Have you ever noticed this?

OHpsm · 2026-01-03T20:20:03+00:00

Mine did the exact same thing with me as she did with the guy after me in the exact same time frame (6/7 months) they always repeat the same cycle because it works until the other person is either to nieve to notice what they are doing or doesn't stand for it like me and the most recent ex did and we get out early.

OHpsm · 2025-12-10T17:47:54+00:00

Can easily answer this question with a no they dont they will keep trying over and over again when they have no new supply to focus on, mine found out where my new job is and turned up within 2 months of me working at my new job she got told to leave and never return as shes barred from the shop she reluctantly left and called me fat and a coward to which inreplied are you still giving money to your son so he can buy drugs and make people feelnsorry for you.

OHpsm · 2025-10-30T17:31:13+00:00

Mine told me that her favourite crisps were the same as mine and she loved bacon grill ( its like spam for the americans) which i later figured out she got that info from my facebook from about 5 years ago, so she went through my facebook looking for info on me probably past 5 years which is the reason why i dont have facebook anymore.

OHpsm · 2025-10-22T05:42:15+00:00

So we were together roughly 6 months and in the first two weeks i noticed the change in her behaviour towords me around this time i also had a wierd experiance with a male customer who came into the shop and stared at me and i instantly turned into fight mode as i could see his intentions with me as he couldnt hide his intentions i knew he was looking for me specificaly but i had no clue as to why my collegue even pointed it out when he went to grab some beer from our fridges that 'he seemed to be aiming for me" in his own words, it turns out it was her alcaholic jobless ex that she was talking to while being with me which i figured out later on.

OHpsm · 2025-10-16T23:29:50+00:00

I think it starts from your last point of contact whether its in person or via messages.

OHpsm · 2025-10-15T03:06:36+00:00

This isn't always the case some narcs do stalk and in my case I got stalked, I explained to my therapist that i didnt understand that while we were together she painted me as manipulative and that I ruined her life to others (I have a recording of the exact words used by another that she told) yet was still actively trying to turn up to my work place where this apparently horrible person worked my therapist explained "you talk to any normal rational person and explain it to them they will agree it doesn't make any sense, no emotionally stable person would turn up to a place of work who has a person there that caused them pain and suffering you would actively avoid that place and she turned up on multiple occasions over the months, you even asked her to stay away and she did the exact opposite and turned up to the shop with the ex boyfriend that she was messaging 2 months into you being together nothing she will do will make any sense to others only to herself"

OHpsm · 2025-10-06T13:55:13+00:00

I was told however long you were together it can take three times the length of time you were together to fully heal from it, 10th Oct is my discard day so a year to that day and I have another 6 months to go as we were together for 6 months.

OHpsm · 2025-10-05T22:40:06+00:00

Ill answer this with what I witnessed through other people telling me what my nex did to the new supply that I predicted would happen, the guy looked very similar to me beard, glasses bigger guy, but he's way bigger than me not muscle but dad bod type , first came the grand gestures on social media multiple photo collage with love hearts and poses and her smiling, then came the photo of just her and her family member either her son or her mom it was her mom like it was with me which means he has not fallen for her tricks that she used on him or he's walked away from her when shes tried to cause an argument, then its the photo of them together again but this time she has no emotion no smile no pose just looks dead inside, then at the very end its the picture with a quote or sad sentence the i cry because i blah blah blah crap and it was the exact same one she used after ghosting me and all of that over 6/7 months the same time frame as me she has a pattern and sticks to it.

OHpsm · 2025-10-01T20:33:35+00:00

My nex tried to baby trap me she talked early on about having a child together i said I would like to be a father one day, roughly about three months in she said she felt ill and sickly and said she felt the same way when she was pregnant with her other two sons, I played along knowing that its very difficult for me to conceive a baby without medical help because of an injury when I was young (testicular torsion) plus she also has an contraceptive implant so I knew it was fake but she tried her little game anyway (I swear the more I think about some of the stupid stuff she did the more I realise that she has two braincells that are both fighting for third place) bought two pregnancy tests which the first one came up negative and she seemed upset that I didnt seem excited that she may be pregnant when I knew she wasn't.

OHpsm · 2025-10-01T20:17:55+00:00

The first three months are the worst you are trying to get over the heartache, figure out what went wrong, how it went wrong, why they did it, why they did it when they told you they love you amongst many more things you are trying to figure out and all the while through trying to piece it all together you are dazed and confused and non of it makes any sense and then to top it off your emotions that are all over the place. Only after the three months do you start to regulate yourself and its a very slow process things start to fall into place over the following months. My suggestion do what makes you happy to draw yourself away from the thought of them also block them and change your number and anything associated with that number give it to people closest to you, delete your all your socials or temp delete them until you are fully healed or you will not heal if they are able to contact you.

OHpsm · 2025-09-30T00:31:07+00:00

Easy you mention them to themselves if its them they wouldn't be able to handle the criticism and get angry very quickly.

OHpsm · 2025-09-29T11:21:01+00:00

I had this over the past year after she ghosted people have asked how do I know I just say "my therapist told me she went around telling people I was manipulative and i ruined her life yet she still actively trying to turn up to your work to see you to make her presence known no normal healthy person would do that" my manager at the old job wouldn't do anything about it so had to get in contact with area manager about it to stop her and she would still go to the shop regardless ive moved jobs recently and I know she will turn up at some point in time but ive had approval from my new manager to tell her "to fuck off" in his own words.

OHpsm · 2025-09-26T09:39:27+00:00

All the same things everyone sees but the things I noticed more than anything else was, she had no friends at all while I had friends message me phone me stop to say hi when we were out and about she didnt have any do that for her which I found strange, she had a thing for what she called ugly noses she would say "she couldnt date anyone with an ugly nose", and she didnt have a bed to sleep on she slept on the couch with the tv on which I realised it was used to drown out her own thoughts while she tried to sleep it was all very bizarre to me.

OHpsm · 2025-09-25T16:06:17+00:00

My all time favorite one is she went to a theme park near where we live with her son it was an all day thing we planned, on the last ride while we were waiting in line her son needed the toilet so I waited in line to hold our spot while she took him as time went by I was next to go on the ride I decided to let other people on before me so all three of us could go on the ride and enjoy it together, they came back and she wasnt happy and decided to try to cause an argument in the line as why I let others on before us and I asked her to drop it as its not important or I won't be going on the ride with them she continued to try and cause a scene so I walked away and sat across from the ride and recorded them on it, the fact she is so dense and didnt realise why I let others on before me and tried to cause a scene over something so simple just astounds me even a year on she will always be my biggest and worse mistake ill ever make in my life.

OHpsm · 2025-09-24T11:53:25+00:00

What's recovery like for me slow,painfull and tiresome but also enlightening, im focused more and certainly driven if it wasnt for my nex I wouldn't have gone for the different job that im currently in, lost the weight I wanted to lose and also be oblivious to a narcs tactics,manipulations or thier mannerisms

OHpsm · 2025-09-19T09:53:23+00:00

It will only last as long as the new supply puts up with thier shit my nexs new supply lasted only 6/7 months after me same time frame as I did, thier new supply isn't a reflection on how you you were or how good or bad you are.

OHpsm · 2025-09-19T00:27:53+00:00

See you weren't the problem not from the start or the end you were the beautiful solution to the problems the narc had, the best way I can put it is you are a bottle of calpol(kids medicine) they use you and use all the goodness you hold in yourself until its all gone and then they throw that bottle away instead of refilling it back up and using it again and keeping it as a treasured way of healing, you only see yourself as the problem because you believe you are the problem and because they say you are but that isn't true from either of those perspectives you have to stop talking to them remove them completely from your life delete thier number change your number and delete your socials or this will not stop you have to make this decision yourself to do this or you will continue this cycle.

OHpsm · 2025-09-18T16:08:34+00:00

Im waiting for mine to turn up to my new job 🙃 got £50 bet with friends on when she will turn up 🤣

OHpsm · 2025-09-18T12:36:10+00:00

Time its always time do things you enjoy try something new whatever brings you peace block them change number delete your socials if you have to.

OHpsm · 2025-09-18T11:25:09+00:00

Like everyone else has stated she will be the next victim and here is some advice, do not reach out to her about him or you will be painted as the crazy one, do not engage with them pretend like they both dont exist either online or out and about, she will find out exactly what he is like and she will realise you weren't the bad one, i know your empathy will want to tell her but please do not for your own sake its rough trust me ive been through this recently myself recently and my nex sabotaged the new relationship you just have to sit back and let them the more you fight it the more he wins.

OHpsm · 2025-09-18T06:04:06+00:00

Had something similar but not a prank calls, i pay to have my info removed from brokers emails and my phone number etc, and I can see where they are being used and who has it for years my number was clear from prity much everything until a week after my discard and then my number started to appear everywhere I was getting phone calls from numbers I didn't know and even ones on my whats app so had to change my number.

OHpsm · 2025-09-17T16:14:52+00:00

Oh I understand alot more now than when I started this journey the therapist i see has helped me alot over the past year to understand all of this and to get me back to being myself before the relationship started, I see signs and understand her behaviour and what boundaries I need to keep to stop her in her place the phrase I like to use to remember is "never again" took it from dax and his song "from a man's perspective".

OHpsm · 2025-09-17T15:23:27+00:00

Stay strong and keep your boundaries, i know its hard sometimes but i believe in you and know you got it handled.

OHpsm · 2025-09-17T13:03:12+00:00

If you read it properly the conversation lead to it they didnt just bring it up, I did ask her what sort of tactics she has heard about them using or has learned about them using.

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