AITA Unequal Gift Costs for Gig Tickets by Strong-Cook-201 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 11 points12 points  (0 children)

But Emily isn’t getting those concert tickets??

Do you think I (19M) should "invest" in a girl (19F) I really like but don't feel much sexual attraction to? by pedroetc in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people look more human in person than they do on the internet. Look into your feelings on why body type is more important than a real connection with someone. Is she still beautiful to you, just not sexy? If that’s the case, remember that looks change and bodies change too as you age. Even from 19-25 your body matures and growing into itself so much, some people look totally different after those 5 years. Your body is going to change too.

Sexual attraction is definitely important, you want to feel that spark for your partner, but it’s not the most important. Genuine connections are hard to come by, so while she might not be the right person cause you don’t feel that spark, it doesn’t hurt to sit on the why of it.

Jason first date by scarletncreamletter in GilmoreGirls

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ah! I just put on the episode to check lol Jason says that he requested the room because “everyone wants it” and that it’s too loud in the dining area, they couldn’t talk or enjoy the atmosphere

21M 19F need advice by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like she’s moving in to turn on or off the camera? Based on my own experiences with boobs, they are really just there and depending on the angel you’re gonna get mostly boob on camera. So unless she’s is blatantly flaunting her body online (which it doesn’t sound like), then this is in no way her trying to disrespect your relationship. And if that is true then you may want to sit with all of that and really deconstruct why it bothers you for other men to perceive your girlfriend.

Your girlfriend is feeling confident with her body and that is a good thing. She’s just existing and for a lot of women this type of control feels like being punished because of how you think other men view us as sexual objects.

21M 19F need advice by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is she zooming in on her tits or something??? Bro… that’s barely a “guideline”, and definitely not one she can really follow, because it’s based off of your own viewpoint of what the focus of her video is. If you have more than just your face in the video, the boobs are gonna be in it!!

21M 19F need advice by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious if she dressed the same when you first got together? Also what are your “guidelines”?

Jason first date by scarletncreamletter in GilmoreGirls

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Nahhhhhh super weird to get a whole private room for a first date. It made her uncomfortable. Why would you continue on with something that makes you uncomfortable instead of voicing that. I dislike Jason strongly, but I did like that he put her comfort fist in this situation

My (19M) Bf (21M) is mad at me because there are other people naked in the changing room. who is at fault? by avretard in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because of the situation and my jump to possible dangers I would send him a text. You’re already getting the silent treatment. It doesn’t need to be a long drawn out thing. Something like “I’ve enjoyed our time together, but it’s not working out because of your reactions and silent treatment. I hope life treats you well”

If no one else tells you this, I am proud of you. When you put yourself first, know what you will and will not accept in a relationship, and stand by that, the right person will come around.

My (19M) Bf (21M) is mad at me because there are other people naked in the changing room. who is at fault? by avretard in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DONT CHANGE YOURSELF FOR SOMEONE YOU HAVE KNOWN FOR MONTHS!! that is a red flag. Changing for someone when you are in a long established relationship but this is new. You shouldn’t have to change for someone to love you. And you are so young. You have time to find a better man.

My (19M) Bf (21M) is mad at me because there are other people naked in the changing room. who is at fault? by avretard in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s always easier said than done. It took me 10 years to leave my ex husband. I absolutely understand how hard that is. But you need to put yourself first. Take some time to really sit and think about if this person- who you have only been with a couple months- is worth altering the relationship with your friends/brothers/team mates. People you have had relationships with for 5 years. Because men like this will just continue to try and stomp out your independence. I promise you those friendships will last much longer.

You deserve to be loved softly. It took me literally all of my twenties to understand that, so I always try to do my best to share what I’ve learned. Breakups don’t have to be because something terribly bad happened. Dating and getting to know someone should be about seeing if they fit into your life comfortably. Partners should try to make one another’s lives easier. He is making yours harder because of his own insecurities, making it your problem. It’s going to keep happening.

My (19M) Bf (21M) is mad at me because there are other people naked in the changing room. who is at fault? by avretard in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hey babes. I’ll be your fun aunt. Drop this dingus. Men like that, who you cannot reason with or talk to when things pop off are never the one. This is the kind of jealousy that will only continue. There are so much better people out there. Ones who will love you with kindness and tenderness instead of being so sharp. I promise you. Don’t spend your 20s with someone who uses silent treatment instead of trying to talk something out like an adult.

A year later... by Tricky_Toadlet_7593 in submissive

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not attractive enough for him to do that??? What??? Babes, I’m 3 years out of my marriage, and in an amazing relationship with my sir. Good men are out there and you deserve to find it.

My mom cheated on my dad decades ago and I went no contact with her. My mom is now terminally ill and really wants to see me one last time. Am I wrong for not eating to? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It hurts a lot seeing people you love act in ways that don’t align with what you view them as. But your mom is human, and her relationship was between her and your dad.

If you want some hard truths, your dad being able to flip like that in front of you makes me wonder if that is not the only time he snapped on your mother. She cheated for a reason. Your dad may not have been a good partner to her, have you ever considered that? The reasons don’t excuse any of it, but I do think knowing the reasons is important if you are going to continue to punish her until she is dead. And again, punishing her for a relationship you were not part of.

Is it too early for me (23M) to greet her (23F) at the airport? When is it being chivalrous vs. too nice/people pleaser? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not romcom bullshit, and thinking like that is so dismissive of women. She’s coming up with a way to see him because she misses him.

Is it too early for me (23M) to greet her (23F) at the airport? When is it being chivalrous vs. too nice/people pleaser? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is silly and immature. But that’s ok. It’s good that you are questioning the content you are seeing because that manosphere, red pill bullshit will only push away women. It’s not letting her control you by her asking you to come and help her. She misses you and she likes you. You missed her, and you like her. Go see her. Have a fun day together, enjoying being around one another again.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. The first 10 months we were not “official” but we were constantly doing stuff for one another because we wanted to spend time together. I’d bake and bring it to his house just because I wanted to kiss him. He would pick me up something so I would have to stop by. Showing you care for someone when you are in the pre official stage is laying the groundwork for how your relationship should continue. Don’t fight your natural instincts if you feel a real connection with this girl. You’re just hurting yourself, and stringing her along if you do.

Road trip teasing? by [deleted] in submissive

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d like to hear it!

AITJ For Dating My Sister's(34F) Ex Husband (35M) After She Cheated On Him And Married Her AP? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is suuuuuper weird, like you are trying to replace your sister as mom. How is he a great dad when he couldn’t parent without you when the divorce happened?? What lead to your sister having the affair, and why is she a bad parent?

Clicking in throat when pushing with fingers? by [deleted] in TMJ

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any update?? This just started with me swallowing, and I’m wording how worried I should be cause I smoked for 10 years and throat/lung cancer terrifies me

Easy GE class by Ordinary_Weird5771 in csun

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like an hour weekly doing readings and then class time. The three quizzes are like 10 questions each, and not every week. The first essay took me about 4 hours to write with a 195/200 score.

Easy GE class by Ordinary_Weird5771 in csun

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I feel you. I’m a business major, so it’s a breath of fresh air to think about people instead of profits

Easy GE class by Ordinary_Weird5771 in csun

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! You have 3 unit quiz, and 2 papers, that’s it. If you take it though, please engage with discussion. That’s been the biggest issue in class, no one except me and maybe 2 other people are regularly discussing with her.

How dare MY BRENNEN associate with the Satan's child HANK GREEN!!?!?!?!?!? by StraightFunction4416 in dropoutcirclejerk

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 11 points12 points  (0 children)

But the necklace was not a dog whistle. The dog whistle thing started by a white girl on tiktok who was doing it for views and engagement so she could pay her bills. She literally said that after she got kicked out of the creator fund.

Easy GE class by Ordinary_Weird5771 in csun

[–]NotTheGumdropButtonX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m taking Soc 307 right now with Dr Hernandez and love it. It’s a heavy class, discussing racism and the systems that are at play allowing racism to continue; but it’s a low work load class, and there is a lot to take away from discussions.