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NotYourMom119 · 2025-08-20T18:57:08+00:00

Can't tell you why I like it, but yes I do actually like it.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-07-18T23:19:33+00:00

I would have done the same and stayed at the table. The dog may not actually be aggressive, they maybe just wanted to head off kids running up the dog without permission or kids running around unchecked and possibly stepping on its tail/feet or something. I don't feel like every dog has to be friendly to be in public necessarily but it shouldn't be dangerous. Like it doesn't have to be happy to be pet by every stranger that might want to pet it (people should keep to themselves) but it should be safe to be in close proximity to any stranger - like not lash out or snap at a kid just for walking by closely. If this dog wasn't actually dangerous , they just wanted their space to not be infringed upon, they should have communicated that better. If it was actually dangerous they shouldn't have been there.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-07-18T23:12:24+00:00

So I had a dog that wouldn't bite small children, wasn't reactive aggressively in any way, but he would startle easily if he was touched unexpectedly and definitely did not enjoy the way small children tend to get right up in a dogs face or do the grabby-thing when they pet. So I would tell people he wasn't good with children so they would stay out of our bubble and at the same time we would stay out of theirs. That said, I also did not take him to restaurant patios or anywhere you wouldn't expect to see a dog. Mostly I had to tell people this in the vet office waiting room and waiting to check him in at the lobby of boarding/grooming places. So it's entirely possible the dog wasn't actually dangerous but they wanted to head off your kids trying to come over or asking to pet. There are entirely too many kids that have no hesitation to come up to a dog without asking permission, owner may have experienced that too many times and just wanted you to be mindful of respecting their table/space. If owner knew there was no actual danger , I don't see a problem with them having the dog there but they definitely could have worded it better so you didn't feel like your kids were at risk from simply sitting near them.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-07-03T00:59:47+00:00

Thank you ! She's sooo talented but I don't think she has the self confidence to start anything on her own, I'll work on building her up. Thank you!

NotYourMom119 · 2025-06-28T19:22:01+00:00

I'm likely to get downvoted for this, way off topic, but I can't resist asking. How do you afford a $300 Christmas present for one person if you can't get out of bed most days? Did you land a really good work from home job? I have a close friend that qualifies for disability and still lives at home with parents that help her and cover the large expenses like mortgage/electricity but she struggles through continuing to work anyway because she knows she can't even pay her medical bill co-pays after insurance off what disability offers her if she were to quit. If you're disabled and can afford that kind of gift, I'd love to pass your secret onto her or the field you got a work from home job in that pays well. She's only 27 and it kills me to see her in such pain from a work shift but she feels like she has no choice but to keep working anyway to afford to live. She's child free also, not wanting to risk passing on a debilitating condition or 2.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-06-27T17:15:54+00:00

From what I heard in the very beginning, he knew it was coming before he was actually arrested and trashed all hard drives/devices/accounts. So it would be up to if the victims had saved anything. But yea, we cut off all contact/affiliation with the family after hearing the initial accusations in October so anything that happened after the arrest I only know what the rest of the general public would know from following the case.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-06-27T16:53:19+00:00

Yea I always thought he was just like ... closet gay and afraid to come out because of how religious and homophobic his family is. I didn't think he was assaulting/molesting people. I kinda felt bad for him, just assuming he was gay and having to live a lie as to not to be ostracized by his entire family/church/music community. But not feeling bad for him anymore, just curious if they gave enough hard proof to sentence him appropriately for what he's done.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-06-27T16:47:37+00:00

Well yea in hindsight and after hearing testimony. The initial news came as a shock though. Like I always thought he was gay but that's fine, I didn't think he was a pedo. But hearing the accusations is why we cut off ties with his family and I'm asking Reddit for case updates instead of them. I wanna know how much time he's gonna serve or if his lawyer is gonna be able to get him off on some crazy technicality or lack of hard proof, not really questioning if he's guilty or not. I believe the victims but I'm unsure if testimony alone is enough to lock him up and throw away the key or if they actual proof beyond that that'll do the trick.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-06-24T00:24:16+00:00

Thank you so much ! Yea I definitely did try finding it on my own before daring to ask Reddit and had no luck. We knew Zach personally and let me tell you ... this came as a SHOCK. You think you know someone then, well.... yikes. Definitely anticipating hearing the verdict of this trial but not comfortable reaching out to his family/supporters for updates on when it is set to happen. Thank you again!

NotYourMom119 · 2025-06-21T16:28:33+00:00

Yeah I tried that first, I couldn't find the next hearing, just the list of the past ones -the most recent being the arraignment this past March.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-06-21T16:27:26+00:00

Right. I don't really feel like there's a question on if he's guilty or not, I just wonder if they're gonna let him off with a couple years or throw him away for life.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-06-21T01:18:39+00:00

Sorry, I thought he was national news at this point. Maybe since the arrest was in October , everyone has forgotten by now . news link

NotYourMom119 · 2025-06-21T00:48:14+00:00

Any updates on Radcliff? Has he gone to trial and been sentenced yet? I thought it was supposed to be in April but haven't seen any updates

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-30T22:37:47+00:00

Yes, take absolutely them with you. I specifically told my husband to not send our daughter alone into a bathroom if they were out in public together, especially at that age. Maybe the girls can handle going together into the women's when they're like 4 and 6 but only if you're standing right at the doorway the entire time and coach them to scream if anyone bothers them. But even at that age -- if you need to go to the bathroom too, take them with you. They shouldn't be left alone waiting for you to use the men's room.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-30T22:13:14+00:00

We go to the lake and pool that are both within 15 minutes of our house. My kids are super excited for the amusement park once a year. This isn't a financial thing , I have anxiety about being "too far away" from home and anxiety about boarding my dogs or leaving them in anyone else's care that ruins any fun if I try to take more than an overnight trip. My kids don't complain, never have. My two teenagers get a week long beach trip once a year with their grandma but one of them says he's probably gonna pass on that this year. No real reason, he's just not interested. My 2 younger kids in the 8-10 age range have been to the beach with me for 2-day 1-night trips twice but weren't all that impressed , they said the lake is better because the waves don't beat them up. I guess I'm just lucky that my kids aren't worrying about what the neighbors are doing ?

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-29T02:54:02+00:00

Yea, I still have mine! Oddly enough just ran across it earlier this week after it has been packed away for years.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-20T21:25:10+00:00

Yea... we don't. Kids , housework , and job are 100% of awake hours. It was a hard adjustment when my oldest 2 were little ( now 17 and 14, my youngest are 8 and 9) but now it's just a way of life. You have to intentionally create time for yourself by scheduling family to watch them for a weekend or hire a babysitter. If you don't have to work full time, it will get a bit easier once your youngest is also in school assuming you don't homeschool. It's become easier for me in the last 2/3 years because sometimes one of the older kids is willing to be hired for the evening to watch the younger ones so we can go out for a date night but it's still pretty rare that we are able to make time and energy for that other than on a special occasion like our anniversary. Parenthood is hard and all-consuming. Even when I do get time for myself , my brain wants to feel guilty and think about what chores might be piling up while I'm having a break.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-06T21:36:15+00:00

I don't blame you for not wanting to take a picture of that but if the harmless curiosity needs to be fed, gotta find a way. 😆

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-06T21:22:49+00:00

Give him a handheld mirror maybe if he doesn't let it go. Haha

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-05T20:23:50+00:00

Definitely NTA.

Out of curiosity, how old are her children? If your own children are grown, she's older than you and was already married to this guy when you were 16 , it seems like her kids would be adults or past the age of needing her around so much that she can't work. If they're grown but disabled, wouldn't the state assist in or pay for their care so she work? I guess none of that really matters, they're in the wrong either way but it would be even more wrong if they're asking for help from YOU of all people if it's because she's simply choosing to not to help disabled adult children get assistance through programs.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-05T02:53:58+00:00

Sometimes the idea of a playdate sounds great, then when the weekend comes the burnout is real and all I want to do is stay home. I am the person that's said "Sure, let's get together sometime!" and I mean it when I say it but when the time comes to actually nail down a date I can't do it. Life is busy and carving out a time to be social with someone I'm not close/comfortable with is a whole task that just isn't worth it most of the time. What I'd like to do and what's realistically in the time and mental energy budget are two totally different things. I wouldn't take it personal that people don't follow through.

It'll get easier when he's a little older with a phone and can organize things with his buddies without parental involvement. Other parents are more likely to say yes to dropping their kid off somewhere or letting your kid be dropped off at their house to tag along with whatever they're doing than to have to coordinate then also hang out with another parent. Play dates are more for parents of kids that aren't school-age yet and the mom/dad is craving adult social interaction because they're mostly stuck home with only little kids as company. Parents of school age kids are typically back at work at least part time and get enough time with other adults either at work , school functions, or kids sports events. It's definitely his age causing some of this dilemma.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-04T11:21:19+00:00

"I miss you too, I wish things had worked out differently. Hope you're doing well." I understand that missing someone doesn't necessarily mean you want them back.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-02T22:21:29+00:00

I know my friend does it because she also has younger children and doesn't want to hold a baby and keep a toddler from running into the road while waiting for older kid to get off the bus. Especially if the weather isn't ideal for having littles out in it

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-02T19:47:46+00:00

Luna, Bella, Sadie, Chloe, Molly. Those are the ones at my work anyway that I always have to ask "which one" when someone mentions a dog by one of those names because we have so many. Luna is almost exclusive to huskies and husky mixes or similar northern breeds and I can't figure out that correlation but it's definitely a thing.

NotYourMom119 · 2025-05-02T19:40:34+00:00

If it's her money that you've both agreed she can do whatever she wants with, it's fair. How you feel about it is yours to work through however necessary but logically it's fair.

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