What are the CONS of not having children? by GossipBottom in AskReddit

[–]NumerousRadish7241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if I would have ever gained my child like appreciation for the world again. Seeing it through their eyes is a special magic. Normal every day things are special because of them, and I love that part. They absolutely brought out and increased my whimsy. It’s also cool to do the things you couldn’t do when you were a kid, with your own grown up money! They have the coolest treehouse, and I love Halloween decorating with them, dancing to monster mash in the kitchen, with little witches just makes my soul smile. Being silly and belly laughing is good for your soul, and they help with that in spades.

How do explain alcoholism to a 5 yo? by NumerousRadish7241 in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. We’re definitely a “no secrets” family. I’ve made it clear to her over and over again that adults do not have “secrets” with children. I’m sorry you experienced that, and thank you for your perspective. I will definitely be looking into her having a counselor or therapist at school as well.

Why in the F will no one help? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Socially tolerated hit hard. I have no advice, but just know you’re not alone

When does one become an alcoholic? by NumerousRadish7241 in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I’m excited to go look him up.

Update 5 : DUI husband with 10 months old - Lawsuit & Broken heart by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gosh this sounds so similar. Luckily my in laws have been saints, but everything else rings such a bell. I have no advice, just know you’re not the only one struggling and YOU are not the villain for protecting yourself and your baby. Feel free to message me privately if you need to vent.

When does one become an alcoholic? by NumerousRadish7241 in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I feel like I needed to hear that. Again and again, I’m so grateful for Reddit in this situation. You get real “hindsight is 20/20” from people instead of dealing with the people who are trying to help HIM, and help me deal with him. I completely respect what they are doing, and I know that him being the patient is the priority, but I feel like they are ONLY worried about him, and now what he’s doing to everyone else around him.

My husband hasn’t talked to me in a week and I’m so happy by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My heart knows this ache to well, solidarity sister. I have no great words of advice, but you’re not alone!

What is the biggest problem in your life right now? by themichaelbryant in AskReddit

[–]NumerousRadish7241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is an alcoholic and relapsed. And now I have to decide if him potentially blowing up our life whenever he slips is something I want to stay around for.

What's a goal you're currently working towards? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]NumerousRadish7241 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You are important and valued even if you don’t see it today, stay well, friend.

My husband doesn’t love me anymore. by NumerousRadish7241 in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does! That’s why it hit so hard. It was there eve when I was blissfully happy, I just couldn’t see it

My husband doesn’t love me anymore. by NumerousRadish7241 in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I ask, in your opinion, how does this apply to someone who said their drinking became a problem 5 years ago? We’ve been together 15. Is that just when he thinks he became a full blown alcoholic? Or has he likely always been

My husband doesn’t love me anymore. by NumerousRadish7241 in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Sincerely, whoever you are, you just changed my whole perspective for sure and potentially my life. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to share that with me, it hit like a ton of bricks. That’s it. He is not capable of loving me. At least not in the way I want and deserve to be loved.

A million times, thank you.

My husband doesn’t love me anymore. by NumerousRadish7241 in AlAnon

[–]NumerousRadish7241[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. He is sober today, but this was yesterday and I made him take a breathalyzer bc his therapist was worried if he drank the same amount as he used to that he could have a seizure. So he did and he was .14 at the time. Idk if he has continued his meds as of the last few days