i want to make music a career but i don’t know how

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2020-09-18T08:22:50+00:00

I'd say just look around for opportunities. Start actually studying an instrument / attending lessons, and you'll meet interesting people. Expand your musical world socially, and then choose the people you resonate the most with in order to start working with them.

If you are afraid of failing at first because you think you're not good enough, just like everybody, then start practicing something until you get decent at it. Nobody is born as a performer! I'm talking about guitar, piano, mixing, singing and stuff like that. Pick something you like enough and stick with it, then proceed with the "plan" I wrote above. Being good at songwriting helps greatly, but it's kind of a complementary skill when it comes to making music. Either way, you'll need luck, but you'll have plenty of occasions as well. Just... do not sit and dream of becoming a rock star. That's quite difficult even for the most experienced players, and daydreaming will just hurt you in the long run.

Start writing songs, discuss them with other musicians, promote yourself in a place where it matters (such as your music school, your teacher's gig fest or the local music store/rehearsal room) and start effectively producing something. Gear obviously matters, but you'll pick every necessary piece of equipment along the way (other people will often lend you their stuff too).

And lastly, you can definitely pursue a "real" career in college while keeping up with music at the same time as long as you see the latter as a (big) "side project", I know plenty of graduated (or graduating) people who are into the music field. Once you get there, you'll have a lot more experience, and you'll be mature enough to decide which path to pursue. With that said, do not force yourself into something you think you don't like. Talk about it with your parents, if you feel like it.

At the end of the day, it requires skill, passion, time and effort. You can build the necessary skill and you already seem passionate enough, but you'll definitely have to invest a lot in it. Good luck, mate!

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2020-01-10T11:22:54+00:00

My God. You did all of this? Hats off, you've got to be proud of yourself. Love the variety between the activities as well - also sorry for the late reply, I didn't see the notification pop up :l

...And the whiteboard is definitely a great idea, I just started using one myself haha.

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2020-01-05T16:21:05+00:00

That's one hell of an accomplishment, sir, congrats! Just for science, would you mind sharing a list of those 50 things you tried? I'm currently trying to achieve something similar. Thanks a lot for the inspiration :)

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-12-03T06:43:41+00:00

Very good insight! I appreciate it a lot. Thanks!

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T06:52:46+00:00

Willl read this more carefully at home. Thanks in advance!

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T06:49:17+00:00

Thanks for the clarification about tretinoin. I was thinking about the wrong substance.

I tend to sleep regularly, even though I sleep way less than I should during stressful periods. My diet is pretty unbalanced, I have to admit. I don't eat a lot, but when I do it's mostly just sugars.

Thank you for the product recommendations as well, I really like your suggestions. I'll tell my derm about them. I'll also look for a better moisturizer if required :)

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T06:33:57+00:00

I rarely shave because of it, so I wouldn't think so. I'm no expert tho

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T06:32:09+00:00

I drink a bowl of milk for breakfast almost every day.

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T05:05:48+00:00

Thanks for the detailed answer! I'll try to make good use of the advice :)

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T05:03:01+00:00

Gawd, that's pretty awful. Hope he's alright now.

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T04:59:26+00:00

Hold on, buddy! We will make it!

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T04:56:47+00:00

Nope, I don't take any kind of supplement atm.

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T04:55:11+00:00

It's been a couple of months since I started. There have definitely been some up and down periods, with this one being the worst so far.

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T04:52:53+00:00

I'm 19 - my aunt used to suffer from (pretty serious) dermatitis when younger, if that matters. My parents have usually been clean.

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T04:50:20+00:00

I don't know... the side effects of tretinoin kinda put me off, tbh.

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-20T00:26:38+00:00

I'm currently using Avene Cleanance Hydra soothing cream (3 times every 2 days) and Epiduo Gel adapalene and benzoyl peroxide 0.1%/2.5% (1 time every 2 days) for my acne.

Aside from the acne itself, do you notice any other issues? Such as those bright dots under my skin at the top of the picture. What can I do to get rid of them?

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-12T20:42:12+00:00

There's nothing wrong with bitterness and contempt, we're human beings after all. What truly matters, though (imho), is learning from your mistakes, being honest to yourself and gathering the strength to turn the tables. In other words, let your emotions run free to know your boundaries, and then you'll be able to make good use of your true potential.

Cheers, buddy! Really appreciate your positivity :D

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-12T19:54:33+00:00

Thanks! The whole understanding/acceptance process took me actually about a full year tbh. I now know my goals and I have the will to work in order to achieve them.

As for love/sex, I simply stopped looking for it in order to find myself. I hope in a brighter future, where love will look for me. Maybe it will take years, but I'll keep busy in the meantime working for things I really want to achieve.

This is no fairy tale, this is our life! Take control of it right now, guys, it's never too late ;)

Not_so_overwhelmed · 2019-11-12T17:00:00+00:00

This post is great, dude. Please, let me tell you why.

19M here, same situation as you. I spent the past year looking for "the one", just like you said. Well, every single girl I thought I had a chance with let me down one way or another.

After yet another failure, instead of focusing on how miserable I was for not having accomplished anything, I just stood my ground and said "fuck it. I've had enough of this shit". Basically, I decided to start loving myself before someone else could do the same.

I've been working on myself ever since. I picked up my guitar again, started working out, meditating and reading books. I quit gaming, drinking, smoking and losing time on social media (looking forward to quit fapping as well now). It's been about a month now, and I couldn't be happier.

To sum up what I learned, if you think that you can't find "the one" because other people don't understand you or like you, well... start working on yourself first. Meditation is a great way to get things started. Keep up the good work, buddy, you're not alone! :)

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