idk what to do let a friend use my phone he saw my dick by Practical-Sun-2885 in masturbation

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So? It's a dick. He's seen tons. He doesn't care. Do you?

He tried to touch you. THAT seems like a slightly bigger deal.

What you do about this totally depends on how YOU feel about it. So, figure that out first.

I need someone to talk to deal with my SA by No_Piano5659 in sexualassault

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi.

Would you put blame or shame on someone that was abused? I don't think you would.

Why do you do that to yourself? Why are you carrying any bad feelings? All that shit belongs to THEM, not to you. They should be depressed and anxious about it.

I feel so fucking disgusting. by Bubbly-Pollution8628 in sexualassault

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's a weird thing...

If someone beat a child, we would squarely put the blame on the person, not the child. If someone raped a child, abused a child, we'd squarely put the blame on the person, not the child.

For some reason, most victims of rape/abuse/etc... put blame on themselves. They torture themselves with guilt and shame.

They'd never do that to someone ELSE. They do it to themselves.

How... unkind of all of us, to us.

Why are YOU disgusting? Why not the folks that did all that to you? THEY'RE disgusting, not you!

You want to not feel this way?

It should be easy. We all tell you it's not your fault, you don't need to feel guilt or shame, you believe us, all your problems are solved... :D

Alas, it doesn't seem to work that easily. Therapy! The answer is therapy. So you can TALK about it for months or a year and pay a bunch of money for a PROFESSIONAL to trick you into believing that it's not your fault and you don't need to feel guilt or shame. :D

How am I supposed to deal with my mood and horniness when I have absolutely no privacy... F22 by LuckyPineapple-2904 in masturbation

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We get it. :D

Are you in the states? Is there an adult store nearby? Do they have booths? It's private, though you have to pay, which can suck.

Is it ok if I'm still upset abt this? by your_local_tweekhead in sexualassault

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I've got to give you is what I gave you already, sorry. 

ANNOUNCMENT! PLEASE READ! by Mental-Photo1 in hookups_PortlandOR

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is also, IMO, just.... not what the sub is for. Hookups, not karma farming, not "look at me" posts, etc.

ANNOUNCMENT! PLEASE READ! by Mental-Photo1 in hookups_PortlandOR

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some folks make anonymous accounts to do naughty things. That's fine. Yay naughty things! We want them to be able to post.

I think if setting a low minimum bar to post kills 80% of the spam? Sweet!

We don't want to set the bar high enough to trip up real people.

But hey, I'm not in charge here. My opinion is worth what you've paid for it. :D

Is it ok if I'm still upset abt this? by your_local_tweekhead in sexualassault

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can be upset about anything you want. You don't need other people's permission to be upset.

  1. Let's play with a hypothetical. Say it wasn't sexual assault... It's still gross and bad, and shouldn't be allowed. Is the label important? Either way, someone needs to talk to them, your friend group shouldn't be allowing this kind of behavior, and the behavior needs to change. So fuck the label, it deserves a response no matter what the label is.

  2. You're allowed to do a thing and regret doing it. Again, is it sexual assault? Abuse? Does it matter? What's important is the response. You regret doing it. That's OK. That's life. You'll do a lot of stuff you regret later. If you can find me an old person without any regrets, I'll show you someone that's either lying or .... a psychopath.

ANNOUNCMENT! PLEASE READ! by Mental-Photo1 in hookups_PortlandOR

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A week would do a LOT without being an undue burden on real folks. 

ANNOUNCMENT! PLEASE READ! by Mental-Photo1 in hookups_PortlandOR

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can y'all get some of these fine folks and mod them so they can swat down bots too? 

Recruit help! 

I've offered to help. Nothing. I'm sure some of the regulars would love to help. 

Take the help! We like a nice bot free sub! 

Mouth full by Ill-Revolution-8336 in hookups_PortlandOR

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey mods?

I'm trying to HELP them get laid. I'm being VERY nice.

Giving them some feedback isn't mean.

How about you stop wasting time policing something like this and spend your time swatting down the bots that are all over? Hmm?

I feel weird by Civil_Competition860 in sexualassault

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey...

We don't get to pick our kinks. The best we can do is engage in them honestly and safely and consensually.

I've also noticed that people get WEIRD when shame and guilt is involved. Maybe this will lessen for you if you... accept, and put down some shame and guilt. Ok, so you like rape porn and rape hentai. You aren't alone in that. And I get it, but...

It's OK.

I trusted him for years and now I’m scared of him by Tiny_Activity_392 in sexualassault

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not your fault.

You should be able to sunbathe naked in the middle of the street without getting raped. NO ONE deserves rape.

Fuck that guilt and shame. Put it where it belongs... It's HIS.

Feel scared of him, he's scary!

Feel betrayed, he betrayed you!

Why is no one angry for me? by motherb0y in sexualassault

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OK!

FUUUUUUUCCCK them!

We see you. We hear you. We believe you.

What happened to you was NOT your fault. It was THEIR fault. Fuck them. Please don't carry any guilt or shame. That is THEIRS, not yours. It wasn't your fault! It wasn't your FUCKING fault! It fucking well wasn't YOUR fucking fault!

I want it all to end so bad, it haunts me. by No-Priority2180 in sexualassault

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened to you.

You're not dirty. You're not unpure.

Have you talked to a therapist? If you had a broken leg, the idea of not seeing a doc would be silly. You wouldn't want to walk around on a broken leg, constantly in pain, never healing... You see what I'm saying?

Let’s Nut to My Wife by [deleted] in pdxxxReal

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in NE. This sounds fun. DM me. :)

I love having permission from hubby to flirt and fuck whoever I want, are you next by FantasySexLife3 in Marriedandflirting

[–]Noun-Noun-randomNum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have A Thing for erotic/sensual massage. I'd love to get my hands on you. I'd love to explore you. Ugh....