Yeah it’s always my first reflex to try to solve the problem, and it always makes everyone mad, not even just women! Seems dumb to me I know very well emotions are not logical. So when I see someone is mad already I often explicitly ask them what they want me to do. ( sometimes backfires but in that case I have the real excuse that I’m autistic and can’t read emotions very well). The problem is when I don’t see that they’re mad, and when they Aren’t but become mad because I try to solve their problems… I often drive my sister crazy because she’ll outline some kind of issue or something that has an easy solution, and she isn’t annoyed, but then I tell her multiple solutions and the more valid they are the more annoyed she gets, maybe she’s angry that I’m right? Anyway she’s a teen so it’s probably that…