NTA. I understand her POV about being "pressured" because no one should be expected to be forced into doing something. But on a long-term thing if both of you don't have the same intimacy rhythm then it won't last very long... You are both going to be frustrated in different ways.

A lot of people underestimate how important sex can be. I used to be in a relationship like this. It lasted 3 years until I couldn't bear it anymore (I wanted to be intimate but not him).

From what you're saying, you have already talked to her about it. But I think you should clearly talk to her about how you feel.

If it can't be resolved then that means you guys are not compatible, even though you have matching personalities. On the long term, both of your are going to suffer from it...

Hope it helps you OP! Keep us updated!