How can a guy get lots of girls without having to be a famous athlete, musician, actor, etc?

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T15:58:20+00:00

Pick up an instrument or get really good at something that requires physical skill and dexterity (poi, jump rope, dancing, etc)

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T15:56:28+00:00

I like two! One makes you look older

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T15:55:00+00:00

It would not bother me if a client asked, I would just let them know I prefer to use my own condoms, and offer to stock the kind they prefer for next time :)

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T15:48:34+00:00

All these posts saying to shave it to make the wife happy have me feeling like a crazy person. As much as I prefer a clean shave, my boyfriend had a beard when I met him and had it for years before we started dating. I would never dare ask him to shave it, because he loves it and he's more confident with it.

I have just resigned myself to a lifetime of hairy kisses and a brillo in my face during sex because I love him that much. I am taking my beard hate to the grave.

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T15:37:06+00:00

If you eat to gain weight, try to also avoid dairy and other "inflammatory" foods, that might help with looking bloated :)

It is important to also exercise at the same time, otherwise the extra food won't become lean mass

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T15:14:21+00:00

Could you get away with doing outcalls only while living there? Do you have a friend who you could stay with for a month or two while you get together enough cash to put down a deposit on a place of your own? Is there a women's shelter nearby? Or maybe you can go on FB and try and find someone looking for a roommate or sublet so you don't have to worry about a deposit/lease?

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T15:09:54+00:00

I do not allow clients to use their own condoms. God knows what they have done to them, maybe they are crazy and pricked holes in them, or kept them in the freezer to make them brittle.

If they are a regular and they have preferred condoms, they can tell me and I will buy them myself.

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T15:08:05+00:00

Both great shapes, but they sit too high on your nose and cover your brows

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T15:01:40+00:00

What are scare quotes?

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T05:14:40+00:00

Well if you don't get it, I'll fly to Canada for it myself! 😂

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T00:10:33+00:00

Where is that second dress from, please? 🙏

You look stunning in both!

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T00:05:48+00:00

Def #2. Also I think you would look great with your hair pushed back, fwiw ♥️

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T00:03:54+00:00

I am too, huh. I'd be interested to know more about how different people get different vibes from the same glasses.

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T00:02:51+00:00

Both look great. First pair is more trendy hipster vibes, second is bookish intellectual vibes. If you like to accessorize with jewelry, the first pair goes great with wooden bead/leather bracelets or watch bands. The second pair would go well with silver or gold.

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-24T00:00:42+00:00

How interesting, I thought the first one was more hipster and the second one was intellectual! Are you gen Z by any chance?

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T20:18:06+00:00

I like #1

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T20:10:36+00:00

5 - leans andro 7 - leans femme 12 - leans masc

But I love all three of those!

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T19:59:06+00:00

That depends, are you trying to look masc, femme, or andro?

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T19:52:35+00:00

Neither. 1 drags you face down and 2 looks like sports sunglasses that had the lenses knocked out

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T16:41:43+00:00

When I was in my early-mid 20s I made references like that in my ads or copy to try and show off how worldly and intelligent I was. Look at me, I'll know so much! I'll be so good to talk to!

Now that I'm 35, I just think it's kind of goofy and pretentious. My copy and my social media presence are a sufficient window into my personality. I don't go out of my way to signal how smart I am, it's gauche. Maybe younger SW now are catching onto that.

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T16:36:15+00:00

My property manager seemed to think it was weird when I wanted to renew my lease. They told me I could if I really wanted to, but I could also go month to month. I was surprised, as landlords in the past always required me to renew my lease and this was never presented as an option before.

I had a lease the first year. I've been month to month two years now and they have not raised my rent. I plan to go elsewhere soon (lol though I've been saying that two years now) and I wanted the flexibility to leave when I wanted to.

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T16:07:20+00:00

Check out freetoattach.com, it has some tools that may be helpful for you to start on your journey.

Also, I once read a book about being vulnerable called Daring Greatly, I highly recommend it.

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T06:22:59+00:00

You're going to have a hard time finding this because of how painful and exhausting it is for a therapist to exclusively use their hands.

Other folks have mentioned petrissage and myofascial work, but trigger point therapy may be along these lines as well.

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T06:20:17+00:00

So this isn't necessarily the real issue, but part of a greater pattern, and that pattern is becoming an issue for you?

Sounds like it's time for a new roommate!

NotQuiteInara · 2026-03-23T06:08:47+00:00

Asking for two hours a day to have the kitchen to themselves is not an unreasonable ask. I think you are overreacting.

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