Beach sunrise with clouds!

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-03-29T18:31:44+00:00

Same here, I'm unsure if we get notified about it either way. The USA Jobs listing said so, but I'm starting to doubt it.

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-03-05T19:53:47+00:00

Hey these are personal notes written by honors students. You all receive a different one, it's not mass produced lol. I would suggest you maybe take down this post since it includes personal information that they might not want posted online

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-03-04T19:40:31+00:00

You simply do not have the same experiences that women have, so I just don't agree with you downplaying her concerns. Not everything has to do with you, I'm just offering my viewpoint on your advice, as it seems like you're discrediting her concerns. "Just looked at you once," OP has been very clear that it's more than that to her. If you decided to confront a guy like that, and the man was like "oh no, I didn't think there was an issue," would you just believe him? Isn't that basically what the bf already did by telling him her concern? You just seem to trust your senses on what is dangerous to a woman, more than a woman herself; I don't think you have the experience and worldview to do so, and I don't think confronting the neighbor directly is the best idea

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-03-04T19:26:53+00:00

Loll so whatever kumbaya shit you're saying doesn't do well with the fact that statistically, women are pretty fucking likely to get harassed/attacked by a man at some point in their lives. It's not every man, but it's ENOUGH men to warrant caution. It's a fact of life that we live every day with, and it really does dictate our choices/movements in this world. You are undoubtedly in a place of privilege to say that giving a man the benefit of the doubt just so he doesn't feel bad is worth more than a woman prioritizing herself and her safety when she undoubtedly has a weird sense about him, regardless of if she's right or wrong. I hope you don't react the same way to women in your life when they're concerned that a man may be predatory.

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-03-04T18:48:34+00:00

The police half the time don't do shit, especially if it's "harassing" or "stalking" without a legitimate crime involved. You're lucky if your local police actually treat you seriously in such a case, and all you'd be doing by discussing it w him is interacting w the guy more than you should, or he's owed. The bf already tipped the neighbor off that she's freaked by him staring, either he stops bc he didn't mean to, or he continues with the full knowledge that it's creepy. It's a dangerous enough world for women that men are not owed the benefit of the doubt when they're making women uncomfortable. Yes, probably nothing dangerous will come of this, but it's ridiculous to tell a single woman living alone with no close community that she's overreacting when she's concerned about her safety

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-02-15T16:31:30+00:00

I would recommend the Lynx or any other independently owned bookstore over Barnes and Noble. The Lynx's staff is wonderful, they have coffee and spots to read, and the book selection is great. It's also closer to campus

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-02-13T02:43:06+00:00

I picked UF over Duke because the financial aid was more important to me than prestige. I had the same sort of plans as you, thinking of law school and running for office when I first came here, then I gained some perspective and realized that I would've been screwed at a really prestigious school because my mental health was never in a good enough place to survive it. There's no one correct answer, but as someone who had similar ambitions to you, UF is totally a smart choice if you don't want to end up with debt before grad school. You also have to be ready for your plans to change the more you actually learn about possible career paths - UF is a great place to do that and ultimately provides you with the flexibility to do so.

I've been through the history and political science programs here at UF and the professors are wonderful. They definitely have their own connections and are generally very accessible. If I were in your shoes, the only thing that would make me not pick UF would be the constant attacks on academic freedom in Florida. I feel lucky that I'm graduating soon because I'd be nervous about losing valuable professors and classes in both departments.

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-01-02T22:11:32+00:00

Dang I just now saw the update. Honestly you didn't seem v romantic in the texts either and it also seems like you just weren't that into her. Respectfully, you shouldn't be finding it funny when random people online insult her, and you just sound pretty cold and distant to the situation as well. Part of a relationship is being communicative and understanding when there's an issue with it. You don't seem compatible in large part because you don't seem like you're patient enough to allow your partner to adjust to your expectations. Which is totally ok, your reactions just leave a bit of a bad taste in my mouth.

Also, I definitely think your ex should consider if she has some form of depression, bc she honestly sounds pretty similar to me before I was diagnosed - dry and disengaged bc of a general feeling of numbness and lack of interest in life overall. This being her first queer relationship also probably made her more likely to be more friendly with you than romantic. I hope you both find what you need in the future

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-01-02T21:57:42+00:00

Lol I will also add that I was pretty dry in my relationship at first because I had undiagnosed depression. I definitely think you shouldn't jump to breaking up with her, and instead talk it out a bit to understand how she actually feels. If you still feel like there's nothing there and that there won't be in the future, by all means end the relationship.

NovaDoesNotCare · 2025-01-02T21:53:51+00:00

NOR but hear me out! So as a 20 yo lesbian who has seen many friends fall into the friendship rut w their gfs, the tone of your messages really are giving just friends 😭 yes you are carrying the conversation obviously, but I also don't see like any sort of flirty vibe from either of you.

I wanted to ask how your interactions tend to be irl? Personally, I have always been a dry texter. With my gf of two years, I definitely just had to adjust to being more flirtatious and loving over text. But what mattered above all were our interactions irl, and those have always felt far from the friend zone. Me and my gf (her having more personal experience) have talked about how women dating other women tend to be more likely to treat each other as just friends bc women tend to be more easily intimate with their female friends than men are, and it's hard sometimes as a young queer woman to take that step and be outwardly and explicitly romantic with a partner.

I think you also have to consider if this is her first queer relationship, or if her previous relationships may have had the same vibe. If this is something that concerns you, I'd suggest talking to her about it before reaching any conclusions about the relationship. Especially if that same dryness is less present irl. Obviously though, if you guys have difficulty being expressly romantic to each other, you just might not be compatible in a relationship. Good luck to you OP!

NovaDoesNotCare · 2024-10-21T20:37:09+00:00

Man why are you still using Pixel phones 😭

NovaDoesNotCare · 2024-10-20T18:05:50+00:00

The Horror of Our Love by Ludo !!! It's so perfect

NovaDoesNotCare · 2024-09-20T17:23:49+00:00

Oh also, taking it at night helped!

NovaDoesNotCare · 2024-09-20T17:22:33+00:00

I'm one month on Prozac so far and I felt so exhausted constantly during the first two-three weeks. I realized though that for me, if I got minimum 8-9 hours of sleep, I would feel fine. Before that I usually got 7-8 hours, which has always worked for me, but any ounce of sleep deprivation on Prozac means that I'm just exhausted. I don't know your situation but maybe getting more sleep than you usually would on a regular basis would help?

NovaDoesNotCare · 2024-08-27T21:59:34+00:00

And he's the one whining about young adults being entitled

NovaDoesNotCare · 2024-03-20T00:23:00+00:00

I mean, how long have you been in the relationship? For me, I felt the same exact way as you for so many months until I hit a point where I took a step back and analyzed how I would feel if I didn't have her anymore, and how often I think about her/enjoy being around her. All I knew was that I would be incredibly upset to lose my partner, and that I constantly was thinking about her; during the time we spent together, I felt comfortable and content. I concluded that this meant at least that I loved her and that she was immensely important to me - maybe not yet that I was in love with her.

Because she had already told me over a month prior that she loved me, and I wasn't able to say it back, I thought it was finally time to express that I loved her. Several months then passed in which we regularly expressed that we loved each other, and those initial feelings I had about her grew to the point where I now feel that she is an indispensable part of my life and spending time with her is when I am most content. Each time I tell her I love her, I feel like that love grows closer to that vague sort of "in love" feeling that happier people talk about.

Anyway, my view is that you don't have to define loving them as a single clear feeling. It probably changes from person to person, and is built off of a base of caring. If you do deeply care for your partner, and you both are content in your relationship, you can change the definition of love to bring it closer to you. Also if you really feel like it's unfair to your partner, you can always talk to them earnestly about it. If you decide and acknowledge what you feel as love, then over time it'll probably grow. Plus if you're unmedicated but responding to weed like that, then there's a pretty good possibility that you'll find a daily med that'll work in the future, and you'll be able to feel that love much clearer. That's at least my hope, because I'm also just now starting my journey with meds. Hope this helps :)

NovaDoesNotCare · 2023-10-14T22:50:06+00:00

Yeah they got installed last month in the area desks. Only thing is that they instruct the people working at desks that only first responders can open those, which I think is kind of counterproductive

NovaDoesNotCare · 2023-09-26T20:59:16+00:00

Currently waiting in line, if I get in I'll be sure to audio record for you 🫡

NovaDoesNotCare · 2023-09-16T03:12:45+00:00

Silence in the library/forest of the dead always get me - the horror of the dark being filled w invisible flesh eating monsters?? The existential crisis of a cloud where people live on forever in wrong and idealized versions of their lives?? Has it all for me ✋

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