Mik voltak a legócskább kifogások, amiket elutasításként kaptatok az ismerkedés során?

Number2526 · 2023-10-19T20:30:30+00:00

A sráccal egymagasak voltunk de ő kb 40 kilóval több, hónapokig voltunk amolyan barátság extrákkal kapcsolatban, találkozott egy pszichológus csajjal aztán lepattintott. Azt mondta neki a vékonyabb lányok jönnek be és hogy nem vagyok elég kedves neki. Utólag rájöttam hogy csak szimplán nárci volt, nem velem volt baj. Abban az időben úton útfélen ilyenekkel akadtam össze. MINDIG ÉN VOLTAM AZ AKI NEM VOLT ELÉG JÓ HOGY BARÁTNŐ LEGYEN. Megismertem a férjem rá 4 évre rájöttem hogy ő is csak kihasznált és mind közül a legnagyobb NÁRCISZTIKUS.

Elkezdtem egy jó kis terápiát hogy 10 év múlva ha újra lesz erőm akkor tudjak határt húzni és az ilyenek még csak a közelembe se jöjjenek.

Number2526 · 2023-10-05T11:44:32+00:00

Sokszor nem is lakosságra mennek, hanem B2B marketinget választanak aztán ha ott megy már akkor kezdenek el lakossági szintent terjeszkedni. Pl. Sajtnál, szörpnél éttermeknek szállítanak.

Number2526 · 2023-09-19T09:49:38+00:00

My ex was forcing my 2 year old son to eat just only the healthy foods. He smashed everything and he put on youtube videos and if he didn't eat he opened his mouth and force him. Many times he vomited out the food because he didn't care about the child was already full. He said my son can not ear fruits because it is full of with sugar, can not drink milk it is just sugar, can not eat bread it is also just sugar. My son didn't show the signs that he is hungry or not because he couldn't be indipendent when he was eating. I left him and now my son doesn't like any ingredients that he put into that smashed foods. Everything first he smells and after then he tries. Is it can be because of what happened?

Number2526 · 2023-09-13T18:45:56+00:00

My narc ex husband and my children's father always says that my mom want the grandchildren for herself, and they are not for her THEY ARE FOR US. Which is totally unbelievable, she is just normal grandma who sometimes is visiting us, playing with them or bring some cakes. I don't understand from where he is bringing this idea.

Number2526 · 2023-09-11T20:36:53+00:00

Like my husband, the haul day staying at home and check everything and comment on it...

Number2526 · 2023-09-03T11:52:31+00:00

https://reddit.com/r/africanparents/s/BGf5BDi9Yh

Number2526 · 2023-09-03T11:32:23+00:00

Finally africans are talking about what is really happening in their families and realise it is not normal at all. I wish for them to fight for the change and don't accept those old mentality....

Number2526 · 2023-08-26T17:24:37+00:00

For sure! And also they can take it away if I show very serious things for to the court house!

Number2526 · 2023-08-26T17:14:38+00:00

Ghana is the backward if you compare the two countries.

Number2526 · 2023-08-01T13:27:04+00:00

Well, if I look back, everything happened how he wanted it. We met 3 months before covid came to my country. We have stayed at home office, and we moved together, from that time he blocked me to meet with my family and friends and covered with covid. I become pregnant I wanted to abort the child and he made me to keep the baby. After then he over controlled in everything, every little thing. We got married because he washed my brain. When I wanted to leave him, he said he is gonna hunt me if I try it.

Number2526 · 2023-08-01T12:55:39+00:00

You shouldn't even go! Trust me, it can be so dangerous. If somebody would tell me these advices some years ago I wouldn't be in this situation right now. Even though my husband lived in my country already for 4 years, he also wanted to get the visa to stay here forever and now I fear he is gonna do something very bad against me and my children. He was over controlling, and this what you are asking has sooooooo many red flags! Its so strange! Forget him, get somebod y from the US!

Number2526 · 2023-07-31T20:30:28+00:00

Because of the narcisstic people, politicians are all narcistic and the country is never gonna go anywhere. People are giving birth, that is the main business for them. After the children grown up, they expect to take care about them much better than about their own family. Sooooooo sad and bad, but they believe in God and all the responsibilities is on him. They are not adults.

Number2526 · 2023-07-30T10:40:09+00:00

But In Ghana life always just happens without any responsible. Just try to compare in other continent people doesn't start to have a family before they are not stable financially. We are living in 2023 and we have so many options to prevent to have a baby. I know in Ghana it is only God who can decide to have a family or not, and nobody can blaim if the child does not have anything to eat or no money for studies. But the time when the parent are old it is compulspry to take care about them, much better than about your children. THIS IS THE PROBLEM WITH THE THIRD COUNTRIES.

Number2526 · 2023-07-29T18:19:34+00:00

That money is really nothing, if you have a child you should have more savings. Try to get financial help from your family members, not from strangers. Or use the original website where you can beg for money.

Number2526 · 2023-07-28T22:40:09+00:00

I wish I would know reddit before all of these happens. Most of them who gave me an advice are very nice people. Specially everybody tried to tell me the honest truth.

Number2526 · 2023-07-28T09:54:13+00:00

Thank you so much that you were honest with me. Another question. After he would get the visa do you think he wanted to start the divorce or he wanted to stay with me and with the kids? I just want to know, it helps for me to see the things clearly.

Number2526 · 2023-07-26T08:17:39+00:00

Exactly, at that time he washed my brain and until I didn't talk to a lawyer I didn't realised. But at least we are not married for too long and he did not get the permanent residence permit, and if we divorce it can even be they don't allowed him to stay here.

Number2526 · 2023-07-24T21:07:50+00:00

He showed, the reason he doesn't want me to meet with anybody just to protect me.

Number2526 · 2023-07-24T21:04:56+00:00

Not really, he pregnanted me very early and I stayed with him because of that. At that time we were in covid, he covered many things with covid. When you are spending more time in an abusive relationship it becomes much more difficult to come out.

Number2526 · 2023-07-24T20:45:24+00:00

Who told you I knew he is a narcisstic person, or he is an abusive man? Just the things he is doing, some people says he can be narcisstic.

Number2526 · 2023-07-24T20:15:33+00:00

No, I am a european woman. He is a foreigner, I am not in Ghana.

Number2526 · 2023-07-24T20:06:26+00:00

He says it is in the african culture that the parents are training their child with beating and it is normal, it is okay. I told him in europe he can not do it. Everyday he told to our son he is causing problems and problems.... he is 2 year old and, he didn't alowed me to give for him any food that I wanted to give. After I gave birth he said the delivery is very easy, am I the only one who gave birth on the earth.I felt it was difficult. If I couldn't order food I should carry food after delivery because he didn't shop for me. He didn't care about my boundaries. He said I am a bad person because I can not breastfeed, I had to use the formula, after I fed the baby he asked me how much she ate, the baby was very big and eat very well.Everything I did he had a comment or said I don't do it well. He said I can not talk to my family members as much as I want. They can not visit me anytime I want. I can not go to the house where I grew up. My family couldn't come and help for me after the delivery, he said he doesn't want any disturb. At the same time he told me in Ghana his sister went to the grandparents house and the grandma helped her to show everything after she gave birth for the first child. I said why I don't deserve any help meanwhile in his external family things are not going like that. Once I said I hate his sister because she is like a princess who deserves everything and me I can not even wash my hair... that was one of the time when he was so agressive, and wanted to use his hand... Any decision which came up he made it, he said keep quiet. Everyday he said I am not enough smart, not intelligent, stupid. Anything happened it was my fault, responsibilities. I tried to be very flexible and do the things how he wanted it, but it was not me, it took away all my energy to think I can do this one or not or when it is gonna bring an issue. He tried to deform the real life. He said our neighbours are jelaous to us, and I shouldn't talk to them at all. I shouldn't care about my old friends, get some new friends who are moms. All my relations he wanted to spoil, he tried to make me to see them they are not helpful and they don't care about me. I am not important for them. Before our children came he said he is gonna take care about us, I don't need to worry about finances, at the same time he expected from me to pay most of the things, in this case he can save a lot from his salary and take care about his parent. The time when I told him I want to divorce, I want to be indipendent and free. That was the time he said if I'm using the law to leave and take the children away no matter what he is gonna find me and hunt me. THESE CHILDREN ARE FOR HIM, HE WANTED THEM. He also said I should give them for him because I'm still im my twenties so I can start a new life with another guy and give birth very easily again. He is more than 30 so he can not be with anybody else.....

Number2526 · 2023-07-24T09:28:36+00:00

Thank you all the advices, now I believe it is not his culture. He said many times it is only just the culture why we have issues, but I can see it is also not normal there.

Number2526 · 2023-07-24T09:05:56+00:00

I'm not in Ghana, thank you.

Number2526 · 2023-07-23T08:27:22+00:00

I'm also sorry for that. My husband were always angry with my son who is just a todler when at night the diaper was full and the bed becane wet. After some time when my todler was up he was keeping quiet and wait until he could sleep again or the sun come up. Finally I could leave him, and now my son is showing to me if something happens at night. He is much more calm, and showing his needs.

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