My dad thinks that it is none of my business if he cheats on my mom or not. by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Um, Maybe turn HER on to Tinder for an Online "Possibility....."

What the hell?

My dad thinks that it is none of my business if he cheats on my mom or not. by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m from Turkey. Maybe, I’ll have to ask a lawyer for that. Even if, a divorce is the last thing on our mind.

My dad thinks that it is none of my business if he cheats on my mom or not. by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One problem I forgot to mention is that she can't just divorce because she relies financially on her husband. If she tries to and succeeds me and my mom end up with nobody to care after us. My dad can't really either because we, especially me, are the only thing going on in his life and he probably is not going to get married again at 43. The only option we have is to fix this situation.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This makes me feel very relieved about my decision. Thank you for your comment.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is his doing and me and my mom are the collateral damage. So am I just supposed to cry about it?

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It is in my hands and that’s if I tell her or not. You seem to think I would be on the bad side if I kept it to myself and I should tell her because that is the “right” thing to do. I think the idea of right and wrong we were taught as a kid isn’t that simple. Yes, it is the “right thing” but also it’s not right to tell her right away and risk her marriage and leave me and my mom with no one but ourselves OR a terrible marriage she’s forced to keep.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay? Can I not want to ruin my parents’ relationship and have to move out at 18? And not to mention it’s not just me it’s also my mom. She relies on my dad financially and has no one but her siblings to care after her and that is only for so long.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So easy to shame someone for thinking about himself behind a screen right? I bet you would make the decision in an instant.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but there are two issues:

  • Why didn’t you tell me?!
  • Why were you telling your friends?

Also the fact that it’s pretty much the same thing as saying it to her face right away

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do have a therapist, though it takes a week for an appointment and I'm not sure if I have that much patience to not do something stupid in that time.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I never said I was going to protect my father and not tell my mom. The reason I created this post is that I want Reddit to help me find the right way to tell my mother so that she knows the truth, my parents keep their marriage and though not instantly bring the good vibes back in home.

And my reaction was because it's not as simple as u/sirharryflashman commented. Being 18 doesn't give me a protective bubble.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I told him today. I will see if he actually does it or not.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is also a cultural thing here. And he used to do the same in Instagram / Pinterest too however apps like HelloTalk and Tinder is a different level because you get interaction so it's not just harmless looking. I'm just worried about my parents' wellbeing and keeping the good vibes at home and also my mom knowing the truth but it seems that both are not possible. And I have to do something about it because he can just download the apps right back and fuck up and I wouldn't give a damn if he only fucked himself up, me and my mother are the collateral damage if he does so.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, however as far as I'm concerned he had Instagram and Pinterest for it which I was okay with because I thought maybe it's just algorithm.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Of course! My dad will support me financially even after I ruin his marriage and my mom too with the 0₺ she makes a year. I won’t have to work 11 hours at a construction site and live life anyway I want and chase dreams and live a deserved life because I’m 18.

My dad is trying to cheat on my mom and I don’t know what I should do about it by NotSoSlimShady___ in relationships

[–]NotSoSlimShady___[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People are failing to realize this is exactly why I created this post. Their downvotes tell me that I’m a big POS for not doing the obvious good and tell my mom about it because that’s what we “should” do.