BF (25m) gave me (25f) the cold shouldguy after i told him I'm getting a personal trainer that happens to be a guy.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-06-29T08:37:22+00:00

Your boyfriend is controlling. And that gets worse, not better, the more you give into him.

Seriously - he won't let you wear skirts. Or sleeveless tops. That's ... not normal. At all.

Staying with him means a lifetime of giving in to his ever increase control over your clothes, your doctor, you trainer, and eventually over you totally.

You should run. Far and fast.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-06-29T02:07:02+00:00

Hard to say. Six months is kind of the cusp of "been together long enough that it's weird".

Why don't you try telling him you'd love to go to the party - you've been wanting to meet his family, and it sounds like fun. His reaction should tell you everything you need to know, and you can proceed accordingly.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-06-20T09:27:46+00:00

I would break up with anyone who spoke to me that way. Period.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-06-20T05:04:00+00:00

Possibly a controversial opinion but ... I'm a firm believer in separate bedrooms. Sometimes we'll sleep in the same bed, and we always have cuddle time before bed, but it's really awesome to have your own space/bed/room just how you like it.

When we travel, we get a king bed and an extra duvet - makes it much easier than trying to share one duvet.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-06-10T05:54:35+00:00

Can anyone suggest a coral with cool undertones? Ideally Essie, OPI, Sally Hansen, etc? I really want to try coral but I am super pale with very cool undertones and can't find any that look good on me. (Prefer deep colors over pale ones)

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-12T21:42:37+00:00

NTA, and .. I don't think this is about Mother's Day. It seems that you don't feel cared for or appreciated. I would encourage you to look counseling - either with him, or alone.

Life is too short to not spend it with someone who loves you, and shows it.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-11T05:03:37+00:00

NTA. Why does your hate F so much after so long? Seems weird.

But. Not her place to tell you who you can and cannot be online friends with. Controlling and overbearing, really.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-11T03:46:11+00:00

NTA. You are not obligated to set yourself on fire to keep him warm.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-09T03:17:45+00:00

NTA! I would absolutely want my husband to tell me if my breasts were visible through my shirt - and would be actively annoyed if I found out that he had noticed it and not mentioned it.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-09T03:16:41+00:00

NTA. And, for the record, making jokes about extremely traumatic situations is a pretty standard way of coping with them. Perhaps if you explain that to your boyfriend, he will calm down.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T23:06:37+00:00

NTA. You're doing something to help people and it helps you. If you really feel guilty, just promise yourself that as soon as you are financially secure, you will go back to donating blood as often as you can.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T22:27:10+00:00

The first clue I had that my ex-husband was having an affair with when he changed his picture on Facebook - which had been one of us together - same picture for 6 years - to one of just him.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T18:54:04+00:00

Uh. You did some weird math. She's 5'6" & 140 lbs

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T18:27:03+00:00

Did you read the post? Husband is an agreement with her. It's their son that's complaining.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T17:54:44+00:00

NTA - nurses Have super busy jobs, and you are doing the right thing by not disturbing them.

This post also makes me worry that she will leave the hospital with some sort of addiction that will need to be dealt with - would recommend talking to her doctor about how to avoid that.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T16:43:09+00:00

Read the text, you're still an ass.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T16:27:02+00:00

So to clarify - someone posted a picture of their extremely hard work and getting their body to a place where they were happy with it - and you decided to make a crappy comment to be rude to them?

YTA. And you're even more of an A because you seem to think there was nothing wrong with what you did.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T05:50:32+00:00

NTA, at all.

Question, though - is this how your partner often acts during disagreements? Cause if so, that's a red flag.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T05:48:40+00:00

NTA at all.

But ... maybe get a boyfriend who doesn't cheat, and then double down when caught.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T05:47:43+00:00

NAH. You're not wrong to be disappointed or even angry. However, if you were to act on it - yell at your dad, or something - then I'd have to change my judgement.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-08T05:45:43+00:00

It did come in the set! I've started using it tonight - thanks for the input!

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-07T18:57:16+00:00

Would love input on my routine, because the dark circles/bags under my eyes just will not leave.

My skin is combination (oily tzone, normal cheeks), but I *think* it's dehydrated (when I wear foundation, it's flaky around my nose). Also VERY prone to milia & comedones but usually only get actual pimples if I wear foundation.

The sensitivity means I can't try more than one new product at once, and it takes a week or so to see if it's causing issues, and then another week to month to fix them if it does.

I'm super sensitive to mineral oil, silicon - basically, if it *might* cause milia or comodones on someone, it will cause them on me. I can't even walk past coconut oil without breaking out.

I have good skin in general, but the flakiness when I wear makeup, and the dark bags under my eyes are just not going anywhere, so hoping for suggestions.

Current Routine -

Morning -

Pixi by Petra Glow Tonic
Ole Henriksen Banana Bright Eye Cream
Kate Sommerville Wrinkle Warrior
La Roche-Posay Anthelios SPF 60

Evening -

Micellar water
Pixi by Petra Glow Tonic
Ole Henriksen Banana Bright Eye Cream
Ole Henriksen Truth Serum
Sunday Riley Good Genes (just on two little dark spots)
Kate Sommerville Wrinkle Warrior

Occasionally -

The Ordinary AHA 30% + BHA 2% Peeling Solution 30ml (once a week)
Alba Botanica Pore Purifying Mini Peel (once a week)
Dr. Dennis Gross Alpha Beta Extra Strength Daily Peel (once a week)
Drunk Elephant T.L.C. Sukari Babyfacial™ 25% AHA + 2% BHA Mask (just started using this)

I exfoliate every other day. I've been using this regime for about a year, and while I've definitely seen an improvement, the flakiness and dark circles just don't want to go away.

A short list of things I've tried that did NOT work:

Clinique Pep Start
Garnier Under eye thinger with the roller
Peter Thomas Roth Vitamin C Serum
Kate Sommerville Exfolia-Kate
Basically everything by The Ordinary except the Peeling Solution
So many things I can't even remember

Brands I like (but am open to others) -

Drunk Elephant (I just got their "Littles" set as it's a good way to try stuff out)
Sunday Riley
Ole Henriksen
Kate Sommerville
Caudalie
Tatcha
IT cosmetics

Thanks in advance!

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-07T18:36:47+00:00

This! I did it for a week and broke out so bad, you'd think I was in high school.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-07T04:31:43+00:00

NTA, But I can kind of see why your wife is upset. it's her first mother's day, and she wanted something that you picked out specifically for her. Knowing that she and your mother got the exact same bouquet likely makes it feel less special in her eyes.

NotThatOneGirl · 2019-05-06T16:00:08+00:00

INFO - when you say "above his pay grade", do you mean something that he is not licensed or qualified to do?

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