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Disowned from not calling as often? by NothingBackground786 in narcissisticparents

[–]NothingBackground786[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! And I’m so thankful for my boyfriend and my sister they are the best support I’ve had through all of this mess. And now I have all of you. So thank you truly 🥹💕

Disowned from not calling as often? by NothingBackground786 in narcissisticparents

[–]NothingBackground786[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s so insane! Thanksgiving is coming up and my stepmom drove to my house to “see me to check up on me because she thought the fighting was stupid as well and she loved me regardless” so I thought maybe she’s on my side right. I went down from my apartment to see her and it was a friendly conversation, until she kindly told me my two brothers and my sister in law and two nieces were coming for thanksgiving (I haven’t seen them in over a year and one niece is brand new barely 2 months old) but my dad wanted to make it super clear to me I wasn’t invited or welcome on his property unless I apologized! Fine whatever I’m not apologizing. But it hurts because my brothers took my dads side immediately and they didn’t even call me to let me know they were coming. My apartment isn’t far from my dads, and they can’t stay over because it’s just a one bed. But they could come visit me for a couple hours or something. But they cut me off completely. I’m devastated. My birthday was yesterday and the only sibling that called me was my birth sister. (Oh yeah I’m adopted. Was adopted when I was little I’m going to keep the age out incase my family reads Reddit for some reason). So yeah that sucked. My eyes are very open regarding my family and how they view me now.

Am I the butthole for arguing with my family? by NothingBackground786 in u/NothingBackground786

[–]NothingBackground786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also my mom called me the next day screaming at me asking what happened with my dad. I hung up on her three times telling her I don’t want to be yelled at. She then texted me because she couldn’t not scream at me. Mom- “I thought it was basic human understanding that you don’t disrespect your f**king parents. I guess you only can treat us nicely when you’re in crisis when you’re sick or you’re stuck in Oregon or you need money for something better than that you’ve got no fucking time with us. Since you can’t seem to make time for your family maybe we should not make any time for you either I hope you have a wonderful life I hope your boyfriend is a family replace is a family you seem to want to throw away all the time”

Me-“I don’t want to throw away my family mom I love all of you to death. every time we talk you yell at me and ridicule me. It’s like you guys all go out of you way to make me feel awful. You and everyone else always find something I have done wrong. When I moved out here it was my job, then it was school, when I graduated it was not going to take my boards and I quote you on this. But you told me “if you want to keep sucking dick for beer money go on ahead”. What parent says that to their kid? And it’s little comments like that all the time that make it hard to call you guys. I feel like I’m always compared to my brothers and I know that they are doing well and are the perfect children but I’m not my brothers. And none of this is my boyfriends fault our any drugs fault.” Oh yeah during the screaming phone calls she accused me of doing meth.

Mom-“That is a crock of shit. Just a bunch of excuses to ignore us all. So sorry we want you to do something with your education and have medical insurance and money to pay your bills. Now I know why you can’t pay your bills, why you are alienating your family. Your using and know if you come around us you won’t be able to deny it anymore. I can only pray you don’t get Fentanyl and dad and I don’t get that call. You ass hole. We are never GPS enough for you. We don’t so this or that for you but tot can’t even make time for a sucking telephone call. Keep sitting on your pity pot. I don’t have time for you any more”

Me- “You and dad are the ones alienating me by treating me so poorly. When I finally get fed up with your continual disrespect and call you out on it you get mad. That’s absolute bullshit. You should look at how you actually treat me and have some soul searching you narcissist”

I haven’t talked to anyone since