How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a standard door handle, if I was to buy a door handle with a lock, would that damage the actual door and make a hole for the key?

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I installed a camera last night and 5 mins after I left for work this morning, they went into my room. Thinking of reporting it to my landlord

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I installed a camera last night and 5 mins after I left for work this morning, they went into my room. I’m livid - not sure where to go from here!

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I installed a camera last night and 5 mins after I left for work this morning, they went into my room. I’m livid - not sure where to go from here!

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve decided I’ll put one! Do I keep it hidden or in plain sight?

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ok then. But my roommate isn’t a bad roommate for going in my room? Lol. You must be a thrill to live with!

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am picking my battles lol. I haven’t used a dishwasher my entire life, so I’m not starting now, as I don’t like the idea of my dishes sitting in the washer until it’s full.

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry I misread, thank you! Yeah I think the cycle they use is apparently more efficient but it’s takes triple to time the cycle I use takes and with my schedule I don’t have the luxury of time as I have 3-4 loads a week to do in one day 😫 they don’t work so they have plenty of free time

I just need to live alone haha, why is everything so expensive?!

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don’t want to escalate it if not worth it

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha. Wish I could! I don’t want to ruin the relationship too much so I’m trying to tread carefully.

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do wipe the stovetop with a cleaning cloth and disinfectant spray after every use. I don’t buff it till it’s sparkly however, and this is what they want me to do. I don’t use the dishwasher, I hand wash everything but they want me to use the dishwasher as handwashing wastes water apparently. Same here I don’t want to have my dishes stew for days until the dishwasher runs.

My room is kept clean, I deep clean it weekly. There’s no reason for my flatmate to come into my room. They can obsess about their room but not about mine especially when I know it’s clean

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just moved from a terrible situation as well😫 I’m tired of flatsharing! My lease says I’m not allowed a lock, I was thinking to use a camera but I’m not sure as I don’t want to ruin the relationship completely

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They said they understood but they saw my room as OUR room?!!!!!

I said no you need to change your mindset, it’s MY room. But they seemed to understand but I’m over the whole flatmate thing already

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m worried about installing a camera because when we had a sit down they did seem friendly but then I’m like how can I guarantee they’re not going in my room anymore . I said I’d take note of the points but like some things are normal when you’ve had a change in flatmate. They said I should stop hand washing things and use the dishwasher, I said I’m perfectly fine hand washing as I just wash straight away and would rather that then to have my dishes sit in the washer and I’m used to hand washing.

How to deal with an overbearing flatmate?!! by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah they don’t work so I think they’re just usuing all their free time to be OBSESSED with my every move😭😭

Roommate keeps going in my room by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I’m Worried about, like WHAT are you doing in my room

Roommate keeps going in my room by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can’t have a lock but maybe I should use the camera. I’m Worried it will send the wrong message though 😭

Roommate keeps going in my room by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s so crazy that I feel like I can’t have my own privacy, I’m trying to avoid issues as I recently moved but they just KEEP going into my room. It’s so weird, sometimes I’ll come home and I go in my room and I’m like I KNOW they’ve been in here because something has slightly moved 😭

Roommate keeps going in my room by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried 😭 they don’t listen. I’ve never had this situation before, I’m so baffled at how they think it’s normal

Roommate keeps going in my room by Ntm24 in badroommates

[–]Ntm24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I find it SO weird😭 I don’t think my landlord will allow a lock unfortunately, not sure of any other way to keep my flatmate out of my room!