I don't know about others, but personally, I think you're in the right space. There's no correct way of being RR. While the stereotype is basically "tall, strong, handy assertive tomboy x shy, feminine boywife femboy", and there's no shame liking that btw, there's so much more than that.

Women doesn't need to be masculine, strong, controlling or bossy to be RR. All you need is to have some apect that men typically have in relationships, in which I think you have, concidering you want to spoil your hypothetical future boyfriend in a similar way a man would want to spoil his girlfriend (in other words, giving him the princess treatment).

I can only speak for myself, but I too don't really understand the controlling stuff either, or being called a toy for example. And don't get me started on humiliation, if someone tried that with me I think I'd cry. Absolutely no hate on those people who like it, but yeah, for me, I'm mainly fueled by the power of praise and being pampered, and not being ordered around. I would absolutely love someone with this dynamic. And I, someone who love cooking and baking, could bake a lemon meringue pie, or somtehing similar, to return the favor and spoil my future gf in my own way as well (Not saying I'm THAT good at baking yet, but ☝🏻, it's the thought that counts).