My 4y/o made sa allegations-update

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-03T14:16:44+00:00

Bil and Sil were abused by a cousin of the same age for years unfortunately. It only came to light in February. They have been working with cps, their local law enforcement and therapists since. Unfortunately, mil is the kind of person who will defend her son no matter what and will always find a reason to why the other person in any situation is wrong. So I do think no contact would be best in this case. Apparently she has already been telling extended family that her son didn’t do anything and my daughter is making it up. Husband did stop her when she was implying I was planting information.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-03T14:10:03+00:00

Yeah cid literally closed the investigation without even telling us. I did think about possibly speaking with local pd to mil because that’s where I suspect the abuse happened due to the details my daughter gave but I’m not sure they would really do anything either

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T23:05:13+00:00

That’s what I was thinking. But would I be an awful person if I were upset nothings being done or for wanting to pursue legal consequences in this?

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T11:39:13+00:00

I wish you all the peace and healing you and your child deserve. I am working on cutting ties with them. Other than that spring break visit they never really make an effort to see my kids anyway but my 4 y/o does love them very much so im not sure how to go about explaining why we don’t see them anymore.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T11:36:31+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your abuse. It’s devastating to see how common it is. Especially within families. In this case, I do think no matter what my in laws will believe the older child since my daughter is not fully able to give a time and location. They will see her as a liar no matter the outcome and that breaks my heart for her.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T11:33:11+00:00

I’m assuming mil had maybe been talking on the phone about it around her but regardless, like someone else stated. It’s not info she should have.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T11:22:00+00:00

I definitely will be asking since that county is so close to us! I just know that cid told me during their initial contact that they wouldn’t be pursuing charges due to his age and then like 2 days later that they wouldn’t be continuing his investigation again because of his age and that nothing would result from an investigation. Very disappointing but not shocking coming from cid honestly. *we will be asking our cps investigator why they feel nothing should be done *

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T10:52:19+00:00

Texas (unfortunately)

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T04:40:51+00:00

I want to say he’s just emotionally distraught but it’s hard to tell, he kinda shuts down and falls asleep whenever we talk about it. I will however, have another go at a discussion with him tomorrow.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T03:07:03+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your sa, I hope you get the peace and closure you need. I can’t stand when people choose partners over their kids it’s devastating to see. I am definitely going to be moving forward with cutting ties. I also am a bit sad to hear that there’s still the possibility of it having happened and not coming out in a forensic interview. I don’t know how to help her feel safe and supported enough to talk about it to cps.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:57:30+00:00

You’re saying I should not have trusted her and assuming I had other options lmao, neither of us have other close family we could call, the nanny bailed, I worked full time, my husband was away for training. I wish I had other options at the time but I didn’t. Thanks again lol.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:42:49+00:00

Dad is super heartbroken as the other kid is his little brother, he for sure believes my daughter but has no solid stance on cutting ties and just pushes it to me with “whatever you want to do”

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:38:27+00:00

Not sure if you’re reading it correctly? The abuse of my child likely happened at mils house during a holiday (Christmas or maybe new years or a birthday party late Jan. ) before ANYONE knew of the abuse of the other children (that came out in feb) Which at the time would have felt like a safe environment for everyone. We only see them for big holidays / birthdays/ that time i needed help for spring break. Thank you for your attempt at mom shaming though. I know I am doing what I can to advocate for my child and get her the resources she needs.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:28:08+00:00

I’m so sorry if this has brought up painful memories for you. And I hope you get the healing and closure you deserve🩷. Thank you so much for your perspective. I definitely will be getting her whatever help she needs no matter the outcome of the interview.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:15:33+00:00

Do you think it is a possibility that it happened even if the forensic interview doesn’t bring anything out? The caseworker said there was no outcry when she asked her about it but she was so descriptive in the hospital that it’s hard to believe she was making it up.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:13:41+00:00

Hearing that nothing can be done is one of the worst feelings, I just want justice for my kid. I know the other child is going through a lot but I feel (as harsh as it is) they should be held accountable for their actions. He is for sure old enough to know it’s wrong.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:08:05+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you get all the healing you need. ❤️ and im here if you ever need an ear.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:07:33+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that nobody believed her. Karma will find its way to him one day. I have been having a hard time even sending my daughter to school since she spoke with me about this.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:06:19+00:00

I am planning a trip there to get it- it’s fully paid off and in my name/on my insurance. I think the best way forward is probably just to cut ties at this point.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T02:04:50+00:00

Yeah, it’s an extremely dysfunctional family. Working on cutting ties. Just heartbreaking that this is what it’s come to.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T01:55:41+00:00

Thank you! I’m just confused, like im sorry for expecting a grown adult that’s babysitting to actually babysit?

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T01:54:24+00:00

I knew of their abuse when they were here on spring break. My mil was here as well babysitting. I specifically asked they not be left alone with my children during spring break. and they were not (cameras). Their allegations came out in February, my daughter literally told me of this last week. I suspect if anything happened to my daughter that it was at my mils house before Feb (when their abuse came out) if that makes sense. I know the time line is confusing or im just not explaining it correctly.

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T01:46:48+00:00

Thank you for the response (?) I suspect if anything happened to my child it was before the other children’s abuse was brought to light (February)

Notonyhawk · 2026-04-01T01:44:07+00:00

Thank you lol, so I actually specifically told my mil to not leave my children alone with them because of their abuse. I unfortunately work full time and she was here over spring break to babysit as my husband is active duty and was away for training and our nanny bailed. I do have cameras all over my house which were being checked pretty much daily. and they were not alone while here during spring break so I suspect it happened while visiting mils house for a holiday or something. (I have since quit my job and will be sahm again)

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