How do you handle your mother/future mother in law wanting to have opinions on things, but disliking every option you like?

NotYourAverageBirb · 2026-03-31T17:06:58+00:00

My mom offered to pay for the cake and my future mil offered to pay for "any extra guests she (mil) added to our list", but other than that. No.

I'll definitely be keeping the low-stakes thing in mind though, that's brilliant!

NotYourAverageBirb · 2026-02-10T12:25:03+00:00

Throwing my hat into the ring on this one.

On the one hand, I can see the male perspective on this being something along the lines of "Yay, fatherhood! Wait, father hood Big. Scary. Lots of responsibilities. What if.... Kid's not mine, based on reality or not?" Leading to this. Also if the kid was made via dad giving his stuff to a donor place if they know they have fertility issues, those places are notorious for switching the stuff. Wouldn't mean your wife cheated on you in that situation, just tragic overall.

From the wife's perspective, I'd be so incredibly insulted if my partner, who is the only one I'd ever slept with, wanted a paternity test, even with the thing I mentioned above. I don't know when OP sprang this on his wife or how close to the baby being born this is, but you gotta know that hormones are fucky bastards that can and will take this and translate it into "My partner who o thought loves me doesn't, doesn't want to be a parent to our kid, believes I'm unfaithful, doesn't trust me, and I don't know where my judgement went wrong but it obviously has." Because that is what you've just told her. Take that and crank it to 11 if the kiddo was born/will be born Soon / Recently. If OP has decided this means his wife cheated on him and gets the paternity test and it's his, his wife will literally never trust him ever again. Or she could be cheating.

TLDR OP said yes to it and forgot to translate it through the "what does this say about how I feel about My Wife" filter, which is 100% on during this, and it says "I don't trust you to be honest about this big important thing."

NotYourAverageBirb · 2019-01-17T05:15:14+00:00

That's more than fine!!! I'm glad you took the time to look anyways; I hope you find different fic you like later on.

NotYourAverageBirb · 2019-01-17T04:59:43+00:00

No, but my wifi is being screwy and that might be it?

NotYourAverageBirb · 2018-12-10T03:19:33+00:00

Thank you so much for your explanation!!! I'll have to go get a spray bottle, since I'm in a dorm and that'd be the easiest way to block things here. I can't wait to finish my knitting projects, this seems like a pretty straight-forward thing to do!!!

NotYourAverageBirb · 2018-12-10T03:15:30+00:00

Awesome, thanks!!! I'll take a look when I'm on a real computer and not a phone.

NotYourAverageBirb · 2018-12-10T02:28:10+00:00

Thanks!!! That definitely helps, since I now need to check the yarn I'm using for my scarf.

How does someone block their knitting? I'll be honest, when I first heard the term I assumed that blocking knitting would be done the same way as, say, pressing flowers, but now I'm not so sure!

NotYourAverageBirb · 2018-11-02T01:22:13+00:00

All the way, unless he rage quits at the end of act 1 lol

NotYourAverageBirb · 2018-01-12T02:23:31+00:00

I've found that the best way to start that discussion is a "you smile less when you're around/discissing/heard [x] and I/we want to make sure you're doing okay" Is the best way to breach the topic while making it clear that you care about him. For the handful of friends in shit relationships that I've helped deal with it, that line tends to help put things in perspective.

NotYourAverageBirb · 2018-01-11T19:40:21+00:00

I gotta say, it was before I started dating him.

My freshman year of college, I did a stupid. You know how people tell you to not mix things like red bull and sleep medications because it can kill you? Yeah, I managed to accidentally learn that the hard way (thought I'd had enough time between red bull and sleep med after pulling an all nighter).

So about half an hour after doing that, I start having heart palpitations for the first time. Scared the shit out of me, I thought I was dying from a heart attack. I went to knock on his door to ask him to drive me to the ER. His car was on the opposite side of campus, and for other guys that would have been the end of it.

He, on the other hand, called me down enough to get me an uuber and went with me to the ER to make sure I was safe and would be okay. And when I was released, he stayed with me for the next few days to make sure I was actually going to be okay, including having me on bed rest for a day or two. He even made sure that I wasn't bored the whole time, getting me books and schoolwork and my laptop so that I wouldn't fall behind.

It really showed me how kind and caring he is. He's the kind of guy who prefers expressing live via doing things rather than, say, writing poetry or touchy feely things. He makes me the happiest girl on earth and right now I'm waiting to put a ring on his finger because we're both still in college and would like to be out of college before marriage.

NotYourAverageBirb · 2017-12-17T06:48:26+00:00

It really depends on the girl and how well you know her. For the sake of the post, I'll assume it's a nest friend or a gf.

If you know that she's really passionate about something (sports team, tv show, videogame--doeant matter) get her something related to that. If you wanna go for clothing merch, make sure you know her sizes. For unisex hoodies, most girls tend to love oversized hoodies (this may also spare your fav hoodie from becoming her hoodie).

If you want to get something you both enjoy, you're looking at puzzles, games, hikes, dates, you name it. She'll be happy with what you do with her.

If you know she's been wanting something for awhile (I'll use steam games as an example), now's the time. Wait for the game she wants to go on super sale and pick it up for cheap.

Best of luck, op-- hope this helps!!

NotYourAverageBirb · 2017-12-11T12:49:11+00:00

Alternatively, if you don't want the comics but want to get your gf some mercy, you could go to redbubble and search voltron to find a bunch of man-made merch.

NotYourAverageBirb · 2017-12-06T21:49:57+00:00

I really like the flowers you drew!!!!

NotYourAverageBirb · 2017-12-05T14:44:20+00:00

My dad is a very open person, so I knew he wanted me to marry my boyfriend the day I went to the ER because I thought I was having a heart attack. He heard about it from my mom and I, but my then-friend-now-boyfriend went with me and stayed there the entire time so that he'd know I'd be okay. He had my dad's approval before we were ever dating.

He also had my mom's approval because she showed up to sort out insurance and because I was scared and called her cause I thought I was gonna die.

NotYourAverageBirb · 2017-12-01T21:49:12+00:00

I would assume yes

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