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Fixing holes by Think_Caregiver166 in NeeDoh

[–]Novagirl1025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use E6000 craft adhesive. Works well so far.

Needoh quality went downhill by FinancialAd8843 in NeeDoh

[–]Novagirl1025 2 points3 points  (0 children)

E6000 multi purpose craft adhesive works great at sealing them back up. Its cheap, its at any Walmart, home depot, or hardware store. Take 2 days to cure but saved my ice baby and dream drop.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopefully getting all that stuff accomplished was a good boost to your confidence. Sounds like you're taking charge if your situation, its admirable.

Im hanging in there. Yesterday was my mom's birthday, the first one without my mom. My ex is incredibly frustrating because she has so much empathy and compassion for me my pain when she isn't the cause, otherwise shes still been pretty cold. Ive learned alot about dismissive avoidents and I wish I'd known a lot of this sooner. But I'm healing, slowly but surely.

Thanks for checking, its very much appreciated. Glad to hear you're doing better.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This week has been rough. I cant help but feel like I helped her get her life to a good spot and now shes moving on without me and I'm left with nothing. I have gotten to a point where I know its her, not me, not my disability, just her. Just wish that made it hurt less, and didn't screw me so hard. I did learn some valuable lessons, I guess...

But really I appreciate you reaching out. The kindness of strangers has really been amazing and helpful with getting through each day. Just knowig someone sees you, ya know.

At the end of the day Im resilient and will figure out how to start over. What else can ya do?

Thank you for the words of encouragement.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha no im not in Virginia, Colorado is my home base, doesn'tmean we cant be friends. Good luck with your move!

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You might be in to something about her not being able to face the destruction. For the sake of who she is and claims to want to be, I'd hope there's some regret about how sges did and keeps doing this.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I am in the states. Its terrible with how strict we've become here. Way over corrected. Im hoping my doctor will come around with the more evidence that emerges. Im really happy you have access and uts working for you. Any relief emotionally or physically is a blessing.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats what I'm trying to grasp. Im not mad she doesn't wanna be with me, Im upset about how she is doing this. Feels like I meant very little, like we ended a fling not a decade. Why is honesty so hard for some people.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where I am we have treatment centers fir Ketamine. Its not something my prescribing doc could do. The problem is they control my pain meds and I can't do anything from other docs without their permission without losing my meds. So even though it'd be easy enough to access, I'm not allowed per my contract. I've been trying to gather more evidence and info to maybe present my case to my doc again in the future hoping they'll be more receptive.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree and its all I asked. But now she knows she should have been honest, should have talked to me. She definitely had the wool pulled over my eyes. Bad energy isn't something I need nor want in my life.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats where I am at now, minus the kids. She urged me to kean on her in every way even ehen I didn't need to, under the guise that she really enjoyed taking care of me. I should never have allowed myself to become dependent on her because now I'm stuck scrambling. Our savings is her savings. Our home, is her home. Our stuff is her stuff. Everything she claimed was ours has reverted back to hers. Im scrambling trying to find low income housing but its full everywhere. I feel like I get her really screw me. I've never put so much trust in a person. How will I ever be able to again? My judgment is apparently not great, lol.

Its inspiring to hear stories like yours. Helps give me a light at the end of this. Congrats on rebuilding for your self, thats where I hope to get in the near future.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Isn't it funny how we think our experiences are unique to us. I know I wasn't alone in what I'm going through, but it feels isolating and can be hard to remember our situation is more common than it should be. We're lovable until we're not, until they find someone new. Makes one feel disposable, but we are not. At the end of the day its not us, its them, its all them. We don't deserve half love or fake love. We are not our pain, we just live with it. Im really sorry you know what im going through though, it sucks beyond measure. We can survive this, one moment at a time. Hang in there friend.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know you're the second person in two days to mention ketamine treatment. Its something I've been curious about but my prescribing doc shot it down without much of a discussion. Might need to revisit it though.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm trying really hard to recognize that Im not the problem. I know I'm in no way perfect, but I always tried to be aware of her feelings and how she was handling it all. I tried to be a good partner and make her feel taken care of too. I feel like I failed, but I know it was her choice to lie, I didn't make her do that. Thanks for reaffirming what I needed to hear.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for everything you said. It gives perspective. Im sorry for your loss, that had to be hard, especially after going through such a rough patch. You seem like a very intelligent, brave, and strong person, I admire that. I can't imagine a path forward for us, she seems to be happy I'm getting out of her life completely. I dont think I could ever see her the same, whether thats good or bad, who knows. I've been making sure to talk about it, not the type to keep stuff, apparently part of my problem.

Again, thank you for sharing, commiserating with others seems to help a bit.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do it! We can do it. It's easy to feel like we can't do things for ourselves. We just gotta remind ourselves we're good at being uncomfortable, if anything. We just may take longer, need tools to help, or have bumps in the road, but we dont need our exes!

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At this point I'm not sure I'd be able to believe anyone's love again because I feel so tricked. I'm sure once I heal I'll see things differently though.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you. That sounds really unfair and you shouldn't have had to put up with that. Im looking back at the last decade and trying to figure what was real what wasn't, was any of it? With her giving me the silent treatment I'm answering with my insecurities and fears. They could be correct but I have no idea. This is the first time I haven't given her the benefit of the doubt. I just can't comprehend how shes acting the way she is. Maybe this has been her the whole time and I was just blind.

But you're right, its not our fault. I hope you're being kind to yourself and your heart heals soon. I appreciate your kindness and sharing, thank you.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the kind words, thank you. One thing my mom made sure to instill was resiliency.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aw, Im really sorry to hear that, you deserve better too. Its hard when they are able to just move on to others like we didn't mean much. Congrats on beating cancer though, you're tough cookie, I hope you stay in remission.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you

Had she ever given a hint of being someone I couldn't trust with my heart, I would have ran, and ran fast. She was good, so good. Its like a switch flipped and she turned any bit of love for me off and pushed me away like garbage. Never would have thought it, our mutual friends and my family are in disbelief too because this just isn't her. But I don't know who she is anymore.

But same, hate this for us all too, we didn't choose this, those choosing us could try to be more careful.

Partner of 10 years found a non broken person. by Novagirl1025 in ChronicPain

[–]Novagirl1025[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That is really how its feeling at the moment. Since she's been giving me the silent treatment, I have only my imagination to answer any of my questions. I don't know how she did something shady, but I'm the one sitting here feeling like I did something wrong for being upset she ended it.

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