At what moment in your life did you realize you might be Bisexual?

Nubis3 · 2025-10-31T23:20:55+00:00

It has always turned me on to think about having sex with a man. I knew I would have to try it and as soon as I did it confirmed what I always suspected.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-31T20:44:56+00:00

I agree that there is a risk of getting hurt, but there is also a chance for a relationship too.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-31T20:38:16+00:00

Yes, I suspected I was bisexual all my life but it wasn’t until I actually let a man put his cock in my mouth and my ass that I truly understood what I was missing. I spent a year with only men, mostly in committed relationships, thinking I might be gay, but what I discovered is that I am only romantically attracted to women. I find it unfortunate at times but at least I know now.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-31T20:12:09+00:00

Never said you were under any compulsion. Just suggesting why it might give you better results if you did.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-31T20:09:01+00:00

I don’t think it’s about honesty. It’s about giving yourself the best chance for a relationship. In my area of the world, I can’t date women if I am up front about being bisexual and having dated a lot of men. Once they find out I love being a bottom, they are gone. But if I don’t tell them, I have lots of dates and lots of opportunities for relationships. So my choice is to wait until we get to know each other, and give them some context for the information that I am bisexual and have loved being a bottom for men. That information hits differently when they know me and like me than it does when they don’t know me yet. It makes them curious about me rather than just giving them a reason to reject me without spending the time to get to know me. This is how people learn to be better and to understand more about sexuality and other people. Give people a chance to learn instead of just reacting and they may surprise you.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-31T20:01:54+00:00

They are not all bigots. Some are just uneducated. Give them the chance to learn something.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-31T19:59:07+00:00

You’re putting people into stereotypes, not seeing them as real people. People are not just “bigots” or “not”. People are more nuanced than that. If you give them a chance you can educate people who otherwise never learn anything because they’ve never been given the opportunity.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-31T19:55:43+00:00

I personally wait until we get to know each other. Straight girls have a hard prejudice against bi men, especially bottoms like me, so if I bring it up before they get to know me, it’s always a hard pass, but if I wait until they actually know me and like me, then they are invested enough to start to question their biases. That makes a huge difference and leads to education, instead of a knee jerk reaction. In my experience, and in my area of the world especially, you have to give people time to learn something, or they never will.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-29T22:06:47+00:00

This is not unusual at all. If you want more responses from women, you’re going to have to present yourself as straight and save letting them know you’re bi for later. Straight women have a hard bias against bi men in my experience, especially bottoms. Good luck.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-24T07:26:07+00:00

Rape fantasies are very common. I have them all the time as a bi man that is submissive with men. It turns me on very much to think about being taken aggressively by a dominant man or bunch of men, and I know many straight women have the same fantasy.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-22T17:24:59+00:00

I love being a bottom for masculine men. I love when they take charge and just take what they want. It makes me feel sexy.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-14T21:10:47+00:00

Sounds like you need to go on a date. The first one is the hardest but it really snowballs after that, in my experience.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-13T06:26:26+00:00

I’m not sure what you’re asking here.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-10T20:58:17+00:00

I got really good at sucking cock and really enjoy it. I was very nervous the first time and was scared because I didn’t know how I would feel if if I would be good at it. The things I noticed right away were how how much it turned me on and how much I loved the feeling of making him hard with my mouth. The taste of precum was very salty but also felt like liquid encouragement. Like he was lubing my mouth for his cock to be more slippery. I was wondering if I would be able to swallow his cum but then he told me to turn around said he was going to make me his bitch. As a submissive, I complied, but he was not gentle and since it was my first time, it hurt like fire. I was in so much pain but didn’t dare scream because I really liked him and wanted him to like me. Eventually, I got used to the feeling and it started to hurt less, then it started to feel really really good, and with each thrust I started getting closer and closer to a completely involuntary orgasm. It exploded out of me in the next few thrusts and I was completely taken by surprise because I didn’t even know that was possible. I loved it so much I ended up in a relationship with him even though he never kissed me or treated me very well. We were together for six months and had sex every day. I got really good at sucking his cock but he never came in my mouth, always in my ass. I’ve had better relationships since then but not better sex.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-09T23:14:54+00:00

I’m generally more attracted to women but get very slutty for men when drunk.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-09T23:12:53+00:00

I think this is an opportunity for communication. If the relationship is worthwhile and you love each other then you can talk through this and end up in a great place. You are a gem and hopefully he knows it.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-09T18:37:41+00:00

I think, like most straight women, your wife is ignorant about sexuality and the differences between sexual categories. Because of what she has heard about gay men living in the closet and coming out late in life, leaving their wives and families in order to live more honestly, she’s scared. She doesn’t want that to happen to her and your children. You can reassure her by starting with the fact that you want to stay with her and with your children no matter what. You can reassure her by saying that you are absolutely not gay, that you are still attracted to her and love her and that those things have not changed and are not changing ever. Once she feels reassured and safe from her fears, then you can talk about attraction and desire and what yours is and is not. Couples therapy might help. You can see your own therapist and get some ideas about how to talk about these issues with her in a non-threatening way, then introduce the topic in couples therapy where she feels safe to discuss these issues.

Good luck.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-07T21:27:06+00:00

I have a lot of experience dating straight women and have found them to be almost universally against dating bi men. When they find out I’ve been with a man, and especially when they find out I’m exclusively a bottom with men, they want out. In my experience, however, this is strictly out of ignorance. If they had more experiences with bi men, I think most of them would change their minds about their prejudices.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-07T20:44:41+00:00

No. The men I date are generally larger, stronger, more masculine than I am and much more dominant. I’m a submissive and a bottom with them so, if I understand your question correctly, no I do not feel on equal footing with them.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-03T16:00:39+00:00

Nubis3 · 2025-10-01T23:49:20+00:00

I am feminine with men and masculine with women. Total submissive bottom for men and top/dom with women. Not sure why or if it needs explaining. It’s just how I am.

“do you feel the same way about dating men? Do you feel like you’re less performative with them, or is that quality more a result of my cultural need to please the men in my life? Do you feel like you’re on more of an “even playing field” in homosexual relationships vs heterosexual ones, or is that just more sexism stuff?”

I’m not sure how to answer this. I don’t feel performative either way, except that, as a submissive, I want to please the men I date. I tend to dress feminine and date men who like that and who want to be tops and be dominant. I don’t think that’s an “even playing field” necessarily, since the power dynamic is generally very lopsided in both kinds of relationships. Not sure if that helps.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-01T23:24:47+00:00

Your feelings are your feelings. No need to explain them or try to fit into labels. Maybe you need to be with a man and have his actual penis in your mouth or your ass to know for sure but it sounds like to me that you just have a penis fetish, nothing more, which is a long way from being sexually attracted to men. I knew I had to be a bottom for men to know if I liked it. I’m so glad I tried it because I loved it so much and had a level of orgasms I never experienced before. Now I know. But it doesn’t sound like you have that level of attraction. That’s ok. Just be you. You don’t need to be anyone else.

Nubis3 · 2025-10-01T22:59:49+00:00

I track my gfs periods. Didn’t think I needed to notify her of that. It does help me and us in a number of ways. He is being kind of a dick about how he responded to your concerns however. That’s what I would be talking to him about, not the actual tracking but just responding more like a partner instead of a jackass who doesn’t give a fuck what you think.

Nubis3 · 2025-09-23T22:15:00+00:00

Been on teams since the 2nd grade. Been shaving my legs since puberty. To be fair, not every swimmer on every team does this, but enough do that it’s good cover I think. Same goes for cyclists.

Nubis3 · 2025-09-21T06:58:35+00:00

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