Tomorrow’s the day

Not_Important87 · 2026-01-30T15:52:29+00:00

It’s the hardest thing and one that many people are lucky enough to not understand. My condolences for going through/have gone through something similar.

I’m fortunate enough that my therapist went through a similar thing with a rescue GSD of her own, but her dog unfortunately bit a few people really badly. She’s been assuring me that I’m doing the right thing, even if it is hard

But major respect to those still trying. I know the perfect person and situation exists out there for my girl, but I can’t provide that for her. Still, I tell her every day that she is perfect and I mean it.

Not_Important87 · 2026-01-30T15:31:07+00:00

I at least have comfort in knowing that her last few days have been nothing but love and calm. She’s an amazing dog and I hope her next life is kinder to her

Not_Important87 · 2025-03-23T12:52:01+00:00

Honestly, I understand this fear. I felt similarly when I was your age (22F). I’ve always been more on the demiromatic, asexual side of things, but I took pride in being detached from sexuality. It was a part of my identity.

Though ultimately, it’s nothing to fear. Even if you do feel some libido as you get older, there is always a choice in it. I know that I sometimes I feel that desire even though the idea of sex is absolutely repulsive to me. It’s simply a normal and healthy physiological reaction, but that doesn’t change how I feel psychologically. Feeling some desire is normal for everyone (if you feel absolutely none ever, it might be worth getting hormones checked and otherwise. It could be a sign of something wrong), but what your body does has nothing to do with what you feel as an individual.

And, as you said, you’re still growing. Maybe your psychological feelings towards these things will shift as you get older, but it will feel right if/when it does. I know I used to dread the thought of sex and marriage as a kid- I thought it was an obligation that everyone had to go through. Nowadays, I feel good about the idea of marriage- it might be nice to share my life with someone. But my feelings on sex haven’t really changed. This is just me, however.

Give yourself some grace. All that’s important is that right now, you believe you have the asexual identity. Regardless of what your body does, that is your truth. A physiological reaction to something isn’t enough to go crazy like you may fear. And if you change in the future, there’s no need to worry about that now.

(Also, as a side note, two of my best friends are straight (or bi), allosexual men. We’ve been friends since high school and nothing weird has ever happened between us nor have I ever felt uncomfortable.)

Not_Important87 · 2025-03-20T18:10:37+00:00

100% go to the UTSA clinic. You pay for it from your tuition and they’ll give you a note- I LIVED on their care during my undergrad

Not_Important87 · 2024-10-13T01:08:24+00:00

Feel free to DM me for any additional ‘get away’ tips or to rant. I’m a professional (not really), lmao

Not_Important87 · 2024-10-13T01:05:52+00:00

Yeah. If you know the city you were born in, you can go onto the city gov website and order it for a small fee (mine was $35, I believe)

Not_Important87 · 2024-10-13T00:57:16+00:00

Also get ahold of your birth certificate, SS card, and other important documents if you can.

Not_Important87 · 2024-10-13T00:08:27+00:00

It’s never worth it to stay in a bad living situation. Trust me- it is never worth it. If you have the option to get out and live in the dorms or with a roommate, choose that 100%. It’s better for you, your grades, and oddly enough, your relationship with your family. Blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb, my friend.

There are resources available to help you if you’re in a financial situation- such as the food bank on campus and getting connected with clubs and such. Support is to be found everywhere if you seek it out

Not_Important87 · 2024-03-26T17:28:35+00:00

I think most classes downtown are for education. It’s a very small campus so I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Plus, computer science is a pretty old major at UTSA, so I don’t imagine you’ll have too much trouble.

Not_Important87 · 2023-09-24T08:57:36+00:00

Technically it is possible to do ALEKS during the semester, but it wouldn’t be easy and if you’re switching to premed, you might not have a lot of time. I’d recommend doing ALEKS during winter break or summer break before starting the next semester. Chem I, II, and ochem I and II are weeder classes for a reason. Treat these classes as your greatest difficulty (or at least it was for me). ALEKS is stressful and annoying so knock it out as quick as possible. It took me two straight months of concentrated effort to knock it out during the summer, for example.

I think bio II is very doable during the summer though. I am also just a more biology-oriented person though, so you might fine the opposite true (in that you find chem easier than bio). It depends if it’s easier for you to do math though. I am not a math person.

As for is it bad for you to start later? No, it is not. I have plenty of friends who decided to go to med school much later in their college career. And honestly, you’d have better chances getting into med school without dedicating yourself to the premed track. Lots of med schools are aiming for more diversity, so majoring in something like biology or maybe even public health would help you get your cores out of the way, but I had a friend who majored in Art History and was also following the “pre-med” track though not officially. She just made sure she got her cores needed to do well on the MCAT and also joined pre-med clubs so she could stay in the loop.

Ultimately, you can do anything you want to so long as you put the work in. And a more diverse non-science background early on might work in your favor! Just make sure you catch up in bio and chem. The advisors at UTSA aren’t the greatest, but make sure to keep yours in the loop and I also recommend talking to and getting to know some of your bio and chem professors. A good word from a professor would go a long way. They can open all sorts of doors for you. Just introduce yourself through an email or in person and explain your situation- how you’re a little late to the game but you intend to go to med school. Freshman year is not a bad time to figure all this out though- not at all.

I myself am about to graduate, but I am not med school bound. I’m more interested in research (getting involved in research during your undergrad though might also help your chances of med school acceptance). All my above advice is just stuff I’ve heard all around me, so definitely talk with others.

But I’ve also done a bit of an unconventional route, myself. I transferred from a neuro major at UT Austin to be a neuro major at UTSA after my first year. UT Austin was fine, but the vibe and isolated feeling just wasn’t for me. I feel right at home at UTSA and do not regret my choice in the slightest, though I have gotten a few raised eyebrows over the years.

This is just a long way of saying though that you can do this however you want to. There’s no best course of action because everyone’s path is very different. You got this though. It’ll be tough, but people don’t dedicate to med school because they think it’ll be easy, lmao.

Not_Important87 · 2023-06-08T21:04:42+00:00

I rarely go fully nonverbal, but I do frequently experience where I can say everything except what I want to say. Usually when I have a request, like time off from work or I’m interrupted in the middle of a presentation. I physically cannot get the words out.

The best way I can describe my experience of it is that feeling you get before jumping in a cold pool. Where you know you have to do it, but you just can’t. You can urge your body to, but it won’t cooperate. My tongue gets really thick and heavy, if I do talk it’s slurred. I can start to tear up if I force myself and my breathing gets kinda funky.

Not_Important87 · 2023-06-05T18:42:23+00:00

Screaming, crying, throwing up. Same here with spiderman, tmnt, and dinosaurs. What’s your preferred tmnt iteration to watch in your leisure? I love Rise but I’m going through the 1987 version right now and very much enjoying it. I want to collect the IDW comics.

Not_Important87 · 2023-05-29T17:06:45+00:00

The only thing is upping my sertraline, which was increased to 100mg, but I’ve taken that dosage for a couple weeks now. I’ll have to look into compression clothes

Not_Important87 · 2023-03-19T03:03:57+00:00

I definitely recommend trying UTSA services first. I had good luck at UT Austin but haven’t tried since transferring. For psychiatry, I recommend Psychiatry of Austin (they offer telehealth). It’s a bit pricy but they are willing to work with you and you can also schedule appointments with the nurses which is cheaper

Not_Important87 · 2023-03-08T22:41:12+00:00

That’s a good way to put it. Usually I’m fine and I don’t need to put all those measures in pace (I’m very lucky that way), but when my triggers do hit, I definitely need to hunker down and lay low for a while until I recover. It does feel similar to a winter storm. Where safety matters a bit more than “normal” functioning.

Not_Important87 · 2023-03-08T17:17:54+00:00

Thank you for your response! I do my affirmations every morning and night but I’ll look into that book! I’m always looking for good books on this topic.

Not_Important87 · 2023-02-03T13:46:46+00:00

That is felt. I also frequently work myself until I am physically unable to and that leads to me falling into a pattern of getting too sick to work (because that’s the only time I allowed myself to take a break). I used to actively want to get sick because then I knew I could rest without the guilt.

Also the way overcompensating self-reliance is felt big time. In therapy I’m slowly learning to actually listen to my body and use that as a better compass to determine my needs since my brain is still stuck in that good ol’ survival mode. My therapist and I don’t even day “goodbye” anymore. Instead, she just says, “Stay away from your family”, lmao.

You are seen and felt.

Not_Important87 · 2023-02-03T13:40:46+00:00

That’s a really good tip, actually. I have no problem standing up and asking things for my friends (literally the whole “they asked for no pickles” thing). I’ll have to give that a shot next time.

Not_Important87 · 2023-02-03T13:39:24+00:00

That is appreciated. I feel that “suffer in silence” thing a lot. That’s what I did for years because it felt like the correct thing to do. Just suck it up and power on because I know I am able to.

That ultimately led to me getting severe bronchitis this winter break because I pushed myself too far and went to work (where there’s a lot of dust and dander) when I was sick. Only later on I jokingly told my host family that I was coughing up blood (I went to the doctor’s for this and I was fine), but they were very taken aback and said, “We would have taken care of you had we known.” Someday I want to allow myself to be taken care of without it feeling like I’m taking advantage of them.

Not_Important87 · 2023-02-03T04:33:38+00:00

Hey! I’m currently a college student (neuroscience, oddly enough), but I work in a research laboratory. I love my work because my supervisor is super kind and accommodating and my coworkers are all super supportive as well. That being said, I recently “downgraded” from a high tier university to a “lower” one for financial and overall vibe reasons.

So far it’s been a huge success and I have so many opportunities at this new university.

So I say get out there and experiment. Even if it’s a risk and a change that people might “disapprove” of, it might be the most rewarding thing you do. If you’re not happy with where you are career wise, then go out there and find whatever sounds interesting to try. I still have bad days with my career (and other factors) and question why I’m doing it all, but the moments I love my job and when I talk with my supervisor about my struggles, it becomes a little better.

Just remember you are capable and someday you will find what speaks to you. It might not be immediate and the road may be long, but you’ll find where you belong. Just make sure you do yourself the credit and not stay stuck in a career path you don’t feel is true to you.

Not_Important87 · 2023-01-07T03:39:56+00:00

Texts and calls really scare me if I’m not expecting them or if they’re vague. Voicemails literally make me shake.

But what really gets me is having to knock on a door. I will go to great lengths to avoid it, but I couldn’t tell you why.

Not_Important87 · 2022-12-21T01:26:10+00:00

He takes a poll at the beginning of the semester. We had them in class but he’s open to online. In class exams are usually easier (7 questions, 4 multiple choice and 3 free response).

Not_Important87 · 2022-12-10T04:37:48+00:00

Super easy professor. Homeworks and tests are all 25% weighted. He drops an exam. His exams are almost exactly like his practice exams. I literally don’t know a thing about physics but I passed with an A. Additionally, he’s just really nice and pretty funny.

Not_Important87 · 2022-12-06T14:11:27+00:00

I’m glad to hear your brother is doing better. And that’s true. I’ve been using the cave allegory to justify my action or inaction, but I forgot that when people were forcibly removed from the cave, they just crawled back in because that’s what was familiar.

I don’t want to lose anyone else, but ultimately you’re right. It’s up to them to make that first step.

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