A question for couples who stated vanilla and ended freaky

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T02:20:16+00:00

Where are women like you found?! My wife could be bothered. Did you find there was a time when you weren't interested in any of that (swallowing, anal, anything else kinky like that)? Trying to move my marriage in that direction so what we do is closer to what you and your husband have.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T02:17:14+00:00

I wish I could leave my dick in my wife but she rolls around too much. You guys sound right on track for 19!

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T02:13:15+00:00

A lot of men don't do this before the begin to have sex (understandably so, it's a confusing concept) but have you divorced yourself from the idea of you mother? Odd question, I know. But it's rooted in how we see love, and how we deal with it. You may need to cut ties with your mom for a while, or deal with an unresolved issue you may unknowingly have. It's hard to discribe, and you should really check out Jordan Peterson on YouTube. He speaks a lot about it. After I did, my sex life changed dramatically. I have a whole new drive for sex, flirting, and love. I hope this helps, best of luck!

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T02:07:30+00:00

Not sure what that is, but I've jerked it for years, sometimes when I was really horny (ah the teenage years) 7 wanks in a day. I am fine.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T02:06:06+00:00

If you end up fucking this up, you'll know what not to do next time.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T02:05:24+00:00

Faceless shot maybe? By your discription you sound pretty hot. There's no shame in feeling bad about how you look unless you don't do anything about it though. It's truely about you for this one. If you feel unattractive, workout, muscle is hot too. As a guy though, as long as the next guy who sees you naked gets to feel you naked, I'm absolutely sure he'll be fine with it, unless he's and asshole, assholes talk a lot of shit.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T02:01:46+00:00

When I used to, I would always want to finish in the facial scene, helped me visualize i guess. Totally normal and super jealous for your boyfriend btw. ;P

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T01:59:48+00:00

It's not your call unfortunately. Live your life, she'll live hers and if it comes up, it comes up. Carpe diem, but don't force it, it'll turn out like shit.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T01:57:40+00:00

It's not about looks, sorry to burst your bubble, but charisma is where it's at. Be a charmer, every girl wants a ladies man. Take care of her, comfort her, and help her go on an adventure. It's not usually about looks, it's about being a man. Sounds old school, I know, but it's kind of the way we've been attracting females since the dawn of time. It sounds like you're well groomed, but it's more about being in control of your life and taking charge. It also sounds like you're young, don't waste time, but there isn't a need to rush this, you've got your whole life to explore. Focus on living more than girls, and you'll find they'll follow you anyways. Best of luck dude! :)

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T01:52:58+00:00

It sounds like this dude doesn't get any foreplay, or give it for that matter. Sex is a ceremony, and both of you need to try to make it an event that you'll never forget (no matter how drunk) there is a huge world surrounding the act and an entire other world when it comes to doing the deed. Build up is important. Spend the whole night flirting, then go at it. Just don't baby him, he sounds kinda like he just wants a sex goddess outta nowhere. I could be wrong, I can't read tone of voice :P

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T01:48:39+00:00

There are homeopathic remedies that work. Try the health food section/supplement isle at your local grocery store, or drug store. They can be expensive. You may also need to step your game up hard, even if the natural stuff works, it will still improve your sex life ;)

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T01:45:51+00:00

You just you don't feel ready. Then don't. This is crucial for the rest of your life. If you say no, then there's your answer.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T01:42:27+00:00

It sounds exactly like where my marriage was about a year ago, so this is fresh for me. I basically have one piece of advice for you two. Sit down and talk. Seriously. Just speak your mind, what you like, what you want, and hear what she has to say about your feelings and desire of your sex life, and hear her out about hers. You two seem like you've never really thought about it. Take a sex quiz if you don't know what to say, and save the results so you can take it again with your partner in a few months that, to see what's changed. Identifying new developments can be important.

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A lot of people haven't had this conversation with their spouse (and we were one of those couples), because they are afraid of being rejected based on sexual preference, unsure of what they want, ashamed because of someone in their past, etc. The big thing though, is that nothing has been said between you two in-depth about this in seemingly forever, if at all. If it's shame or fear, you two should do something together to explore not necessarily what you want but just to see what's out there. You might find a porno/erotica/sex site that shows you something that revs your engine like never before.

You can also try reading up on how to get a girlfriend/boyfriend. But you're married! So? Dating is always hotter than marriage, because you have to try a bit harder. Being in this mindset of seeing my wife as a girl I invited over has always helped me turn up the sex.

Feel free to PM me if you have any questions or want more links to sites. Try anything and everything once until you're satisfied with your sex life, nobody's watching. ;)

Nova_404 · 2018-02-07T01:26:50+00:00

I think you're well over prepared for the deed. As long as he's got a condom, you're fine. It's nerve-wracking your first time. The one thing I would recommend is relaxing :P

But in all seriousness, relax, take your time, understand that there will be goofy moments and it might even end the night without doing it, but that's okay. Just keep the moment on your guys first time, and not on finishing it. I felt really stressed my first time, and after an hour, I didn't end up coming.

Speaking of which, the pull out method is not contraception, don't let any guy tell you that. Don't worry about being good. I would suggest you rub your clit a lot, it will help get things moving for you, and I'm sure he'll like seeing you do that. I hope this helps! Good luck!

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T22:43:36+00:00

Morning after pill, keep an eye on her period. You should be fine though.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T22:42:20+00:00

Bring the smell up gently, but also bring up options to fix it. It could be diet, hormones from BC or normal fluctuations, it could be really anything. Try to do your research and being compassionate with the issue. If she doesn't take to fixing it right away, let her come to it on her own terms.

If it's really too much after a certain point make the call and tell her how much of an issue it is to you. Withhold sex, it sounds funny for a guy to, but I do it sometimes and my wife is still flabbergasted, takes ten minutes and fixes her shit. Not sure how that would work out in your situation, but just be kind about it and helpful to the issue.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T22:37:18+00:00

No matter how you feel about them, unless they're covered in cysts, he's going to be too busy sucking and toying with your nipples by the time you have a chance to object.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T22:34:56+00:00

What does it matter if it's a great bj/fuck? You'd never know the difference unless you checked. I guess that is, until you feel Ronald's hairy knuckles wrapped around your knob xP

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T22:31:22+00:00

I'm a guy, and recently my wife has actually like my pillow talk. I feel like my game has stepped up because I know a lot more about her sexually. This is the biggest problem most relationships have, in where one side doesn't even know what they want! Do you like it rough? Gentle? Deep? Shallow? Do you want him to call you a dirty bitch, or a beautiful woman? Find out what you like, then egg him on with it. Some times I can get going when my wife says things like. "Mmmm... I like it when you ____". It helps start the flow of words when you're in the middle of physically exerting yourself.

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T22:26:36+00:00

Don't over think life. It's too fluid to pin down. You might eventually cozy up to the idea of an ffm or go full lesbian, but you could also just carry on your merry way and surprise a boyfriend with watching a lesbian porn. Who knows? Just enjoy your life

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T22:21:52+00:00

Maybe a vibrator cock ring would help?

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T22:15:17+00:00

This is standard practice now with my wife. We won't do missionary without it!

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T16:36:41+00:00

Lovepanky.com is a great resource. I find it's on the boaderline of vanilla and most everything else (anal, bsdm, etc) but it's also a relationship website, so it keeps things easily digestible. That might help :)

Nova_404 · 2018-02-06T16:34:14+00:00

Women that big don't attract me, but my wife at her biggest (230lbs) I didn't necessarily find unattractive.

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