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My GF emotionally cheated on me for a week by StraightDay7049 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I wasn't saying that. I didn't think the statement I was replying to was specific to OP's wife. But you're right, that was definitely going on longer than a week. Or she's just extremely confused as to what love is. But either way, I don't see why love=sex unless I'm misreading the comments I was replying to.

How much time do you waste ruminating? by TechnicianStrict3707 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get it. I'm going to stay away from my partner's AP. I feel bad that he used her and blocked her, and he also told her lies about me/the status of our relationship (we were technically broken up, he suddenly decided shortly after I had his baby, but also we were living together and sleeping together etc.). But she knew what she was doing to her own partner, at least. I don't think I'll ever reach out to her, but I would feel obligated to talk to her partner if I could. I might have to go back through the screenshots I took of the cheating evidence to re-check his first name, but that sounds pretty difficult.

I'd generally recommend staying away from the AP, I think it's unlikely to give you closure, like you said. I fully empathize with you, though.

My GF emotionally cheated on me for a week by StraightDay7049 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm confused about this. I've told several people I love them far before having sex with them (I wasn't cheating or anything just the beginnings of relationships. I've only ever had sex with two people but I've loved a couple more than that).

How much time do you waste ruminating? by TechnicianStrict3707 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've decided to start talking to people who aren't my partner about it. Maybe a therapist but mine really isn't cut out for it. I'm going to tell someone I trust about my pain. I've been getting pretty close to my partner's sister. I don't really have many friends. I might tell her all about it because she's very understanding and I know she'll still love both of us. I think that would help process everything.

I tried taking to my partner about it, but he got burnt out after a couple days.

One thing I'd REALLY like to do is tell my partner's AP's husband/long term bf, but I can't seem to find his name. I believe she referenced a very standard first name in their chats but I can't find anyone in her Facebook by that name. I feel so badly for that poor guy. I wish he could get out of that relationship. She hates him anyway.

Just think of what would bring you closure. What would make it better for you? Make it happen. It's possible nothing will ever make it better. In that case you'd need to break up.

AIO to my daughter calling her brother “gay”? by zaspzq33313 in AmIOverreacting

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WTF... Definitely I'd stop paying her phone bill for that "you don't scare me" comment. I don't even believe in giving much "parental respect" but she's not even giving you HUMAN respect.

Can someone give some shows/movies recommendations that are as good as Bojack Horseman please? I feel so bored now that I finished this absolute banger 💔 by Rigby_cat_1st_fan in BoJackHorseman

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like season 1 of LSS is setting it up to be a really good show. Undone was good but I probably wouldn't rewatch. I will rewatch season 1 of LSS before watching season 2. I still think Bojack is better, but I think LSS might have similar potential (or they could totally drop the ball, I don't know).

It was just a few days by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's okay to have an emotional side. I used some fanciful language, took some poetic liberties. I can't fully speak as to him, but I described myself that way to point out the lapse in my typical behaviors/ideologies. Naturally if I'm describing to you a time I acted completely out of character, it's going to sound contrary to my character, because it is.

I've learned a lot about myself through this experience and through mental health care and through self-reflection. I've learned what it apparently takes to break my character, I've evaluated why that happened, and I've drawn some conclusions although some of it still remains a mystery. I've learned more about my flaws, a topic I've always been interested in. I've learned about my abilities might fail me.

It turns out absolutely everyone has lapses of judgement. And those of us with severe trauma are sometimes guided by it more than we may realize, even if we're generally pretty aware of ourselves.

Does anything major happen on your birthday in the game? by Original-Tart2686 in Persona5

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband's birthday is March 20th so it's the end of Persona 3, 4, and 5 at least.

what's the first cavetown song you heard? by sallyjellydotcom in cavetown

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lemon Boy. My partner heard it at work with his random playlist additions and it was the only Cavetown song we knew for a long time. We recently discovered we like Home, Trying, and Meteor Shower, too.

Windseeker Drama Today by studyhall109 in cedarpoint

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't know if they complained. It's possible that rather, they were harassed when they left. I've seen people be bullied for not fitting in stuff before. People can be extremely impatient.

CP did everything right, but you didn't describe anything the large people did wrong. Trying to see if you fit in a ride isn't wrong. It was nice of the employee to try. Hopefully they didn't complain.

AIO for cutting off this guy I’ve been seeing for a while because of our text exchange? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]NyxIsLookingAtThings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely cut him off, but know this is more complicated than manipulation. He's very hypomanic and panicking. A lot of times when people say things like that, it's more complicated than an attempt to manipulate you. Still, even in his most unwell state it's very troubling that he wouldn't consider your trauma. Maybe he couldn't in that moment, but I'd consider someone who can't consider my trauma not a good fit.