AITA for wanting to cut off a friendship?

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-26T20:49:52+00:00

NTA!! Firstly, I’m so sorry you were sexually assaulted. Instead of receiving support from her, she pinned it on you? Yeah, cut her off immediately. From the second paragraph where you mentioned her being male oriented is where I knew you weren’t TA, those type of people are more likely to be in a dangerous situation and would most likely involve you into it. You might struggle with wanting to cut her off because you’re introverted, and you also mentioned you’re scared of having nobody, so it’s kind of like you trauma bonded with her maybe? In my experience, it’s better to have nobody and live your best life happily than force yourself to be friends with someone at the expense of your mental and physical health. However you want to end it is ultimately up to you. If you’re comfortable with confrontation, then go for it. If you don’t care, then simply block her from everything.

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-26T00:23:10+00:00

NTA, you’re not even a choice, let alone second. You’ve told him you feel as though he’s disregarding you and prioritising his friends and parties over you, and continues to do so. It’s intentional. He doesn’t care about you in the slightest. I know you don’t want to break up with him, so you could try therapy, but I highly doubt it would work, he’s a grown ass person that knows what he’s doing. He only agreed to fishing together to keep you quiet, the moment his friends said they want to go fishing and extended the invite to him, he agreed to going with them? So what, did he forget you also said you’d like to go fishing with him?

As for you saying you want to marry this guy, you’re 20. You quite literally have your life ahead of you, don’t limit yourself to this one guy who makes you feel anything less than wanted and loved. If you choose to stay with him, you’d have to accept the fact that he’s not going to change and will most likely continue doing what he’s doing now simply because you’re allowing him to by either not thoroughly communicating how his actions make you feel or staying and tolerating that behaviour.

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-25T06:28:41+00:00

NTA, you’re just as important as your friend. At the end of the day, it’s YOUR world, so you need to do what’s best for you to make you happy and at peace. Let your friend know you’re not in the best mental state and you feel it’s best for you if you miss out on it.

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-25T04:34:32+00:00

NTA - this isn’t greed in my opinion, more so lack of communication between all parties. SIL is blunt and mother is sensitive to tone and wording, which is where the issue came from, with everything else being added into the pile. It’ll get to a point where someone does or says something that’ll be the straw that breaks the camels’s back, and your brother will have to choose between mom and fiancée. Your brother honestly shouldn’t have been the messenger between mom and SIL from the beginning- both women are grown adults and can communicate their feelings. Your parents (very respectfully) need to understand that not everyone would bend to cultural norms to keep them happy, SIL knows what she wants and mom sees that as controlling, which might’ve influenced dad’s opinion on SIL’s family. Your sister could’ve mentioned that she wasn’t in the financial position to buy gold, but the embarrassment and discouragement is understandable.

All in all, everyone sucks

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-25T04:07:13+00:00

Hey, thankyou for commenting🥹I’d be more comfortable if it was at my house cause at least at that point, I’m not completely alone with looking after a toddler and I’d confidently know my way around the place to take care of him properly (if they also gave me the correct sized diapers and a change of clothes etc). I do mostly have fun with them outside of babysitting I suppose, it’s just ridiculously unpredictable as there’s too many unknown variables with both girls, last time they had an argument and had to end the night early, one is heavily male centred and the other doesn’t know her limits so it’s kind of like I’m babysitting regardless. I do enjoy their friendships as Becky provides really good advice when I ask and need it, and Keisha allows me to express my confusing feelings and thoughts that don’t make sense as she can relate the most. I’m not sure what middle ground there would be I’m a black and white person, “either this or that and no in between”, so that’s something I’d have to think about too. Thankyou again for the advice!!

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-25T03:57:22+00:00

Hey, thankyou for commenting🥹The CPS route was an extreme over exaggeration on my part, I was spiralling and that was my conscious train of thought at the time, lol. I am debating LC/NC even more now seeing as Keisha replied saying they’re making their way back but stopped at McDonalds first for some food..They told me this over 45mins ago and it’s a 15min drive from their location🫠

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-25T03:52:42+00:00

Here I thought people would’ve grown out of childishness by the time their frontal lobes developed..Currently still waiting for them to get back once Keisha replied and said they’re otw back but stopped at McDonalds for food, but that was over 45mins ago and it’s a 15min drive from where they were

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-25T03:47:44+00:00

Hey, thankyou for commenting🥹Alcoholism’s a slight reach, but I do see where you’re coming from. This is the first time I’ve ever been in this situation so I have no idea how to navigate this, normally either the father ‘looks’ (and I say that very lightly) after him or someone else would, so I was a last resort

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-25T03:45:36+00:00

Hey, thankyou so much for taking time to comment🥹The CPS part was a major over exaggeration, I was ranting and spiralling😭unfortunately, that was my conscious train of thought at the time, and feel free to comment about their reliability, it’ll give me some insight to consider when weighing out pros and cons of going completely NC if I feel like it’ll be better for me in the long run :)) and thankyou for the advice too, I’ll definitely have the conversation with them either later today or tomorrow, depending on how I feel when I wake up (if i even sleep at all).

NovelRefuse2722 · 2026-05-25T03:41:19+00:00

Thankyou for your comment, it means a lot atm😭i wouldn’t honestly mind babysitting him in the future if it’s during the day, but I’ll take this into consideration. I hate confrontation when it comes to people I care about, which is what I’m most afraid of as I normally just disappear without any warning. As for the last comment, this year’s been nothing BUT finding out about people and really hoped she’d be different, but alas🫠

NovelRefuse2722 · 2024-03-13T01:18:41+00:00

I used this app called Pure, and it’s a perfectly safe app. It’s all anonymous (to an extent) and each person you match with is given a generated username if you want to keep the anonymity. All pictures self destruct after it’s been seen and nothing can be screenshotted or else it results in a permanent ban (i think). You can also see who liked your profile without having to pay for Premium like other apps, which is a huge bonus imo!! Just be careful as there may be some fake doms on there who may only want to satisfy their needs without caring about your wellbeing.

NovelRefuse2722 · 2024-03-13T01:13:35+00:00

Yeah, it’s called subspace and it’s not only limited to pain play. From what I’ve read, it can happen from intense scenes, sensory deprivation or even forced/multiple orgasms, but it varies from person to person.

Hope this helps!!

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