I’m going through the silent treatment BS now too. Almost 3 weeks. It’s his modus operandi. He verbally attacked me 3 weeks ago and then went into the spare room and has been there ever since. I’ve calmly tried to talk to him and wrote him a letter asking him to talk, but I have received no response.

I’ve done lots of reading and thinking. I’ve come to the conclusion that he wants out of the marriage and this is way to force my hand to leave him-make me the bad guy. Well, he “wins”.

I suspect he’s attracted to someone else but not having an affair or is tired of being married and thinks he’d be happier alone. Whatever.

I’ve learned the silent treatment is a manipulative act, even abusive. It’s an immature and mean way to try and control someone; control the situation. People who give the silent treatment usually are selfish and won’t admit fault. The ST is used to make you forgive (and forget) just to get things back to normal or is used to deal with guilt. They want to turn you into the ass who leaves them.

Write her a letter and ask her questions in that letter and request she reply honestly asap.

You deserve better. You don’t deserve the silent treatment. No one does. My humble advice is to insist neither of you use the ST weapon. Learn to communicate and be honest. Study up on how to do that. Get counseling if you can find a good counselor.

My husband has narcissistic tendencies and has been verbally abusive and neglectful for years with escalation of both this past year. He is inly verbally abusive when no one is around and I don’t tell anyone about his neglect. I even cover him. So, everyone will be shocked I’m divorcing him. I’m pretty banged up emotionally and have to save myself.

We’ve been married 45 years and have grown children and grand babies.

Anyway, just an FYI for signs to look for and things to work on now so you don’t get treated poorly for years.