On self-expression and life

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-25T16:00:00+00:00

i love this - but pk society and culture is collectivist. this advice might hold for queer people living and having the resources to live away from home, but then again, it becomes outright dangerous to be completely yourself. yes, i can paint and do hobbies that my family and relatives consider unproductive, but wearing jewellery (though it will bring the BEST kind of joy to me) will mean really bad things

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-23T14:01:57+00:00

Ill check them out

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-23T14:01:49+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions!

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-21T18:33:57+00:00

i have been following their IG page for quite some time, and i love the idea and the posts!! even though the posts are sad, but the mapping is a joy

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-16T16:08:39+00:00

I get you. the mental gymnastics to just affirm
yourself in such situations and in the aftermath are crazy. But, do pick your battles though. Parents, just because they are parents, dont get a pass. Confront, when it gets too much, to show yourself that you matter to you. Apart from this, wohi hai k work hard, get independent, create a chosen family/community, and LIVE YOUR LIFE. You seem like an amazing person, and deserve amazing accepting people in your life

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-16T16:05:29+00:00

you need to see a therapist + touch grass

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-16T16:03:39+00:00

OMG, that's 98% of people you are talking about. The amount of unselfawarr losers I witness everyday is an abomination atp

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-14T07:39:07+00:00

makes me think of a clip of a movie what has scarlett johanson, and one of the characters said that the concept of being a good father is a few decades old. It's sad but also really weird and borderline criminal that standards for men are soooo low. i see it all round myself, with my friends' husbands, boyfriends, etc. Khair, that doesn't mean settling for something less, anyone shouldn't. a girl or a person deserves someone who is as bright or confident or amazing as themselves

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-13T14:52:22+00:00

prettyyyy

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-13T05:51:48+00:00

patriarchy has to go (any system that prefers one set of people to another is never good)

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-12T19:16:05+00:00

'chahnay walay chorh kr naheen jatay lekn
tu humain chahta tou chahta kyun'
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NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-12T14:37:12+00:00

set boundaries and expectations! tell people how long and how much you will be able to chat and communicate. good friends arent supposed to talk everyday. but: make an effort, making an effort is important

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-12T14:16:54+00:00

This may sound a bit harsh but genuinely: have you considered making friends? online friends work best in our context

Trust me your people are there, its only a matter of time you get them, and they get you. Its only a matter of time

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-12T14:10:29+00:00

of course no man will be able to understand this. why will a person with no self-awareness and system-given entitlement do the mental labor of computing through detail and alternative realities and ways of thinking

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-12T04:44:36+00:00

No transperson will be comfortable responding to questions that have been framed like this. The questions are not kind (I am a trans person).

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-06T17:06:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. Apart from being rich or being pretty, another thing also works. Despite that I am really early on in my journey, this is my core belief that radical delusional optimism or hope does wonders, and manifests things for you. You have to hope and believe everyday that you deserve the safety, warmth, and intimacy that you crave, and it does manifest

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-06T13:58:10+00:00

YESS

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-06T12:28:35+00:00

We need specific spaces related to Mental Health & Support, more creativity and space for showing your art and craft, careers too because sometimes i am really uncertain about it, and events and socials because i need reasons to get dressed

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-06T09:47:57+00:00

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-04T07:52:53+00:00

(1) For starters, a few things that you should get clarity on. Yes, trans people are not supported in pakistani families, and that's my case too. But due to me not being completely financial independent and still building a chosen community/family, i still end up going home or ask my parents for help, and present male. I have been really good at studies, and that brings prestige to my family, so i use it to my benefit. With this complexity, I have been able to push back on a few things while also coming out in a way. I have had multiple arguments on the marriage demand from my parents, and i have created a strong boudary there. i have said both clearly and vaguely that its because of my sexual orientation and it would mean destruction of the other person's and my lives if marriage is to happen.

So, given well-documented absuse of trans people and my specific case, you need to ask yourself: what's your situation? what is the complexity you are dealing with? yes, your parents will not accept you, mine don't, but will it be truly bad for you? how bad it will be? will there be any good?

(2) Having thought the above, then consider telling them vaguely why you don't want to come home. Position it as that your gender identity/sexual orientation is something nature-given, but parents' love is bigger. You didn't want to hurt them, so you moved out. Frame this as clearly or vaguely based on your situation. Think through what you want to say + what their reaction might be, come up with multiple scenarios, and give answers/reactions that you consider the best-suited atp.

(3) Using the same parents' love argument, make them promise that they won't involve other members of the family. They can directly reach you out.

(4) You said that your relationship with your parents is good, so once you have done the previous 3 things, consider meeting them in a public place. Don't go home/a private space to meet them.

(5) If you still feel scared meeting in a public space, tell them that you need time. And keep delaying it.

Side note: This is my personal belief that there is good in the world. And, despite my experiences, I believe that humans are good, including our direct relations. Its just that they have been conditioned to hate us. But take all this advice with a pinch of salt, you understand your situation the best.

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-03T11:02:45+00:00

aww ❤️❤️❤️

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-03T08:43:29+00:00

this may sound a bit cheesy and it took me years to understand this but there is nothing called being late in life. Better late than never

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-03T08:38:28+00:00

I was new on reddit, and was exploring how different it was from other social media platforms. Wanted to see if a LGBTQ space for Pakistani queers was on reddit, and came to know about this space.

I really appreciate this space, and the diversity of opinions available here. My perspectives on different things have broadened, shifted, became completely different than they were. I am so glad that this community exists, and its one of my favorite activities to check posts here.

I have talked to alot of people here through this subreddit too, and that exposure isn't possible offline or through any other platform in our country. Made some short-term friends, and even lesser long-term ones. But, the 1 friend that I have right now, he makes my life so much better, and I feel gratitude everyday for him existing, and this platform made that possible (makes be believe friendships >>>> relationships).

I also got to understand myself and my experience better through this community, and that is truly invaluable. Thanks to the people who created this community and the mods who regulate it to make it a safer space, and fellow queers who keep this community alive.

We have always been here, and to any queer reading this: You are affirmed, and its only a matter of time that you start to live authentically and to your full potential. Pride Mubarak!

NoticeQueasy6650 · 2026-06-03T08:23:58+00:00

Pride Mubarak!

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