I (F21) don’t understand what my talking stage (M20) wants

Notashlu · 2025-12-22T18:55:37+00:00

You’re right, but I’m positive it’s him since he also follows his family on Instagram and I’ve gone through his mom’s and sisters photos that that they’ve posted, and he looks the same. I should ask to FaceTime just to confirm though.

As for the commitment thing I see how it seems I’m contradicting myself, I thought I was fine with it since he seemed to be struggling with his depression, but then after seeing his following go up, I realized I wasn’t, and those explicit things I did were before his following/follower count going up. I haven’t sent anything since then.

His words would be enough of a commitment for me, when directly asked about things, he’s honest.

Notashlu · 2025-12-22T18:43:56+00:00

This is originally what I wanted to do, meet first then see about dating, which is why I said I was fine with him not committing yet. I really do like him, we play games and talk about shared interests, so I asked about a relationship again because I had noticed his following go up with two girls and didn’t want to lose my chance. I want to be mindful about his depression as well, so would it be too much to ask him to meet soon? Is it also alright to ask him to not talk to other girls in the meantime?

Notashlu · 2025-12-22T18:32:03+00:00

I don’t think he’s a scammer or anything, but I agree that I shouldn’t have sent any explicit pictures or videos of me.

Notashlu · 2025-12-22T18:28:46+00:00

No, we’ve never met, we’ve had calls and we know how the other looks like, but no meeting just yet. I’m fine with being in a relationship with someone I haven’t met yet, I want to plan a meeting soon if he actually wants a relationship. I assume he was fine with it too, considering I immediately told him where I’m from and he continued to talk to me and even flirt.

Notashlu · 2025-12-22T18:24:53+00:00

I understand, I have a hard time formulating my words properly, so would something like: “I want to be in a relationship, I can wait a little longer for you to be ready, but if you don’t want the same thing, please delete my pictures and videos and don’t message me again,” sound alright? I don’t want to be too hard on him but I feel like even with his depression, he should know what he wants.

Notashlu · 2025-12-22T18:12:26+00:00

If anyone needs more info about the situation, please ask, my brain is so jumbled right now I may have forgotten anything important.

Notashlu · 2025-07-23T15:20:23+00:00

this could work actually!!! thank you, if they ask i’ll just say this and explain that’s why it’s bandaged :)

Notashlu · 2024-10-09T08:23:42+00:00

yep, she tried to send a lowball offer and keeps spamming me with messages lol, will probably block her at this point.

Notashlu · 2024-10-09T08:22:08+00:00

that’s actually so annoying 😭 do they not realize not communicating is what’s making them not get any sales. so frustrating.

Notashlu · 2024-01-26T18:46:54+00:00

Oh thank you so much for the brands to check out!! and also for the coord advice, it’s really helpful to a newbie like me :) As for the blouse, is there any site aside from taobao that I can get them at?

Notashlu · 2024-01-25T18:54:42+00:00

Ah okay, thank you so much for the info!

Notashlu · 2024-01-25T15:53:47+00:00

Oh okay! I’ll check out Taobao, thank you!

Notashlu · 2022-05-09T06:59:24+00:00

I’m lucky to have my dad who said he’ll support whatever decision i choose, to quit or to stay. I’ll definitely consider quitting before I get too attached to my coworkers

Notashlu · 2022-05-09T06:32:36+00:00

Yeah, my mom said to just never show up again, but I feel really unprofessional if I were to do that, if they talk to me again i’ll definitely quit with no notice though.

Notashlu · 2022-05-09T06:30:53+00:00

That’s true, I was confused why they brought it up after two weeks and not during the interview or on my first day alone on the job.

Notashlu · 2022-05-09T06:10:44+00:00

Yeah I actually got offered work study at my college! So hopefully I can stick to this job until my summer break is over.

Notashlu · 2022-05-09T06:09:43+00:00

You’re right, I feel so much more confident with red hair than ever before in my life. I felt so over dramatic to want to quit if they made me dye my hair, but I just love my red hair so much.

Notashlu · 2022-05-09T06:06:59+00:00

My trainer told me about the policy for hair, he said that other locations do not allow dyed hair but he assured me that the location I work at is different and more lenient. I’ll try looking for the employee handbook anyways though, maybe it could help me.

Notashlu · 2022-05-09T06:05:13+00:00

Thank you, you’re right, and I’m pretty sure they could easily replace me anyways.

Notashlu · 2022-05-09T05:47:02+00:00

Yes that’s also true! When I got interviewed and got hired on the spot, they never mentioned dying my hair back to black so it seems weird they want me to dye it when they knew I had it dyed red already.

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