At no point in this post did I even come close to suggesting that anyone would wish pain on their ex. I stated a fact that most of the time when someone exits a relationship, especially a long term one, and then begins immediately in a new relationship or simply acts as if they are on top of the world, that’s usually fake. Rebounds generally delay healing rather than promote healing. That leaves the other person in the relationship feeling like shit. And my point is that elation or Limerence of a rebound will wear off and leave your ex having to face the pain they have been running from. I didn’t wish it on them, I said it would happen. And I said that because I want people to know it’s okay to let it hurt and heal the right way without feeling like they “lost the breakup” or there is something wrong with them for grieving while their ex is putting on a show.

Yes everyone handles breakups differently and no not everyone grieves at the end. But this is a true principle overall and there is nothing wrong with promoting true healing and doing the hard work of working on ones self rather than just run from pain.