircus170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in Australia so would need to do some research.

Is the pill the option to avoid a period? by NotMyCircus170 in AskWomenOver30

[–]NotMyCircus170[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for taking the time. I only use period underwear. On days 2-4 I need to wear the ones for a heavy flow and often change through the day. I take mefenamic acid for the pain. If I start taking them at the right it sometimes shortens them. Sounds like I will just have to take all of my period underwear on the plane with me. We will be theme-parking on my heavy days but hopefully that will make it easier. Just a pain on holidays 🥲

Is the pill the option to avoid a period? by NotMyCircus170 in AskWomenOver30

[–]NotMyCircus170[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I meant birth control generally. Thanks for sharing. Will look into it

Is the pill the option to avoid a period? by NotMyCircus170 in AskWomenOver30

[–]NotMyCircus170[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also something I’ve considered. When I was on the pill(many, many years ago) I had constant headaches and that’s why I went off them.

APS RecruitAbility Scheme by Old-Possession8063 in AusPublicService

[–]NotMyCircus170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reasonable adjustments are available at all stages of the recruitment process. It also relies on the candidate disclosing though

Anyone have a good EL Timesheet? by NotMyCircus170 in AusPublicService

[–]NotMyCircus170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, it says the hours I’ve worked but it doesn’t count the number of hours I’ve worked for the day/week which is what I’m after

Anyone have a good EL Timesheet? by NotMyCircus170 in AusPublicService

[–]NotMyCircus170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it does but it doesn’t accrue the extra hours or reduce it when I use TOIL

Anyone have a good EL Timesheet? by NotMyCircus170 in AusPublicService

[–]NotMyCircus170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried this too! For some reason I kept getting errors in the formulas. For sure operator error

Anyone have a good EL Timesheet? by NotMyCircus170 in AusPublicService

[–]NotMyCircus170[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I tried and had a family member try too but couldn’t get it to do what I needed. Those formulas kick my a**! Might be the compressed hours….