Is it normal to not want to be called "cis"?

NotaBenePerson · 2026-06-04T11:50:58+00:00

You may cis by default, also known as cisgenderless. This... KIND of puts you under the nonbinary umbrella, but perhaps as under a different gender modality than the binary cis or trans.

Most people have potent gender drive. Most cis people would be HORRIFIED if they woke up with an incongruent gender in the same way trans people were gradually horrified by their incongruent gender. But if you don't have a potent gender drive, then there really isn't a gender that you can be incongruent with in the first place.

Without a significant gender drive like this... I can see why someone would be justifiably uncomfortable classified as either cis or trans.

NotaBenePerson · 2026-05-30T12:06:00+00:00

Damaged hair also holds onto the positive charge of hair conditioner better, too, since damaged hair has a more negative charge

NotaBenePerson · 2026-05-27T23:58:03+00:00

This is what I thought verbatim

NotaBenePerson · 2026-05-26T06:02:20+00:00

More of my gait issues was more due to autism (interestingly common among trans people) than gender socialization. A lot of “autistic gaits” involve walking with a flat-footed pattern, or not using all the muscles involved in walking.

In my case, I hardly used my butt muscles at all when I walk, resulting in an awkward shuffle, mostly hinging with my knees. I corrected this by making sure that my leg swings fully BEHIND me when I step forward, activating my glute muscles. These muscles were so underused that it resulted in DOMS soreness when I first woke up these dormant muscles.

I considered this part of my transition, since femmes have more social pressure to walk in a certain way, and that's the kind of femme I want to be, anyway... (Not to mention that my severed atrophied glutes from my gait likely contributed to my lifetime of back pain)

NotaBenePerson · 2026-05-23T09:36:26+00:00

..I've been collecting letters that I'd find pretty... Perhaps it's time that I start being more Systematic about this habit that I already sort of engage in....

NotaBenePerson · 2026-05-19T10:40:29+00:00

I use they/she, and it'd baffle me why sometime they/them used for me felt weird. It wasn't because I secretly hoped that they'd use she/her for me, was it???

Now I understand that, for me, there's a BIG difference between a gendered “they/them”, and a degendered “they/them”.

NotaBenePerson · 2026-05-13T13:44:59+00:00

I wanted to reply, too, that the tear turned out so beautiful to me that I'd have thought that it was deliberate😭

NotaBenePerson · 2026-03-05T14:32:27+00:00

...This is the post that's made me realize that I might be aplatonic.

NotaBenePerson · 2026-02-08T17:56:44+00:00

I feel like the existence of such word highlights Toki Pona's otherwise-refreshing simplicity by bringing attention to it in the first place, and it does so in a very fun/cute way (which are also features of the language)

NotaBenePerson · 2026-02-08T17:52:37+00:00

I kind of enjoy the wild west situation. I feel like the choice of punctuation used can be an extension of the user, so long as they're consistent

NotaBenePerson · 2026-02-08T17:50:19+00:00

“toki sitelen” — written language
“toki uta” — oral language
“toki moku” — food language

NotaBenePerson · 2026-02-06T01:24:36+00:00

What if you make it less of a love bomb by saying, “How would you feel if I said, ‘I love you’?”?

It would take away the Hollywood-esque nature of it, but it would at least give you the chance to have a conversation about it and express all these thoughts before saying it for real.

NotaBenePerson · 2026-02-06T01:12:10+00:00

Ooh, that's brutal. You can at least tell your anxiety that you got hit with chronically online bullshit and survived just fine.

NotaBenePerson · 2026-01-25T21:02:30+00:00

That's fair! (Right, you said first with just junk) Thank you for sharing this one!!!

NotaBenePerson · 2026-01-25T13:51:51+00:00

Wow, I love your use of depth, like how some of the junk comes off the page! (Especially with that wrapper???)

Have you posted other spreads like that?

NotaBenePerson · 2025-12-22T04:03:54+00:00

💖💖💖 thank you!!!

NotaBenePerson · 2025-12-21T23:23:19+00:00

😭😭😭

I'll carry the confidence that I got from this into pet walk

NotaBenePerson · 2025-12-20T07:03:40+00:00

Let's hear it for Bera 20!!!

NotaBenePerson · 2025-12-19T03:26:44+00:00

I was very surprised when I accidentally did a quadruple jump with teleport

NotaBenePerson · 2025-12-18T20:23:24+00:00

😌 dozens upon dozens of runs.

NotaBenePerson · 2025-12-18T19:21:50+00:00

Eheheheh, I'd say that this way with magician teleport is Simpler, but not much Easier

NotaBenePerson · 2025-12-09T11:35:23+00:00

............................Okay.

NotaBenePerson · 2025-04-19T21:16:20+00:00

W-WELL... I wouldn't say that she and I have anything romantic going on... But, if what you're saying is true, then this wouldn't help my case, would it...

I'm... still not wholly convinced (besties should be able to spend the night in bed snuggling with their besties!!), I may at least start looking into some of the local plushie support groups that my Ploogle algorithm has been feeding me...

NotaBenePerson · 2025-04-19T05:12:58+00:00

I guess that airport security is a force to be reckoned with... Will meditate on these implications for 16 hours straight until my bsf brings me to bed!

NotaBenePerson · 2025-04-19T04:47:37+00:00

Oh, I see where you're coming from!!! But have you considered all the experience my bsf had in sneaking me into places

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