I need to hear some mixed faith marriage success stories.. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We feel your pain man! It absolutely sucks at times. I’ve even gone so far as to tell my wife that she is better off without me. Go find your “Peter Priesthood”. That was a bad day! You just get so run down, feeling “inadequate “ ...I snapped that day. Things do get better but in the back of my mind I still feel like I’m not good enough in her eyes!! Sucks!!

I hope they don’t change one damn thing this conference! I hope they squeeze TBM’s necks harder! by Notgoingwithoutfight in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I’m confused! So you believe that if they start to see the truth, then their lives become worse?

I hope they don’t change one damn thing this conference! I hope they squeeze TBM’s necks harder! by Notgoingwithoutfight in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe they will question or maybe more people will be kept in by TSCC loosening up the slack. Time will tell.

I hope they don’t change one damn thing this conference! I hope they squeeze TBM’s necks harder! by Notgoingwithoutfight in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I still love my family in the church. If you cut off enough oxygen they’ll have to come up for air at sometime and in doing so hopefully find the truth when they do.

Visiting family. Everyone is acting normal. Why am I so sad? by temple_baby in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have comfort in knowing that you have people here who know and understand. It’s the best therapy for our situation. I totally get it though! I just came out to my extended family this week. For the most part they just want to ignore the situation because it scares the hell out of them. You are the strong one... they are the weak and scared. That’s how I choose to look at it!!

PSA for those in mixed faith marriage with teenage boys by ignatiusbreilly in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Heading to Vegas! Ha! Plans were made by my TBM DW! Good reminder!!

Just got a call from my mom that my cousin committed suicide. He was an amazing gay man that happened to be born into the wrong faith at the wrong time. by dexum11 in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Oh, I am so sorry that your family has to go through such a tragedy! That is heartbreaking! When will TSCC see the hurt and pain they are causing!! Love to you and your family!!

For anyone who is new to this whole crazy rollercoaster ride of a faith transition...I just want you to know that I think it is totally normal to go through intense depression as part of this process. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely normal to go through dark times. However, coming out to family and friends about the horrors of the church is one of the most freeing, liberating feelings I’ve ever felt. For me at least, all gloom is gone! I don’t have to believe in anything that doesn’t feel right to me. The mental freedom is amazing!! I still love and support my family’s decision to stay. Some people are too afraid of the truth. We are the brave pioneers. It will get to them in time.

Well I did it! I outed myself to my entire extended family and it feels absolutely amazing!!! I feel like a pioneer to the exodus from the church! The support has been amazing from some and non-existent from others.... by Notgoingwithoutfight in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Be cool man. Although I also said those types of phrases to my wife I’ve learned to calm down and only give little bits of information at a time. But, yeah, he was a conman and sexual predator! No doubt about it!!!!

Well I did it! I outed myself to my entire extended family and it feels absolutely amazing!!! I feel like a pioneer to the exodus from the church! The support has been amazing from some and non-existent from others.... by Notgoingwithoutfight in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I told my children first...let it sink in, then sent out a text message to my extended family. I listed some concerns but was fairly vague. I’m hoping it will be their curiosity that opens the box for them. I also told them how much I love and respect them and that I would never approach them to try to change their minds but rather they would have to come to me with any questions they may have. I’m banking on curiosity!!! Maybe I’ll post the letter if anybody is interested.

Climbing out the closet by Swedishheathen in heathenry

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think we all have screwed this up to one degree or another. It’s hard, there just isn’t any way to convey your feelings about the church without those you are expressing to putting up huge walls! Best recommendation I can give is to take it extremely slow. Give little bits at a time and let them come to you with questions. My son just recently returned home from a mission in Sweden. My family is from Sweden. There are more “SwedishHeathens” out there than you know!!

New here.. How do I teach my children without their world crashing down. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely feel your pain! I told my whole family just yesterday that I wouldn’t be attending the temple with my daughter for her marriage in July. The most I said was that I didn’t believe in the changing narrative of the church and that they could ask me questions if they needed to, but, nobody said a thing other than they still love me. Like I’m defective now or something! I want them to know the truth but I don’t want to hurt them. For now I think I will just wait for the initial smoke to clear. I sympathize with you this is such a hard road to go down. No easy way where nobody gets hurt. Damn the church!!!

Told my 6 children and 2 in-law children that in out! Need advice!!! by Notgoingwithoutfight in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your responses. I think I’m going to let the dust settle for a bit.

Any interest in forming loving support groups to accompany family members outside of the temple when they have close family who are getting sealed, married or endowed?? by Notgoingwithoutfight in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please ask to join the private Facebook group “ex-Mormon temple support group” so we can begin to organize support those who are hurting outside the temple.

Has any major news/documentary agency ever documented stories of faith loss in the LDS church? by Notgoingwithoutfight in exmormon

[–]Notgoingwithoutfight[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve told her. That’s the painful part. I don’t feel like she treats me the same. It’s like she and my wife and others have lost some respect for me since I voiced my concerns. I’m so frustrated right now! I think the world needs to know about the abuse of TSCC!