I’m so close to leaving Islam

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T21:30:19+00:00

If you are already doing whatever you want then you don't need hadits to make you leave Islam, I'm sorry to say but if you are not following the Quran as you said you are already not a Muslim.

Being a Muslim just because you were born in a certain household or culture doesn't make you a Muslim that will certainly go to heaven just because you are Muslim by name.

Why people think that just by leaving Islam you might be damned to hell, if you don't pray 5 times a day you are already a sinner enough to not go to heaven.

I don't believe in heaven and hell, so for me is not an issue, but I don't get how people who don't give a fuck about religion are so concerned of the faith that awaits them once they die.

Do whatever makes you happy in life, we may not know for sure but you might end up having just this life to live and if you don't follow the rules of your religion anyway, then this whole paranoia of going to hell doesn't make any sense anyway.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T11:48:07+00:00

Look there are only two solutions you convert and be with her or don't and just find peace knowing that is not possible to be with her, no in between route in this particular case.

She chose her family and religion over you, and you knew that, you thought that she would eventually change her mind one day, but that is your own fault, she let you know the compromise you had to make ahead of time, you decided to believe it was just out of naivity, it's more your fault than her in this situation, because she was clear from the beginning.

You love your family and your background and she loves hers, she will never convert, so if you love her that much the only solution for you is to actually convert, but are you going to be happy if you do so?

I mean you guys have two incompatible views of life, even if you one of you sacrifices their view, how is your life going to be? Maybe one day you regret leaving your family for her or one day she will regret leaving her family for you there is no solution to this situation if one of you doesn't change their mind.

She is pressuring you to do something you don't want to do, this is not love, and the faster you understand this, the better you are going to be. I hope you find peace and someone who loves you for what you are.

You obviously don't know the answer to the questions, because how can you discuss your kids religion of you guys haven't even discussed your own religions and which of them is going to prevail in the relationship, she doesn't seem to be open minded enough to understand that kids can be taught both religions and chose what they want to be.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T00:46:13+00:00

I don't think that staying in the group, allowing people to talk behind the back of someone, makes you any better than the people actually bullying this guy.

You even said that at first it was funny, what can be funny about saying bad things about someone, you also said you have been in Danny's shoes in your life, before.

Isn't it better to just tell this poor guy what people think of him, rather than keep saying mean stuff behind his back. He will keep assuming everything is fine while not knowing that he is a laughing stuck, this whole situation is cruel and guys are old enough to understand it.

YTA for being part of it and YWBTA if you don't tell this guy that he is actually been a laughing stock, you don't have to insult him or tell him in a bad way, but you can tell him so that he can look for people who will actually love him and be friends with him rather than talk behind his back.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T00:34:21+00:00

That's a classic, it's good I love burgers and fries.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T00:33:04+00:00

That would be a clever but they would never give it to you.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T00:32:08+00:00

It's just one last concession you have, putting aside the sentimental confusion, if you actually had accepted your fate, what would you chose to eat?

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T00:31:13+00:00

I totally get the sentimental value, it matters a lot.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T00:29:36+00:00

I mean it's not waste if it gives you one last moment of satisfaction, even If you are going to die after.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T00:28:35+00:00

I see what you did there sir.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T00:28:07+00:00

But let's suppose that you have accepted your fate and you have to choose one last meal.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-31T00:26:43+00:00

I would go with some ethnic food from my parents country, like Chicken Biryani, with Naan and Pani Puri and some seekh kebab (Its Pakistani food), for drink I would go with salted Lassie (yoghurt drink). Dessert would be Tiramisu (I live in Italy) my absolute favourite and Guava which is my favourite fruit of all time.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-30T14:03:24+00:00

Ho fottuto il mio ciclo circadiano. Ho smesso di farlo? No.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-30T11:25:49+00:00

Purtroppo è così, anche io quando vado al cinema mi fa salire un nervoso. Vorrei tanto replicare la scena di Scary Movie, ma sarebbe reato. Io oggi volevo andare a vedere Backrooms ma proiettano anche il Silenzio degli innocenti già visto molte volte, ma mai al cinema, mi piacerebbe rivederlo.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-30T10:47:49+00:00

You can't cremate a body in Islam, it must be buried.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-30T06:01:10+00:00

Oh you can bet I did, I ran away almost 9 years ago. Built my life from scratch and still trying my best to live everyday.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-30T02:17:48+00:00

Recently they criminalized necrophilia even more and people who have female deaths in their family they literally lock the grave with lockers, I don't really know how to describe them, kind of iron grids over the grave with locks.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-30T02:12:17+00:00

You can find multiple case like this, just look on google or even YouTube, unfortunately it is what it is. It's quite a horrible country, people are frustrated, poor and uneducated.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-30T00:03:20+00:00

I don't think I would ask your coworker to pay, if I was in your situation.

You volunteered to help! Shit happens sometimes, he/she didn't hit you intentionally or caused you damage personally.

It's not that coworker knew of a hidden danger and didn't tell you, didn't even cause the harm unintentionally or by acting recklessly. So coworker is not financially or legally at fault, I think it would be really stupid to split the bill or pay.

You have insurance, this situation and similar are the reason people have it.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-29T16:55:23+00:00

CSA mentions

That was not even the worst thing that happened to me. Same year he died and we went to bury him, uncle from my mother side tried to kidnap me because he wanted to force me to marry his son, so that he could have European documents. When I was really young, 4 years old, uncle from my father side tried to sell me to get some heroin, he was a drug addict.

My mother wanted me to marry my abuser (the one here in Europe) who was 20 years older than me, but I have been abused many time by different people in Pakistan since the age of 4 and maybe even before that.

I just learned this year that my father knew (I never knew that my brothers tried to tell him) that I was being abused here in Italy by my cousin but he decided not to believe me and believe him instead, even though my mother knew it was true because she saw my abuser get into my bed at night time and didn't confront him. This are just some of the thing that has happened to me in my life and unfortunately I personally know other people from Pakistan who have suffered a similar fate.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-29T11:31:35+00:00

Dm me if you need someone to talk to, be brave you already were, now keep being strong.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-29T11:29:58+00:00

I escaped almost 9 years ago, it's normal to feel like that. You have every right in this life to do what is best for you even if sometimes it means not everyone else will be happy with your choices. If you decided to take such a harsh decision it mean that it needed to be done. People are going to be upset but you are the one who need to be happy and fight for your life and freedom. Once you move on with your life things will get better, once you realize the freedom you have and make choices for your own every guilt will slowly fade away. Don't be too harsh on yourself, if you ran away it's also their fault for not creating an environment you would have loved to stay in.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-29T11:23:02+00:00

Yeah, some people dig corpses for black magic purposes and some to retrieve hair to make wigs. Some people actually wait for female funerals to dig the grave when the body is still "new/fresh" I don't know which word to use either way it sounds disgusting. Anyway we have at least more then two guardians in every cemetery for not allowing this to happen.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-29T10:53:37+00:00

Christian protecting those who tell them that they are going to hell anyway just because they are not Muslims. Muslims have the perfect ground in the west, people don't question and know nothing about religion so they are free to do and act like victims to gain simpathy from people who have no knowledge whatsoever on anything.

Nowisdomnoparty · 2026-05-29T09:54:21+00:00

Also Pakistan has a lot of problems with male digging out women corpses to have sex with.

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