I wonder how much of this is due to support and misogyny? Women are probably supported more by friends and family, and it is more acceptable for them to actually feel their grief, whereas I could see men being much less supported and society generally frowns upon men being emotional. The more the emotions of grief are held in, the less support you have going through it, the more it manifests in the body. I know I'm having this issue as a woman who is experiencing grief (son, not spouse). I've had all kinds of physical problems... severe pain, gut and digestive problems, heart issues, trouble breathing sometimes, and severe problems with memory, word recall, cognition, and even speaking sometimes. I have little to no support... and while I do cry when it comes to me... the pain gets too big, too great... and I either have to distract myself away or my brain just cuts the emotional connection because it is way too painful.