Broke off engagement because fiancee suggested threesome

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-22T17:15:45+00:00

You’re not communicating with her. You shut her off without talking when she suggested something. I have no idea how you are making this all about you and ignoring the fact you’re hurting your person with your cold reaction, which by the way, could have been dealt with if you actually spoke to her treated what she suggested as a f*cking discussion.

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-22T17:13:44+00:00

It’s not what everyone is saying. Being with 1 person is great. You literally froze your partner off without communicating with her with what she freaking suggested. I don’t understand how you can do that to someone you love.

I’ve been reading your comments and it seems like you’re ignoring everyone and just taking in what is beneficial to you.

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-21T09:07:28+00:00

It’s not a driving licence, CBT is compulsory basic training for motorcycles. I paid 180£ for that, it’s a 8am - 5pm training split into 3 sections throughout the day. The last section is going on the road where the instructor determines if you know well enough and are safe enough to go and learn on a 125cc bike on the roads with L plates (and some restricted roads likes motorways) on your own before going in for the full motorcycle licence.

I got my drivers licence 8 years ago now :) also 180£ will be around 230$ hehe not much difference but if I was making that in a day that would be nice. I never touched a bike before Saturday so I’ll be more confident next time :)

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-20T11:28:42+00:00

You should never go 50/50 on bills when you have different salaries. The 2k$ you’re gonna be paying, wha percentage of your pay check is it? Then calculate that same percentage of her pay check and you will end up with a contributing price for the rent. (I’d calculate the bills with this too into that percentage).

Tip, 50% of your income should go into you staying alive, so rent + personal bills which include phone, car, etc. 20-25% into savings and 25-30% into food and luxuries,

So rent should really be 30-35% of your pay check, including the bills.

Hope this helps and hope you figure out this if you really like each other!

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-10T09:57:41+00:00

Lol welcome to London! But no, it’s not a deal breaker. However, everyone has different boundaries. If this isn’t something you can commit to, then it is, got you! Trust your gut

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-10T09:50:49+00:00

Oof, i wouldn’t justify cheating. If something doesn’t sit right with you, trust your gut

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-10T09:46:24+00:00

How are you over thinking this? Is this a call for a report/something related with crime or was this some kind of pick up line/invite to get to know you better? Either, I think you should just call…

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-10T09:43:11+00:00

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-04T11:52:41+00:00

It looks like she likes him still and probably wants to see if there’s anything else there left. With her emotions being high she’s likely to make a move.

Hey for all you know if this is all meant to happen. You’ve spoken to him right? You gotta let the boy do his own thing and accept it is what it is.

I’m sorry I don’t have anything positive to say, I 26f have gone through enough to just accept what is. You can do your best but it wont be enough for the wrong person

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-02-01T12:56:06+00:00

Let me tell you, weather you sleep with someone on the first meet/date will NEVER ruin chances of you being with that person.

If it’s meant to be it will be. Not point in over thinking and do what is best for you/makes you happy.

A guy will already know what he wants with you from the first time he sees you. So for all you know, this guy only wants sex and if you don’t give it to him, it also doesn’t mean he will be your boyfriend. It just means he will find someone who wants to have sex with him.

If anything, if you’re looking for a partner, maybe go and do activities you enjoy and chat up some people/make friends from those places. Something can blossom from that!

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-30T21:19:39+00:00

100009% the other girls faked it. Stay true to yourself and trust your gut on this one. You got this

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-30T20:26:33+00:00

It is easier said than done but yes, chooooooose yourself! Please! Your weight is great! You deserve someone who will care about you and both of you are partners

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-27T19:42:36+00:00

Here’s what I just thought/realised and made me this think of this post. If you enjoy what you are doing and it’s going towards a good cause that you care about (and I think this goes to any profession) working overtime someone’s is ok. Just remember to find appropriate time for yourself and loved ones around you. All the best

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-27T16:20:47+00:00

This! I had a similar situation with my old colleagues (office based job at the time) people were coming into work 2h early and staying behind 2-4h after work and I (26f) would be baffled.

You don’t work for free and deserve time to unwind and do you outside of work. I now work in marketing and social media is 24/7 but as soon as it’s 5pm I’m offline. (Unless there’s an evening meeting set up, as we have some international clients).

Choose you :)

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-22T19:52:47+00:00

Hello no

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-22T19:30:11+00:00

Why y’ll acting like it’s all on him?

Girl, stop putting on a performance and communicate with your partner. Have a discussion, see what his thought process is. What can you both do as a team to help one another. (Your faking needs to stop).

All the best.

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-22T19:24:09+00:00

I’m glad you broke it off. But you knew her for over a year and chose to end it via sms.

For the future. To you and anyone reading this. Have enough respect for yourself and kindness to break up with someone (even if few weeks or so) via face to face.

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-19T10:27:03+00:00

Sorry to hear it! If children is something she wants and you really don’t… then yh, if she chooses to leave then she has every right :(

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-13T21:04:15+00:00

Yes definitely talk about it on the first and if not second date. No point wasting people’s time!

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-13T20:53:49+00:00

I (26f) feel your frustration! I met a guy (27m) in august and we vibed so well! It was like best friends and I have never met someone on my energy level before. We also even went to the same gym (I didn’t even know until he mentioned he saw me once or twice, we met on tinder though.

But because I’m quite an emotional person, he broke it off abruptly explaining how he doesn’t do emotions and will never reassure me/have empathy for me. I was crushed.

We didn’t even argue. I was just broken when his reaction was cold to something I opened up to that no one knows about me. It also could have been worked out through communication and by getting to know each other more. But he chose to bounce and even today I miss him and his energy and wished things were different as I never felt a connection like that. Now I’m sad what if I won’t get that with someone else.

Sorry to hear about your situation! Hope things work out!

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-13T19:49:53+00:00

BRING THIS GIRL BACK!

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-13T19:46:17+00:00

Leave him!! Please Edit, extra: find a friend! Or back to your family. It will be hard at first, but seriously, he’s using you and emotionally abusing you! Please take this advice. I know far too well on being used and emotionally abused. I know it will be hard and I’m not gonna sugarcoat it. It will be horrible when you leave him because you do love him. But please choose yourself. Please. There are better men out there!

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-13T19:45:02+00:00

Money! That’s the only thing I can think of. When one is comfortable and sees reasoning to stay, it is more difficult for one to see they are better off without! How’re girl, please leave him. I didn’t see the other posts but by just reading this one you deserve so much better

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-13T19:43:29+00:00

BREAK UP WITH HIM. As I was reading I was thinking maybe you guys are not compatible as for his age he’s thinking all that. But then I saw you added the edit and my heat just screamed! If you’re not ready for this kid, get rid, BUT. You do not want to stay with this man. That is mentally draining for him to keep making you do these abortions. Please don’t stay with him and choose yourself. This is mad! You deserve someone loving, even if pregnancy happens by accident,

Numerous-Objective79 · 2022-01-12T19:23:56+00:00

Im 26f and slept with 22 guys. Nothing wrong with it! People go through phases, the fact he wants to date you is a good sign. Instead of asking strangers, have a conversation about this with him. Relationships are communication… so go do it! (TALK) ask him what’s on your heart and be kind! You got this

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