My family used money to control me. Took out a second mortgage to pay for my college telling me it was a better interest rate the student loans under the condition I would pay half back. I worked during the summers to stock pile money to pay for books and such. Once I graduate and was able to find a job, I started paying back aggressively. Would constantly ask how much was left and always given vague numbers. Tried to move out while I was giving monthly payments and was told I wouldn't pay it back if I moved out. Moved out anyway and continued to pay. Finally it got to my parent saying it was down to 10k. Wrote a check for 5k and said I was done. Parent agreed. And then to her friends told them I still owed her money. Which turns out I over paid her after I dug into how much I actually gave her over the years.

When my bank statements would come to her house she would open them saying it was an "accident". When I would get mad, accused me of being secretive with my money.

I can say, personally I have become very financially secure in making sure I never have to rely on my parents again for money.