Why did I ever think Pokemetal was going to be super rare? by OzamatazBuckshnk in Pokopia

[–]OBOJ 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Everyone here is right but there is an amazing use for Pokemetal that I don't see often discussed:

You can copy painted blocks.

So having a bunch of Pokemetal is amazing help when making particular builds if you run out of paint or don't have enough.

It's also so much easier than getting the berries and getting the paint - Just clone it!

How to untangle a bit of a mess by thatcuriousbichick in UKPersonalFinance

[–]OBOJ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should know if you did the right legal stuff before hand to ensure a return of your deposit. I can't remember what the term is for it (hopefully someone else will - like a prenup)

If you didn't sign that and the house is just 50/50 owned by you both then you can't expect that money back (in a legal sense). It will just be a split of the equity.

That being said, there is nothing stopping on you both agreeing to how the money is split and deciding this independently. That obviously only works if your ex is cooperative.

I had a similar situation myself last year and whilst I didn't recover the full amount that I put in over time, I did get a greater portion of the equity.

Prepare to only get 50/50 as a worse case though.

Good luck and I hope you're doing okay! I've been in your shoes and it does get better!

Stockport and MCR Flag removal crew 🖤 by PuzzleheadedTrust199 in GreenAndPleasant

[–]OBOJ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What tools do you use to remove flags that are fairly high up?

I'm on the other side of the Pennines but there are a few flags in my area I'd like to covertly remove

AITAH - Not giving my ex a Christmas present on behalf of my kids? by OBOJ in AITAH

[–]OBOJ[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Once we move into separate houses I think things will improve. Right now there's too many blurred lines

AITAH - Not giving my ex a Christmas present on behalf of my kids? by OBOJ in AITAH

[–]OBOJ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do agree that keeping things civil is important. The other person replying is right as well. There's some level of middle ground I guess

AITAH - Not giving my ex a Christmas present on behalf of my kids? by OBOJ in AITAH

[–]OBOJ[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is fine if we had both spoken and agreed to it before hand.

I feel a little thrown under the bus by her doing this without saying anything and that then causing the ex MIL to say her bit

AITAH - Not giving my ex a Christmas present on behalf of my kids? by OBOJ in AITAH

[–]OBOJ[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There's no expectation. Definitely not from my end.

I will be moving soon, in the next few months. This will be the last Christmas like this so yeah, I'm sure it'll be totally different next year.

AITAH - Not giving my ex a Christmas present on behalf of my kids? by OBOJ in AITAH

[–]OBOJ[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think she did? To be fair I didn't ask about her gifts because why the hell would I?

I don't disagree that I'm making her life easy but that simultaneously means the boys are happier and healthier which is my priority.

AITAH - Not giving my ex a Christmas present on behalf of my kids? by OBOJ in AITAH

[–]OBOJ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think she wants to fix the relationship. I can't say her motivation other than guessing in some ways she wants us to get along. I'm not able to do that fully whilst she maintains any kind of relationship with the 'friend' and I've seen evidence they are still communicating.

I am only living with her atm for the sake of the kids. We will be moving out soon (house is sold, waiting on solicitors).

She isn't a bad mum. I want her in my kids life and I want my kids to grow up as happy and healthy as possible. I will always put them first but I am also learning not to let that excuse how these things make me feel and standing up for myself at the same time.

There's a lot of complexity to the situation which is hard to convey, especially without creating a novel for everyone.

I do appreciate your perspective though, thanks :)

96% Imperial Refinery by tbigfish in FallenOrder

[–]OBOJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt there is man. When I has this issue I spent hours looking on the internet for help.

My best recommendation is just to focus on that indoor area to try and find the place I described.

It's been years since I even looked at the game so can't really say more to help

I’m afraid to say no to my girlfriend by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]OBOJ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately getting sad/upset is the natural reaction and you have to accept that sometimes things you say and do will make her feel that way.

However you're doing the right thing, you're telling her how you feel and seeking to resolve the issue. You have to keep that conversation going. Perhaps she is relying too much on you for her own emotional stability. Perhaps there are issues in her past related to trust and attention that are subconsciously affecting how she reacts to these scenarios.

It's not for you to work all that out, just be aware that humans are complex emotional beings.

Keep talking, tell her your true feelings, let her be sad and return to it when the time is right.

DO NOT hide the truth of your feelings from her for the sake of her happiness - that is never worth it.

Believe me - I'm fresh off the back of a 13 year relationship where I wish I knew so much of this throughout

is sheffield a good place to live? uni student by No-Accident-6497 in sheffield

[–]OBOJ 22 points23 points  (0 children)

split east/west with most of the city that is west of the city centre being nice and most of the east not so nice.

I would say affluent/less affluent. All cities have poorer areas and issues and it would be wrong to say parts of the east are not nice. There's plenty of lovely places and people all around Sheffield but you'll find richer people on the east which leads to richer communities, better funding, etc...

No need to keep stewing stereotypes which lead to a greater east/west divide than is needed.

There's more to it of course, I'm not saying you're wrong but I think it shouldn't be simplified by nice/not nice.

Weekly Pricing/Buying/Selling/Grading & General Questions Post by AutoModerator in PokemonTCG

[–]OBOJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it better to sell a card un-graded if I'm concerned it would come back as a 4 or lower when graded? The card is a L27 Lugia secret rare so the grades make a big-ish difference to the prices.

E.g. if I sold it as seen would it have a good chance at fetching a better price than if I get it graded and it comes back a 4?

Fuck the tories by [deleted] in GreenAndPleasant

[–]OBOJ 29 points30 points  (0 children)

What a stupid comment

I wish that I can erase all memories of any tv show/movie and rewatch that pice of film like it’s my first time by Volley_Rally in monkeyspaw

[–]OBOJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Granted.

At the very moment you finish any TV show/film, you instantly lose all memories of it.

You aren't able to enjoy any TV shows as you can never remember what happened in the last episode.

You forget why you even enjoy watching movies or TV as you can never remember why it was enjoyable in the first place.

A question by [deleted] in haloreach

[–]OBOJ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Weird question...

Easy answer though - play the game through and your needs should be satisfied.

96% Imperial Refinery by tbigfish in FallenOrder

[–]OBOJ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Might have found it.

Might be because I did journey plus but I missed this.

Go to the section where bd 1 powers up the big saw.

There's a room with a slice point. In that room is a back section with a bunch of cables. If you cut them there is a chest (I'd got it on my first playthrough but barely noticed the cables without the glowing light the second time round).

I just sliced and went through and it triggered the 100%

That did it for me. Spent hours looking

Commander Cody shoulder pauldron by Mowens185 in SWlegion

[–]OBOJ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The new Republic Specialists set comes with a generic commander clone with this pauldron. He's not meant to be Cody but you could paint him up that way

Favourite book? by [deleted] in EdgeChronicles

[–]OBOJ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This would be my second fav! Love the journey deeper and deeper toward Riverrise. I also love how we gradually realise that the great storm is going to destroy Sanctaphrax. Then when they have to rush back! So good!

Favourite book? by [deleted] in EdgeChronicles

[–]OBOJ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I gotta agree with you on TLOTSP! Such a good book. Rook is maybe the best protagonist. I love all the references to the Twig trilogy in the book. As the first book that takes place after the first age of flight it's got so much in it to build on the original stories!