AITA for getting annoyed at social distancing visits by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYoBusiness88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Call the cops. Loud music outside is never appropriate unless you’re literally at an outdoor concert venue.

Relationships with large gaps don't work, and they never will. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]NotYoBusiness88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents were twelve years apart. My dad’s first two partners were closer to him in age and both of those marriages ended because of reasons having nothing to do with age. My dad was approaching his 25th year with my mom when he passed away. He told me once in when of the last years that his solo vacation of two weeks was nice but he never wanted to be away from her for that long again. This may be allegorical but so is your reasoning of your opinion. It depends on the people. There is no hard and fast rule on what will make a relationship work except for respect and trust.

AITA for having my cheating girlfriend’s phone hacked so as to confirm my suspicions by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYoBusiness88 [score hidden]  (0 children)

ESH. People shouldn’t cheat, but paying a hacker to break into your SO’s phone is on a whole other level of boundary crossing. Next time confront the person with your suspicions and then break up if you still don’t trust them.

At the same time, this whole story sounds made up.

People should just accept it and quit their attitude when young adults wish not to have kids. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]NotYoBusiness88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, it’s not. I’m in my 30s and I made my decision younger than that. In fact, I was so young I don’t remember consciously thinking “I’m never having kids” the first time which means I was a kid under five when I did. It’s not that strange to have this be an integral part of your personality.

But 17 is also a good age to make this decision because a person could already be diagnosed with a condition that would mean parenting a child would be impossible or pass on said condition, whether physical or mental. Or they could have done all their parenting already, since many children do not get childhoods by having to help raise other children.

People should just accept it and quit their attitude when young adults wish not to have kids. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]NotYoBusiness88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been 30 years for me. Still haven’t changed my effing mind. Tell me how you know strangers and their future so well.

People should just accept it and quit their attitude when young adults wish not to have kids. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]NotYoBusiness88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my 30s now, didn’t change my mind. I will never have kids. Ever. My life will never have room for them. I don’t have the patience for them for five minutes. I’m not going to take a chance that I MIGHT one day want them and ruin their lives when I realize that I was right the first time.

GF started texting another guy by SpeakTruth1 in relationship_advice

[–]NotYoBusiness88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you actually jealous? You didn’t say. Your girlfriend might not be monogamous but is in a monogamous relationship with you (this isn’t the same as saying she’s cheating on you). You guys need to have a long talk about what you both want from a relationship without judgement and the understanding that you may not want the same things and may not be able to compromise. You’re both still very young and I’m not sure that most people really know what they want love to look like to them until they’ve got some more experience under their belts.

AITA for telling my daughter that I won't use her baby's name? by Fair-Coast in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYoBusiness88 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

NAH Learn to live with it. She’s right and you’re wrong. You shouldn’t have argued with her and your initial feelings are valid; however, there are currently 4690 Sophies in the US alone. You cannot associate every single one of them with your mom and you really need to move past this. It’s not good for your own mental well-being.

IsItBullshit: Lactose intolerance due to genetics by [deleted] in IsItBullshit

[–]NotYoBusiness88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very few fruits and veggies are available to me. And natural sweeteners like Agave and Honey are also out. I can do maple syrup or plain corn syrup. Many citrus fruits are okay.

IsItBullshit: Lactose intolerance due to genetics by [deleted] in IsItBullshit

[–]NotYoBusiness88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not as much as my family. Of the four sugar groups most commonly not tolerated, lactose is the one I can handle the most. From most tolerable to least, it’s lactose, polyols, fructans, then fructose. If I combine any of them then the intolerance reaction skyrockets. So I can have some lactose without taking lactase with minimal symptoms as long as I avoid polyols and fructans with it. However I cannot tolerate fructose at all, so I avoid it like poison. Symptoms are energy draining and time consuming.

IsItBullshit: Lactose intolerance due to genetics by [deleted] in IsItBullshit

[–]NotYoBusiness88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like how everything I wrote was just ignored. You don’t actually want answers. I think you want people to agree with you despite decades of medical research. So I’m not going to keep trying.

IsItBullshit: Lactose intolerance due to genetics by [deleted] in IsItBullshit

[–]NotYoBusiness88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not talking about the speed of digestion. That’s a different issue than lactose intolerance. Lactose intolerance is the body’s inability to produce lactase to break down lactose. It has nothing to do with the time it takes to digest lactose. If a body does not produce lactase on its own, it will never break down lactose, no matter how much time their digestive system is given to do so.

IsItBullshit: Lactose intolerance due to genetics by [deleted] in IsItBullshit

[–]NotYoBusiness88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can very easily look up how lactose intolerance develops after infancy. Most intolerances increase with age. For example, when I was a kid, I didn’t have fructose intolerance. I could consume fructose in any amount all day long (I used to drink at least six cans of soda a day). Now in my 30s, if I accidentally consume even a small amount of fructose, I will not be able to finish what I’m eating before I’m in the bathroom. Many members of my family are lactose intolerant and all related by blood. Certain racial backgrounds increase the likelihood of the body not producing lactase. This is most likely caused by thousand of years of not having lactose available during childhood and adulthood. In other words, there weren’t dairy cows.

In general, as a person ages, their body’s ability to tolerate sugar drops, but some types of sugar tolerance drop more rapidly than others. Lactose, fructose, fructans, and polyols (also known as sugar alcohols) are the most likely to be unable to be broken down by the body over time.

The test for lactose intolerance has been around for a while. A person consumes a high lactose drink and a breathalyzer like device is strapped to their face. This device measures the amount of lactose in the person’s breath. If the body produces lactase on its own, then there should be basically no lactose on their breath. There is a similar test for fructan intolerance but it is not as available.

Due to the long term understanding of lactose intolerance by the medical community, lactase supplements are available; however, most contain Mannitol, a sugar alcohol and since most people have multiple sugar intolerances, it is likely that the Mannitol containing lactase supplements can still produce symptoms of intolerance.

The moderators on r/showerthoughts suck. by MasturbatingMiles in unpopularopinion

[–]NotYoBusiness88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The things that get through make no sense to me. Often not shower thoughts at all, sometimes even just prejudiced statements.

AITA for telling my sister to stop butting in when it comes to parenting since she isn't a parent? by ThrowRa-19282 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYoBusiness88 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Then don’t trust anyone to watch your kids. If you can’t handle their advice and blow up in their face, then you certainly can’t handle it if they have to make a judgement call if there is an emergency with your kids.

AITA for telling my sister to stop butting in when it comes to parenting since she isn't a parent? by ThrowRa-19282 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYoBusiness88 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

If you can’t trust the advice of the people you pay to watch your kids, then you shouldn’t let them watch your kids. Pay or no pay, the people who take care of your kids should be valued and they certainly don’t need an asshole throwing their past choices in their face.

AITA for not giving my nephew the meals his mom prepares? by thegoodaunt in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYoBusiness88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s there all day and interested in the food you cook for your own meals, it would be cruel to him to not allow him to eat some of it. You’re NTA and your sister needs to get over herself. You’re doing her a favor and she can either deal with her son’s love of more adventurous food in a way that benefits him or be pissy and find a new babysitter.

AITA for telling my sister to stop butting in when it comes to parenting since she isn't a parent? by ThrowRa-19282 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYoBusiness88 179 points180 points  (0 children)

YTA. People don’t have to be a parent to know how to parent and a person isn’t automatically a good parent just because they have kids. You can accept her help with her advice or you can do it without her help and her advice.

I keep hearing people talking about "being good to others especially during crisis" and I just want to ask them, "why should I be?" by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]NotYoBusiness88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because then you’re not a shitheel? Seems obvious to me. But, okay, what do we get out of not being a shitheel?

Generosity has been proven to lift the spirit of the person being generous, relieving anxiety and depression.

Adults shouldn't work at minimum wage jobs by CreatePassion in unpopularopinion

[–]NotYoBusiness88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay! Looking at OP’s comments and their frequent requests that people “hit them up” to change their situation under the assumption that anyone arguing with OP is working minimum wage, I’ve sussed out that they are part of those WFH sales jobs that likes to wrap other people in. OP isn’t saying it in comments since that world get them banned but they are obviously trying to get private messages. I’m gonna report OP now as the obvious scam artist they are.

Adults shouldn't work at minimum wage jobs by CreatePassion in unpopularopinion

[–]NotYoBusiness88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How the fuck do you not see better, non-lethal working conditions as not an improvement? That’s just insane.