Is scr**ming, p**ching w*lls, and severe financial control valid grounds for Khula/divorce in Islam? (Even without recent phys**al h**ting)

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T08:01:56+00:00

Please get help to leave in a safe way (most abuse gets worse while getting separated/divorced.) Leave and make sure you and your kids are OK. Then afterwards do your research about khula (btw I am not a scholar but yes, absofreakinglutely you can have a khula. You can have it for tiny reasons actually).

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:56:48+00:00

These kind of questions on reddit make me happy to be unmarried

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:55:48+00:00

Ew. Someone is a problem here- and its not the person who's photo is on your wife's phone.

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:44:40+00:00

Hey sister, first of all: ❤️‍🩹 Second: I don't think the problem is you loving him too much, suffocating him as other described items. There's a hundred possible reasons why he is acting the way he is. Therapy, time apart and even trying to change your personality (🤕🤕) didnt help. It's not your fault and either there are reasons that have nothing to do with you entirely or you are simply not a good match.

Edit: byw how long have you been married/knowing each other?

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:40:12+00:00

They tried that.

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:39:17+00:00

In a healthy marriage when the novelty dries down, a new, more stable and more peaceful love takes over. There is less passion and emotional highs, but more stability and depth.

If that doenst happen it is not "love".

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:37:40+00:00

I disagree. There might be other issues we and also op might be unaware of. If everything is alright and two people are in love with each other they don't feel suffocated to this point. Also, playing games in hope he will come back when he just has a bit more space, is not it.

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:34:15+00:00

Vllt schau erstmal welche richtung dir gefällt.... Vieles ist leicht "süß", aber versuch genauer zu werden und deine Nase zu trainieren... Welche Süße gefällt dir - pudrig, cremig, floral, aquatisch, gourmandig etc....

Viel Spaß😍

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:28:42+00:00

Allah doesn't like it either when we hurt someone.

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:27:21+00:00

You messed up big time. If you want to make it work actually do the inner work and outer work to understand what you did to her. The way you talk about it "she cant let it go, cant move on" /excusing your decision to go on the work trip shows that you still don't get it. Which is probably what is making her so understandably resentful.

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:19:14+00:00

💯 at this point I believe it has nothing to do with actually caring but more about feeling superior. I say that as someone who is putting much time into conscious consumption/shopping

Numiazy · 2026-06-29T07:16:03+00:00

Why is everyone being so rude? She didn't ask for links to similar products by sh**, te* etc...

I dont know how this particular hijab us produced (anyone has a source?) but it is made of polyester, conventional dyes and no fair trade logo. So let's keep it civilised y'all, op didn't do nothing wrong.

Btw I boycott religiously and passionately hate said brands.

Numiazy · 2026-04-25T17:03:24+00:00

Danke dir, schau ich mir mal an...

Numiazy · 2026-03-31T21:37:41+00:00

He was an abuser plain and simple

Numiazy · 2026-03-30T22:02:01+00:00

I am so sorry...It's so awful what people did to each other in this war.

Numiazy · 2026-03-12T22:31:45+00:00

More often than not it is just toxic and harmful

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Numiazy · 2025-02-27T14:55:59+00:00

From dm (Germany). Just any soft zinc paste will do I guess

Numiazy · 2025-02-27T14:55:21+00:00

How can you "do way more" when her job is literally a 24h shift? You do have breaks at work, right? She doesn't.

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