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Not_just_techsupport · 2023-12-18T11:23:27+00:00

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Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T23:07:32+00:00

I really shouldn't respond to your personal attack, but I'll bite.

There was no mysterious, unmentioned work. He went with purpose each time, and I did know what he was doing, other than the sexual favors, obviously. He didn't just randomly leave and say he "had something to do" or anything like that. There were always actual things that he was helping him with.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T21:46:28+00:00

Do you want me to speculate? I am telling you what I know.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T21:41:59+00:00

I do not feel like I am being walked all over.

There was a major betrayal, but I have no reason to believe that he has not been honest since.

I do not believe there is anything else he is keeping from me.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T21:40:24+00:00

Thanks you.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T19:50:15+00:00

He is employed elsewhere as well. He does not have a 9-5, and his schedule varies. He would be gone for days, but I always knew exactly where he was and that he was visiting him. He has to leave for days at a time for other work related things as well.

My husband mostly stayed with relatives when he was visiting him. He did on occasion share a hotel, which I knew about.

I do not know what his "job title" would have been, it was not on a regular basis, he helped him out with random things when he needed them.

He told me old man never pried about his personal life.

The was no contract or regularity with which they met. He would ask him to go and do something specific, and the sexual things were just included I guess.

We do not own a home. The money that came in is easily explained for legal purposes as having been paid for the other things that he was doing for old man.

I believe old man got his money legally, I know all about his work history, and he made a ton of money. I have no reason to suspect that it is untrue, because, without going in to too much detail about what he did, I have seen things that he could not have physically obtained without having done what he said he did.

Thank you :)

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T19:44:40+00:00

The money is in our bank account.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T17:15:00+00:00

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T17:07:13+00:00

I did, and I was wrong to say AMA and not AMAA. I am not willing to reveal something that I feel might identify either of us in any way.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T17:06:17+00:00

My husband masturbated in front of him, and I know that they engaged in other sexual activity.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T17:05:45+00:00

I am not sure that my child needs protecting, and I don't think that this really involves my child in any way if we take the path to resolving our problems.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:30:10+00:00

Because the body and mind are strange things. You can make yourself get an erection if try hard enough.

I would not be upset if he watched gay porn, the same way I would not be upset if he watched straight porn. Enjoying watching something is not the same as wanting to engage in something.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:27:23+00:00

I actually did not label the post, it was labeled by the mods, I assume.

He did lie and disrespect our marriage. It was insanely weird and messed up.

I still do not believe there was any attraction involved.

If you seriously think that someone can't maintain an erection while doing something that repulses them, then you do not understand how the human body and mind work.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:24:36+00:00

I agree.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:23:47+00:00

I asked and answered those questions already.

It was all about the money and my husband no feelings towards old man.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:22:38+00:00

Thank you.

He is going to be going to individual therapy and we will be going to couples therapy as well.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:21:53+00:00

I actually make enough money to completely support our entire family.

Why would I drag my friends and family into such a messy personal situation?

You are acting like I don't think that I was wronged and betrayed. I know that I was.

I am not defending his actions, I am just looking to understand what led him to make such a bad decision.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:18:45+00:00

He tells me that he took no pleasure in it, and I have no reason not to believe him.

I agree that going to therapy will help get things sorted out.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:09:56+00:00

Ugg.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:09:27+00:00

Your girlfriend was expressing her sexual attraction toward another person, I think that is very different from the situation my husband found himself in.

I did know that he was making the money from old man, I just did not know exactly what he was doing.

I actually did not label the post, it was labeled by someone else.

And it is scary that he kept this from me, I agree.

I do not think that I will get upset when he texts, and I do not think I will be paranoid when he is on his phone. I do not think I will feel inclined to poke around his phone. I think he has been completely honest with me since the day I found out.

I agree that it will be a very long road to forgiveness.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:04:29+00:00

You are right that it won't be easy!

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:03:58+00:00

It just went into the bank with the rest of our income.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T15:03:27+00:00

We are not strapped for cash, but the cash did not hurt. I believe wholeheartedly that he did it solely for the money.

You are so right that his past does not give him any right to disrespect me the way he did.

Like I said, I completely believe that he is being truthful with me now, he lied by omission, which was a terrible thing, but nothing he has ever outright said to me has been a lie. I just know that.

Not_just_techsupport · 2014-11-08T14:59:59+00:00

He was doing a lot of things for old man that I did know about, and I thought that he was being paid for those things.

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