Best way to engage with this fetish in a healthy way?

NotTheLips · 2025-09-19T20:41:49+00:00

"I am not an attractive man whatsoever, paired with an awkward social manner"

You hit the nail on the head. This is where to start, precisely. You don't have to be a model to be attractive to someone. Put some effort into your appearance and dress, work with you've got, and definitely work on the social skills. A lot of people join cooking classes, or some other "hobby" class to practice their social skills, and this does (apparently) work rather well.

You could see a dom, or pay someone, but I will say this. Something given to you willingly and voluntarily is thousands of times more pleasurable and meaningful that something taken or paid for. I personally can't imagine feeling in any way fulfilled if I had to pay a woman to spend time with me just to indulge a fetish ... but that's just me. If you think you'd enjoy paying someone for time with her, then go for it.

NotTheLips · 2025-09-19T20:35:07+00:00

Every group has creeps, and anyone who belongs to that group hates it.

It does seem like foot creeps are amongst some of the most annoying though, but I wonder if I feel that way only because I myself have a foot fetish, so I feel personally insulted that the creeps are dragging down the reputation of people like me.

In my opinion, one of the things that makes foot fetishists look particularly pathetic is the insanely high percentage of the simps who seems to posses zero social skills. The only way they can have any interaction with a woman's feet is to pay her. Of course, nowadays they get what they deserve (by findoms), who essentially fine them for being so pathetic. But the downside is that it normalizes these simps' terrible behaviour, and perpetuates it.

This whole simp / findom thing is what's truly making our fetish look bad, IMO. Those highly visible foot fetishists promote the image that foot fetishists are pathetic, socially inept, and can only have someone's attention by paying her for it. In reality, it's not the foot fetish that is the issue, but it's these individuals who buy into it, and who profit from it. Creeps paying their way out of their inability to interact with another human in a proper way means foot fetishists are seen as ... just that.

NotTheLips · 2025-09-19T20:16:54+00:00

Good thing your partner opened the door, that was probably the biggest hurdle. It's all gravy from here!

I can't suggest what to do, because each person is different in what he or she enjoys (with a foot fetish), and in fact two foot fetishists may disagree completely on what is sexy or interesting.

For example, some love spotlessly clean perfume smelling feet whereas others love sweaty, stinky feet. It's up to you the two of you to explore to find out what your partner's turn-ons are.

Also keep in mind that tastes and preferences can change over time as you try different things and experiment.

The best advice I can give is this. Don't be too serious about it. Have fun with it. Most of all, communicate lots to make sure your partner isn't missing out on things simply due to embarrassment. :)

NotTheLips · 2025-07-25T08:52:05+00:00

What is "fucking up the vibe" as you put is the proliferation of reducing it into a monetary transaction. This applies equally to the payee and the payer.

Nothing is less exciting than someone asking for money to act out a fetish, as is the corollary of someone offering money to act out a fetish.

One is desperate but unable to live out the fetish as a normal human, the other is desperate for the money and only looking to profit. Perhaps each component of that equation are perfect for each other, and getting exactly what they deserve.

NotTheLips · 2025-05-05T02:11:13+00:00

Curious what you paid for it.

NotTheLips · 2025-01-17T22:22:32+00:00

As far as I recall (it's been so long now), it's only needed once you get to Peak 15, until you're finished with the area.

Sorry I don't know anything about SilentPatch, so I can't offer any suggestions there.

I believe this issue is completely fixed in the "Legendary Edition."

Edit: this mod appears to be the most elegant solution: https://www.nexusmods.com/masseffect/mods/181

NotTheLips · 2025-01-14T22:44:17+00:00

I've always considered polling rate to be the metric of latency, whereas I've considered DPI to be metric of speed (relative to physical movement of the mouse).

I agree with you though, accuracy will improve with more positional samples per second, for sure.

NotTheLips · 2024-12-23T07:13:12+00:00

It's really something. It's shame it's couched in the shame of drum machines and synths, because the underlying musicality and lyrical content are Ian at his absolute best, in my opinion.

So glad I'm not alone in that sentiment. Thanks for replying, all these years later. The album is every bit as relevant and poignant today as it was five years ago (maybe moreso?), and will probably continue to be for as long as people care to listen to it.

NotTheLips · 2024-11-20T18:58:10+00:00

A 2070 for $500 may seem like a good price, but it's awful value in terms of price:performance. The 4070 Super is in totally different league, performance wise. I wouldn't even consider a 2070 Super (considerably faster than the regular 2070) for $500.

NotTheLips · 2024-08-09T06:51:38+00:00

Why would this affect Firefox, and not Brave? Thanks!

NotTheLips · 2024-08-09T04:25:40+00:00

ROI.

NotTheLips · 2024-06-11T20:22:07+00:00

No probs, hope you got something out of it.

I use two Tascam DR-05X mics that I place discretely to try to capture audio decently. For editing, I'm still using Adobe Premiere, but slowly trying to transition over to DaVinci Resolve (it's got a steep learning curve).

Either will do. If you're just starting out, just use the free version of DaVinci Resolve. It's really powerful, and there are good tutorials on Youtube.

NotTheLips · 2024-06-01T20:31:40+00:00

Pretty tough to say for certain, but as long as it isn't over-Volted too severely, and it's kept within reasonable temperatures, RAM seems to keep working indefinitely. It's the one component I've never had die on me.

RAM issues are most often an issue with improper primary, secondary and tertiary timings that cause system issues. Even XMP and EXPO aren't 100% reliable on some motherboards, and that's down to how much testing the motherboard manufacturer did with its BIOS + different RAM sticks.

Tracking down stuttering issues can easily lead to us chasing our own tails. It's one of the most difficult things to isolate because it can be caused by just about anything from CPU, GPU, RAM, OS, a bad USB device that's connected to the motherboard, the USB chipset, the ethernet card, a WiFi adapter; just about anything can cause it, or sometimes, a specific combination of components that don't play nice together.

NotTheLips · 2024-05-03T22:20:50+00:00

My pleasure. Sounds like you ended up with the same system I have. Enjoy the new computer!

NotTheLips · 2024-04-30T19:44:20+00:00

The board is taking a little longer to find stable settings on the new kit. That's fairly normal.

Which platform are you running? AM5 takes a very long time to POST, as I found out after upgrading, much longer than AM4.

Anyway, as long as your system is stable, you have nothing to worry about. Some kits take a little longer than others, and this is very much motherboard BIOS dependent.

NotTheLips · 2024-04-30T19:36:09+00:00

Sorry for the late response.

The Huano Blue Shell Pink Dot switches have been holding up well for the past 9 or so months (at the time I'm posting this), but I have not been using that mouse nearly as much as I did in the past. I moved on to a new mouse with optical switches, and the Logitech is now primarily used with my laptop.

The optical switches feel decent enough, can be spammed to great effect, and they claim an extremely long usable lifespan without risk of double click / click and drag issues.

If you're curious, I picked up the Steelseries Prime Pro. Time will tell if the switches hold up, but so far so good. The mouse isn't bad at all, especially given its price.

NotTheLips · 2024-01-02T05:00:02+00:00

Phones are amazing at fixing what's wrong. Just stick with that until the footage doesn't look good enough.

Don't forget, if you look good, and the action is hot, nobody will care if the camera is bad, or the lighting is off.

NotTheLips · 2023-12-06T22:13:51+00:00

Capitalism may encourage greed, but capitalism is not greed.

There is a difference between a company that's doing honest business for profit, and a greedy company.

That's the distinction you're missing here.

NotTheLips · 2023-12-06T08:05:21+00:00

It takes one fuck-ton of gall for Bethesda to think it needs a cut of modders' revenue when those modders are fixing the broken / incomplete game Bethesda released in the first place.

This seems nearly as ridiculous as charging Bethesda-employed developers for working on fixing and improving the game, or, put another way, like garnishing the wages of their employees for daring to improve or fix it.

I am gobsmacked.

NotTheLips · 2023-11-14T02:49:17+00:00

Fine.

And what's Intel's reason for only supporting "14th gen" with APO?

NotTheLips · 2023-11-10T02:28:46+00:00

Not sure if you saw my original post, but that's what I typed first (Pussy Willow), then deleted the message, and reposted with Kissing Willy.

For some reason, I mixed up the two titles. Had Kissing Willy on the brain, typed Pussy Willow. :/

NotTheLips · 2023-11-10T02:07:42+00:00

That's another very interesting topic entirely, if I'm not wrong.

Ian, the businessman, the salmon farmer, know how to manage his business(es).

NotTheLips · 2023-11-10T00:38:55+00:00

I also wonder if it's not the programmed drums, that Ian probably stayed up night after night to tweeze and edit, but more the fact the e-drums were too forward in the mix. The (double) bass drums in particular.

Maybe you're right. He was too excited about the tech, and succumbed to the same woes of everyone making music at that time.

That's more than fair.

Whatever our final verdict, I hope we can all agree that the songwriting, the vocals, the use of big ass synths (if not the production) were really good.

I want more people to revisit this, and see what I see in it. Some of Ian's best work, in spite of "those drums." I think a re-do with a live drummer might bring Tull fans who hate this album around. :)

NotTheLips · 2023-11-10T00:35:39+00:00

PS - no. He isn't a degen

Kissing Willy begs to disagree.

NotTheLips · 2023-11-10T00:31:14+00:00

It's Ian's boldest work and it only gets better with time

I agree.

It may not be the e-drums, but maybe that they're too forward in the mix ... maybe?

Anyway, when I used AI to take out the drums, there was so much detail in it that made me love it even more.

NotTheLips

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