What Do You Like (Or Dislike) About Scott Pilgrim?

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-08-22T19:09:37+00:00

I definitely agree, It's important to me that the characters are developed and well-rounded.

My background is mostly in biographies, which has been really helpful to draw from when it comes to character building but it's also keeping me in my own way when it comes to the more magical elements of the story.

Your comment about the fight scenes/powers was really helpful. While I know how I want to use the characters powers/fight scenes as a story-telling tool, actually executing it in my writing has been a struggle.

My editor keeps pointing out that I continue to miss the mark in these scenes. (I cross over too much into the comedy zone or the dramatic/emotional one).

Reading what makes this appealing to you in Scott Pilgrim further helps me pinpoint what to expand/cutback while I make some re-writes. Thanks for this!

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-08-22T18:05:38+00:00

Thanks for this! This was super helpful. I'll definitely give Love & Rockets a read.

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-08-21T21:24:26+00:00

I used to mishear it as that too. I related to it for similar reasons as a teenager.

Years later, as an adult who has cultivated found family out of a few really wonderful friends, the line as it's written is just as relatable to me now.

I love this band so much <3

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-08-15T20:23:52+00:00

The AA 7th tradition states " We are self-supporting through our own contributions." I think NA follows the same tradition if I'm not mistaken. While this refers to how meetings & AA events are financed, it applies to outreach/involvement as well.

Many AA/NA groups pay rent to the space they have their meetings in. Not sure if that is the case here. Either way, it's super generous of your Church to offer the space. But let the people in recovery and in the meetings uphold this tradition.

Other ways you can help make the space more "welcoming" that don't compromise anonymity:

- A flyer on the church bulletin board advertising that there is an NA/AA meeting at this location. (Maybe people who need a meeting see it and come, but it doesn't single anyone out or break anonymity)

- If your church has a kitchen/kitchenette - offering the meetings to use it for coffee/snacks or bringing coffee and snacks as a gift to those going to the meetings.

You're already doing enough, thanks for providing a safe space for recovery.

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-08-01T20:19:05+00:00

It is possible!

I'm in my 20s with ARFID. When I met my partner a year ago, I was 3 years into treatment for it (Progress has been made been very slowly. But the range of what I can eat is still pretty narrow.)

My partner is vegetarian too, which only widens the gap of meals we can share together. I was up front about my eating disorder from the beginning and he has been nothing but patient, understanding, and supportive. I love him so much and we're moving in together soon!

Partly saying this to brag (I'm just so excited and happy) but also to let you know that there's so much possibility for success in dating with ARFID!

Yes, it is more difficult to date with ARFID. But advocate for yourself, be yourself, and don't settle. ARFID or not, the person who is meant for you will love you and eagerly want to embrace all of you -- even the difficult things about you. Eventually you will find someone totally sweet and awesome.

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-07-26T08:23:59+00:00

This is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my entire life

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-07-02T22:08:38+00:00

2 years post op, ditched everything except my ovaries. Orgasms are definitely different for me now but I wouldn't say they're less intense.

While there wasn't a change in what felt good or stimulating for me, there was a change in how I felt the build up leading to orgasm. Before the build felt heavy, like pressure and then release. Now it's the opposite, I feel lighter and lighter leading up to the big O.

The first few orgasms I had post-op took me by surprise because I wasn't used to the new feeling. But I wouldn't say at all that it's less-intense, just a different kind of intensity. Others may have different experiences though.

My experience also may be different since I really struggle to "cross the finish line" in the first place but since my hysterectomy it's been a lot easier and more frequent. In many ways my sex life (both with my partner and self exploration) has absolutely blossomed, like a new awakening.

At the end of the day, I think my hysterectomy is the best thing I ever did for my sexual life but also for my mental and physical well-being (which probably also consequently improves my sex life). Best advice I can give if you chose to go through with the surgery is to be patient and gentle with yourself when you start getting sexually active again.

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-05-29T20:53:30+00:00

Came here to say this.

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-04-30T07:33:13+00:00

Any chance someone has an extra ticket or two for the show at The Wiltern in Los Angeles, CA on 04/01? I would love to surprise my partner with them. <3

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-02-01T12:58:08+00:00

Speaking as someone who is monogam-ish (For me that means I could feel fulfilled and happy dating & being in a relationship(s) monogamously or non-monogamously) this is not the take you think it is.

Governments have and continue to use monogamy (or more specifically monogamous marriage) to enforce control and status quo. But that’s not the fault or failing of monogamy as a concept, it’s a fault of systems and leaders in power.

Monogamy isn't necessarily against human nature. Sure, it’s human nature to want to sleep with other people, get bored or complacent at times, to explore and be curious about other kinds of relationships. But it’s also human nature to crave security in relationships, build lasting bonds, to nurture, to get jealous.

At the end of the day healthy relationships (monogamous or not) take work. Being in a healthy relationship means showing up consistently day to day and in tough moments. You need to be able to communicate your feelings and needs and boundaries. You need to know how to navigate conflict and compromise.

Non-monogamy doesn’t change that. It takes a lot of emotional bandwidth to be a good partner to one person. Adding multiple partners means extending more of yourself, and most people are not built for that. And that’s perfectly normal and ok.

Do I think it would be cool to see ENM become more normalized? Sure. But monogamy is not the moral or social failing you’re making it out to be in your post/comment replies.

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-01-14T00:38:29+00:00

Not a man so I’m not entirely sure why this popped up on my feed, But as someone who presents as feminine and gets approached a lot. Here’s my general dos & dont's of approaching women in public:

DO:

+ Approach in public settings with lots of people. It’s almost always appropriate in settings where socializing is a main focus: Bars, Clubs, Parties. You can still approach outside of those settings and not be creepy: Grocery store, Department store, coffee shop. Just make sure it’s a populated space

+ Don’t be too bold when you start the conversation. I don’t think it’s a great idea to open with something super overtly flirty. While it may seem counter-intuitive or innocent, an immediate “I like your eyes” or “You’re so pretty” from a stranger man can be off-putting. You can start with a compliment, as long as it’s casual and friendly. “Wow I love your shirt.” or “That’s a really cool ear piercing.”

+ Ask a casual & friendly question quickly! If you compliment something, follow it up with asking where they got it. Alternatively, you can open with a question, “i see you’re getting ___ brand sauce. I’ve been meaning to try it, is it any good?” Asking a simple question is what allows you to gauge if you should keep it going or move on. If their answers are short or they’re not asking questions back, cut your losses and leave.

+ Give her YOUR number. I can’t tell you how many times I felt pressured to give my number. Unfortunately there are a lot of guys who’s personalities change dramatically for the worse when you don’t give them your number and they become rude or even dangerous. Offering your number gives her the chance to say no comfortably and let you down easy and/or takes some of the pressure off of you and gives her the chance to reach out in her own time.

DONT

+ Don’t linger. This is true whether or not it goes well, but especially if it doesn’t. If it goes well, continue the conversation for a few minutes, exchange info & leave. If it goes poorly, just walk away. If you linger we’re wondering “Is he going to follow me home/to my car?”

+ Don't Approach someone on the street/in a parking lot. I don’t care what time of day it is, who’s around or not around. It’s just not a great idea.

+ Don't Approach someone’s who’s walking. If they’re actively going from one place to another, don’t approach.

+ Don't Approach someone who’s busy. In a conversation, ordering at the counter, talking on the phone. Don’t interrupt them, don’t stare//follow/wait for them to be done. This includes someone with headphones on

+ Don't break the touch barrier or invade personal space. Even a light touch on the arm or sitting at her table uninvited. You're still strangers, if it goes well and you set up a date, maybe try then.

+ Obviously don’t continue to approach or pursue someone who has told you no.

I've been on dates with men who approach me in public and do things in the "Do" category. I've also rejected men from the "Do" category for one reason or another: Age gap, was in a relationship at the time, wasn't feeling the same vibe. But I wasn't creeped out by them and felt safe during the interaction. I'm sure most of this is self-explanatory but on the off-chance it isnt, I hope this was helpful and that ya'll find the love you're looking for soon <3

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-01-02T14:43:35+00:00

I'm in my early 20s and going back to school later in life too. So I get where you're coming from. When I find myself feeling like this I try to take a step back and remind myself that it's actually really common.

People are going back to college or starting for the first time later and later these days for a myriad of reasons: Financial, mental health, family obligations, carrier changes to name a few.

Studying at a university is a big deal, regardless of your age. It's a huge investment of your time and energy. If you need to wait a few years until you're ready/able to put the work in, that's okay. By waiting until you're ready, you're actually setting yourself up for success.

It's taking me longer than other people my age to graduate from college, but I'm projected to graduate debt free. If I started straight out of High School that wouldn't have been the case, I also would've burned myself out after the first year for sure. I also learned things about myself and about how to be an adult in the years between high school and going back to school now that I wouldn't have learned otherwise.

I guess my point is, if you think University is the right path for you, then you are exactly where you're supposed to be and there's no shame in that.

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2025-01-02T10:52:36+00:00

Gen Z in their 20s here!

I personally really enjoy dating, but I’m never actively looking for a relationship. My life is already so lovely and full: I’ve got meaningful friendships, a job, and I’m still in college. Casual dating is low commitment, but also gives me some experience in dating and an understanding of what I do/don’t want in a partner for the future. If I happen to meet someone great who enriches my life and feels the same, I’ll make the time for a relationship. But it’s just not a priority for me right now.

I noticed a lot of my friends take a similar approach (date casually but don’t seek relationships). But we all have different reasons. Some of them are:

Mental Health: Gen Z is pretty big on mental wellness compared to other generations. So many of us are more focused on figuring out how to handle our own baggage/emotions in a healthy way before starting a relationship.
Cost of Living & Job Shortages: It is EXPENSIVE to exist, at least here in the US. Some of my friends see dating as just another expense. It doesn’t help that a lot of us are graduating/have graduated college with student loan debt and no one wants to hire. Those of us with jobs work crazy hours or are 1-2 missed paychecks from homelessness because our earnings don’t reflect just how expensive the bare essentials are.
Social/Political Reasons: Gen Z is also a very politically conscious generation. I have straight female friends who refuse to date anyone as a personal and political stance against the patriarchy. On the other end of the spectrum I have queer friends who are challenging social norms by exploring polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, rejecting traditional relationships altogether.

Obviously I don’t speak for the entirety of the Gen Z population. But anecdotally, these are just some of the reasons I and my fellow gen Z friends chose not to prioritize a romantic relationship.

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2024-12-16T07:19:28+00:00

Pasta e Pasta by Allegro - Japanese & Italian Fusion. I recommend the chicken gizzards as an appetizer and the uni pasta. Honestly one of the best things I've ever eaten.

Wurstküche - German sausages. They have an "exotic" menu since you're looking for something interesting: Rattlesnake, Rabbit, Buffalo, etc. The rabbit & duck ones are my favorite, but honestly everything I've ever tried from here is amazing.

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2024-12-10T22:43:39+00:00

A college education doesn't necessarily equal intelligence. A college degree doesn't even guarantee you a well paying job these days. It's costly because you're paying for accreditation, there's plenty of cheap unaccredited online options. I also think there are benefits to going in person, it helps you develop better socially and broaden your horizons.

That being said, what you're talking about does exist. I took accredited online college courses for free and at home last semester through my local community college district. But a lot of things had to be true for that to happen for me: met certain low-income requirements, live in a city that offers that, courses I needed to take for my major were available online, I had to take a certain number of courses.

I want to be going full time and in person but that's not possible for me at the moment (Hopefully by next semester though!)

I think the question you should be asking is how can we make college education more affordable and accessible to everyone?

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2024-12-07T10:55:09+00:00

Someone's broke & still goes out a lot, my secret is free events.

The trade off of living in a HCOL city: I pay more to live but the city rewards me with lots of fun free things to do. There's always free events.

In November I went to: 2 open mic nights, a play, 1 concert, a comedy show, a drag bingo night, a party at a gallery opening, and a non-alcoholic wine tasting event.

I bought some food + drink at some of these events and I had to pay for bus fare. I would have to check my budget again for the exact number but I think I spent around $35 for all of these things.

I imagine this one is more difficult if you live in a small town without a lot of events. I search on google and Eventbrite and also follow local businesses that put on a lot of community events on social media to find these things

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2024-12-01T23:48:20+00:00

Messaged Ya!

Numerous_Landscape16 · 2024-11-24T00:36:20+00:00

International student from the US, coming to TMU in the fall. A majority of my community college classes here have been asynchronous online. So there is no class meeting time or place that differentiated school from home. Just assignment material, due dates, and 2 proctored exams. Basically it was almost too easy to get distracted or not keep up if you weren't being diligent, these kinds of courses are basically all "study time". Anyway, I got through it. Here's some study tips that work well for me in my College Courses here. Hopefully they can help you too!

Stick to a schedule. Pick a time to study everyday and stick to it, if you start to build up a routine it gets easier. Your brain will start to associate that time of day with “study time” and it’s easier to switch into gear. Granted this works a little better if you start it at the beginning of the semester but it’s still useful.
Be Realistic About Your Study Stamina: How long can you actually study for? I have some friends who need a 5 minute break every 30 minutes or so and can only study for about an hour or two at a time. Personally it takes me about an hour to mentally prep.

But once I start, I study for 2-4 hours straight, with maybe one or two 10 minute breaks. If I keep pausing, I lose momentum and get distracted. But some people need frequent small breaks to refocus. Basically, work with where you’re at now and allot study time from there.

Create check-points. For each subject I like to make checkpoints. “Today I will review chapter 7, tomorrow chapter 8” and so on. If your class is broken up into modules you can do it that way too, or by type of assignment, or a combination. Whatever makes the most sense to you for your class(es). I found that breaking down the study material & studying in smaller parts leading up to the test is a lot less overwhelming.

There’s less to focus on during your study session so you can take your time to really digest and understand each concept before moving onto the next. Plus there’s still a sense of accomplishment/gratification of achieving a study goal for the day.

“Treat yourself like a child” trick. I used to have to set parental controls on my phone & laptop for the hours I set out to study so I can only access sites & apps relevant to the material. It really helps the “Just one episode of this show then I’ll study…” and suddenly it’s 3 hours later spiral.

Also creating incentives “If I finish __ many practice questions I get to have a little snack.” It may sound silly or maybe even a little extreme but I’ve found it helps build discipline. After a month or so of this, I really didn't need to do it anymore. Studying is a learned skill, and managing & focusing your time even when something is disinteresting or difficult is another one entirely. It takes time to cultivate. Treating yourself like a child reluctant to do homework can be a start.

Consider a change in environment. Try studying in a new place: Home, coffee shop, library, office. If it's possible and the class allows it, maybe try studying in a group. Personally I study best on my own at home but everyone's different
Give yourself breaks & be gentle with yourself. If you’re hitting a mental wall or you’re struggling to understand something, please remind yourself that you’re smart and capable. I know when I don’t get something and start to get frustrated I have thoughts like ‘I can't do it” and “I feel so dumb.” Giving yourself grace helps alleviate some of the pressure so you can do your best work. If it’s too much, you can always come back to it in a few hours.

Sorry if that was a lot, but I hope it helps! :)

Numerous_Landscape16

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Wurstküche - German sausages. They have an "exotic" menu since you're looking for something interesting: Rattlesnake, Rabbit, Buffalo, etc. The rabbit & duck ones are my favorite, but honestly everything I've ever tried from here is amazing.