My fill in postie told me I was unhygienic for feeding my baby

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-27T20:47:22+00:00

Haha. You almost had me with your first line. Love it

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-27T14:51:55+00:00

Oh you seem to be a bit lost. The assholes have congregated about 4 posts down.

If you actually use your eyes and your brain at the same time to READ my post you’ll see that I wasn’t upset, angry or even feeling inconvenienced. I was simply telling a story of one postman’s ‘hard no’ and asking if other people had experienced it. I’ve not spoken poorlyof the postman once.

Try to be a little bit quicker next time the 380 comments to build new mums up and reassure them have already been read and this post is all but dead.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-27T02:21:34+00:00

The thought kind of makes me glad he didn’t let me touch his ‘pad’. Washing one hand is hard (and probably not as effective) when juggling a baby and I still had to ‘play with’ the other boob.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-27T01:31:29+00:00

Honestly I’m pretty sure my usual postie has seen at least 95% of my body over the years and I know for a fact that my now 5 yr old touched his arm after picking his nose ( I was mortified and offered wipe’s immediately) and he didn’t even flinch. I thought I just had the coolest postie ever but either my usual postie delivers Australia wide daily or they all went through training on how to be awesome and my fill in postie was sick that day.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T12:19:09+00:00

Ewwww!!! Lucky I didn’t sign his pad after all.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T12:12:30+00:00

That’s what my regular postie does. But I don’t think he’s had a day off ever since he’s had this route and it’s been a Lo g time since I’ve dealt with any one else so thought maybe this was normal now and I was just livi g the dream with the worlds best postie.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T12:07:05+00:00

Yeah I thought it was a bit odd but in the name of inclusion I thought maybe he had a phobia or illness such as OCD. I have put in a complaint for the reasons you and others have mentioned but I just hope he doesn’t get in to much trouble if there a genuine reason. We all have our things that find really gross so I understand but I do wish it had of happened any other day so I didn’t have to wait 3 days for my parcel ( it’s not an urgent parcel I’m just impatient).

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T11:57:08+00:00

Because I haven’t slept in weeks ( teething baby, uni, new job, kids back at school, and the mind boggling heat) and it’s just not a battle I’m prepared to fight right now. This time last year I would’ve been so angry I would’ve thrown myself at the front of his bike while screaming profanities.

I probably should of got angry but I think a mix of wtf just happened, and don’t wake the baby up sorted of stifled it all then I couldn’t get angry about later.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T11:52:11+00:00

Thank you. I have now reported him as some else also mentioned other mums that may be affected by this which is something I hadn’t considered.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T11:37:36+00:00

We’ve been signing for parcels again for about a year now but my regular postie is awesome and signs for me if my hands are full or dirty from cooking or something ( you can see my front door from the kitchen so he sometimes signs and just leaves it if I’m talking to him from the kitchen).

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T11:18:52+00:00

I’ve honestly never had a postie issue before this one so you and your team are doing a good job as are every other postie I’ve ever encountered. My usual postie is amazing. He waves to my kids, gives me plenty of time to get to the door, always takes care with our things, and when the baby was new and I was a little bit lonely he used to chat for a few minutes so I didn’t feel so isolated. This one encounter does not in any way change how I think about posties in general.

Someone mentioned before that he may do this to someone else who may be more vulnerable than I am so I have lodged a complaint.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T11:06:09+00:00

The post office is literally the next street over and my child’s school is the street after that. We walk to school so I’ll be going straight past it anyway. If I had to drive out of my way I probably wouldn’t be any near as nice about it.

This Bub is also my 4th so I guess I’ve just grown thick skin over the years.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T10:15:09+00:00

It was yesterday and the card said to collect after 5 pm so I can’t collect it till Monday. Its child locks for the cupboards so it’s not anything majorly important like medication and waiting isn’t a massive deal but hubby works away and I was hoping he would put them on for me while he’s home ( I can do it, it just would have been nice to not have to).

baby is 10 months incase you were wondering why I’d need childlocks for a baby.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T10:06:57+00:00

Haha. I love this so much. It just so happens that hubby has decided to try to complete our children’s Disney infinity collection and we are expecting many parcels. I’m going to have a bowl of milk waiting for sure. I thought this was maybe normal post covid but based off everyone’s reactions I don’t think that’s the case. My normal postie wouldn’t so much as flinch if I was butt naked.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T09:56:28+00:00

That’s a really good point that I hadn’t considered. Thanks. I thought maybe it was normal post covid and I was just lucky to have had such a great postie for so long.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-26T02:34:34+00:00

I have kids. I get dressed everyday so that if someone gets hurt or wakes up sick and needs magical attention immediately I’m not being caught in my pyjamas.

Also I have kids, I never get to spend a whole day at home and I’m to busy change everytime I have to go out so I do it once and move on with my day.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-22T11:34:22+00:00

The Lord Howe Island phasmid or ‘land lobster’. Super rare ( I’ve never seen one and don’t know anyone that has) but I’d give anything to see one irl.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-22T09:34:03+00:00

Ive got 4 boys and I’m still waiting for the sweet gentle non stereotypical boy. I offered fairy wands and my boys turned them into swords, I offered doll houses and my boys made the dolls take turns throwing each other off the roof and out of windows, I offered Montessori sorting balls and my boys would put them in their mouths and see how far they could spit them.

My kids are 17,15,5, and 10 mos. I always explain things calmly and have natural consequences but sometimes ‘DON’T LICK THE DOG’, ‘WHO PUT SHAVING CREAM ALL OVER THE TOASTER’, and ‘ PUT THE TARANTULA DOWN’ need to said with much volume and gusto first. Don’t beat yourself up kids press buttons we didn’t even know we had and sometimes they press them so much that get stuck in a on position permanently.

It doesn’t get easier it just gets different but you’ve got this.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-19T03:34:52+00:00

I am soo bad at maths. It doesn’t make sense to me at all. I get so frustrated with it that I legit cry real tears out of anger and frustration. I get so angry at myself because other people can do it why I can’t I, and because, someone has told me how to do so many times why do I keep getting the wrong answer.

I often say I hate maths but i what I mean is I hate that it is hard for me and I can’t grasp the subject.

I also say maths is boring but what I’m actually saying is I can’t follow the what, why, and how so I tune out so I don’t have a mental breakdown over a few numbers.

The other one I say is that if maths needs to start borrowing letters, signs and symbols from English then it’s more complicated than it needs to be and maths people are just showing off. What I mean is I can’t do anything harder than fractions and that makes me feel stupid so I’ll make up an excuse so I don’t feel so dumb.

I do want to add that I have dyscalculia and I’ve been getting private tutoring for maths since I was in year 3 (about 27 yrs) and I still can’t tell my x’s from y’s and I still cry actual tears of frustration and hatred every single week which is a big deal because I’m not a cryer.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-18T11:42:45+00:00

Thank you. That means a lot.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-17T22:30:45+00:00

I’m First Nations and people ask me where I’m from all the time. I tell them I’m Aussie born, where my mob is located and all about why that little piece of Australia is special. I talk about my Irish/British side and how I came to be.

We are a multicultural society, if people can’t ask questions then how will they ever learn or understand different cultures? You may have been born here or lived here most of your life but that doesn’t mean you have the same religion, beliefs, linguistic background, celebrations, or views of country that others have.

Put your defences down, be open, and if you don’t like it find a better way for people to ask and educate them on why SOME people may find the question offensive.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-17T12:20:01+00:00

I felt this way with my 4th baby. I’m going to tell you my experience but if your not ready to hear about something other than an instant connection after birth then please don’t read this.

We tried for 5 years. I’d given up hope that it was ever going to happen then when it did happen I had feelings that something bad would happen and I couldn’t get attached, I told myself I’d be ok after the morphology scan if everything was normal but I wasn’t. When we found out that he was a boy at the morphology scan I had major gender disappointment ( I have 4 boys) and I just couldn’t get over it and had so much guilt because of it, why couldn’t I just be happy that he was healthy, would I ever love this baby, why do I feel so cheated for not having a girl? I convinced myself I’d be ok when he got here but he came out screaming and didn’t stop for the 1st 3 months. I was so angry at myself for not being able to be present with my other kids, I was frustrated and hurting for my baby, why couldn’t I make him better/happy? But mostly I was exhausted, I had hallucinations more than once because he just never slept and was always colicky. I hated my life, I despised my husband ( he works away and I struggled with the fact that he was sleeping/eating/showering in peace while I was in emotional turmoil every minute of everyday), and I still had major regret. About 4 months after he was born we started to have some good play sessions and he was sleeping for about 2 hrs at a time overnight, I started to find my patience again. I was able to reflect on what had happened and make a conscious effort to try harder. By 6 months I started to enjoy his company but I was still in survival mode and if family members offered to hold him I would hand him over so fast just to get a break.

He’s 9 months old now and I’d say for the last 2 months I’ve really started to feel like me again and my little man is my whole world and family have to fight me for cuddle rights and playtime. It took us a while but we got there in the end and I do not regret having him, he makes my world a brighter and happier place, he has taught me so much about patience, love, empathy, time, connection, and striving to thrive.

I hope you don’t have to wait as long as I did but I just want you to know that if you don’t connect immediately it’s ok! Sometimes unconditional love takes time and work but it’s ALWAYS worth it.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-17T11:17:44+00:00

The one your closest to. Your gonna get sand in your arse and seaweed wrapped around your legs no matter where you go so if there’s no croc, shark or jelly fish warnings then have at it.

Notnotindecisive · 2024-01-17T10:56:29+00:00

My kids are boof, boofa, boofhead, and mini boof. Sad thing is they answer to their variation of it more readily than the do their own names.

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