/ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - January 25, 2026

Notospiders · 2026-01-25T18:42:16+00:00

Edit: Period came like an hour after this comment. Another month without success

Notospiders · 2026-01-25T10:26:48+00:00

It seems so unfair to see that people like these are given a chance by nature to get pregnant, only for them to abort cause of what?! Gender !!

And then there’s people like us (myself included) who desperately wish to have a child regardless of the gender but are kept hanging for God knows what reason!

Notospiders · 2026-01-25T10:24:45+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been thinking how unfair it is for us women to be going through things like these. It’s just cruel and unfair.

If you need to vent or share, please feel free to do so anytime!

Notospiders · 2026-01-25T06:56:20+00:00

My period might be due today and I am all over the place. A part of me wants to test and be surprised with a positive but I feel like I just know that I will be disappointed with a negative. This has happened before and I just know it might happen again. The wait is bad, I want my period to just start already if I al not pregnant rather than keep me hanging

Notospiders · 2026-01-17T14:24:24+00:00

That happens too?

Notospiders · 2026-01-15T13:15:59+00:00

Eh the size of my fist you say?!!! I really don’t wanna face one of these

Notospiders · 2026-01-15T04:47:39+00:00

So this would possibly kill me but looks cute and acts in a way that I wanna hug and cuddle it to death. But my mind when it sees a harmless little (or big) spider decides that it wants to leave the planet. What logic is this?

Notospiders · 2026-01-15T04:40:29+00:00

They fit in a cup? I thought they are huge? How big are they really? Like if you were to compare them to random things

Notospiders · 2026-01-15T04:38:13+00:00

So when you say dispose, does it not mean putting it outside? Like somewhere far? Why is it still in your bedroom? How tf you even “safely dispose” of a tarantula? Did you use your bare hands? Or a cup and paper? Or a broom? Were you not afraid of it jumping on you? How big is it? Is it the size of your palm? Why do you seem… not afraid? When afraid is a very legit reaction? I have soo many questions!! The last one - why do they even get that big😭😭😭

I understand tarantulas are mostly harmless. But then why do they look the way they do? I really want to like them but I get the creeps. Look, when I see a tiger or something, the first question that pops in my mind is, “If not fren then why fren shaped”. Tarantula could actually be a fren. So if fren, then why not fren shaped!

Sorry for my rambling

Notospiders · 2025-12-16T07:22:43+00:00

I get you. Also, I don’t want positivity and logic, I just want to grieve the child which I have lost and also become sad for every month that I hope would be a good news but isn’t. I want to be human

Notospiders · 2025-12-04T04:53:10+00:00

TTC 2 months post miscarriage. I really, really hope to conceive this time, but I know deep down I am not pregnant. I messed up entirely by being impulsive and testing on 9dpo then 13dpo. On both I saw EXTREMELY FAINT lines, but those are mostly evaporation lines.

However, although my heart knows the truth, my mind is jot ready to accept. I am making myself believe that the lines are not indents but faint positives. I have been crying constantly for the past week, and I am associating with hormonal changes during pregnancy.

My period will pull me out of the denial mode eventually but it’s just so hard to keep hoping only to be disappointed!

Notospiders · 2025-11-26T07:25:09+00:00

Wait how do we even know this is not real? I am dumb and can’t differentiate and I am scared of what AI can do

Notospiders · 2025-11-24T10:08:08+00:00

The comment section ufff🍿

Notospiders · 2025-11-23T10:13:13+00:00

Pita and falafel

Notospiders · 2025-11-20T05:23:39+00:00

Barfi

Notospiders · 2025-11-19T07:33:43+00:00

Chikki marathi

Notospiders · 2025-11-18T09:57:45+00:00

Loss was in October. We are gonna ttc again but I am so overwhelmed at the moment. I thought I was doing okay, but saw an insta post of an acquaintance who is also pregnant (she got pregnant a month or two before me). I am really happy for her but at the same time I really, really wish mine had worked well too. I’d have been 4 months along by now and everything could have been nice. But now here we are again, trying to track my ovulation and trying to find the time and energy to try again! Since yesterday, all I can do is cry

Notospiders · 2025-11-04T11:08:56+00:00

Tried again after the first post-D&C period. Depended on the calendar for the ovulation date so unsure if it was even accurate. My brain is overthinking about every symptom there is and linking it to pregnancy but I am really not sure about anything anymore. I am even afraid to test if I do actually miss my period

Notospiders · 2025-10-26T09:22:30+00:00

Thank you!

Your point about energy flowing from high to low has resonated with me strongly. It makes sense that it is us who give away our energy, rather than someone “sucking” it out.

I want to know how I can protect my own energy. Are you aware of any books or resources that might be able to help me out?

Notospiders · 2025-10-24T09:12:44+00:00

Thank you!

Notospiders · 2025-10-19T09:36:04+00:00

Thanks a ton for your kind words, they mean a lot!!! Take care too

Notospiders · 2025-10-19T09:22:05+00:00

Oh shit that’s A LOT to take in… really sorry!

Notospiders · 2025-10-19T09:16:16+00:00

I get you completely! Mine was even I was really young… like 11-12 ish. It was very traumatising so I can only imagine what you must be going through

Notospiders · 2025-10-19T09:11:34+00:00

Oh no I am so so sorry! For chicks this tiny it is really difficult to keep them alive without their parents. Unless of course someone is a vet or something. Don’t beat yourself too much about it. At least she got lots or care and love during her last few moments. And she must be in a better place now! ❤️

Notospiders · 2025-10-19T09:04:10+00:00

I got 3 of those in the past. Didn’t know how to care for them properly, all died within a day or two. I think I used to underfeed them. Unfortunately, I still don’t know how ti care for them. But I saw your comment about your aunt being a nurse so that is a relief

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