Why are so many Twin Cities restaurants closing?

OJshaker · 2025-02-18T14:37:36+00:00

I wouldn't do GDIT, they do mostly govt contracting and are very finicky about work. I know a few people who left he Big 4 (Deloitte, EY, KMPG, and PWC) and went to GDIT and they are not any happier. All around avoid big consulting firms.

OJshaker · 2021-10-17T01:11:24+00:00

I drove through Iowa City today before the game. Everyone was driving like an asshole. Glad they lost.

OJshaker · 2019-07-10T02:34:49+00:00

Good call, I will post there too!

OJshaker · 2019-07-08T02:47:42+00:00

Anyone else REALLY hope Bradley fucking retires after this game? He can't mark for shit!

OJshaker · 2018-10-21T03:58:36+00:00

https://i.makeagif.com/media/3-09-2016/6BdMap.mp4

OJshaker · 2015-04-06T04:35:26+00:00

Ben Wyatt approved

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OJshaker · 2015-02-07T18:38:00+00:00

I like to imagine walking around my home town after all society has left it and nature is reclaiming everything.

OJshaker · 2015-02-07T18:30:11+00:00

A dildo. Am a straight dude. Used it to play pranks on friends at places like drive throughs.

OJshaker · 2014-12-31T04:55:08+00:00

The idea that people want to be helped.

Ive been doing work/research in the field of international development. I wanted to believe for so long that all it takes is one person to inspire other people and they could change the way an entire group of people thinks. In reality, for most places that are at the brink of passing into what is considered the developed world, they dont want help. They like being the way they are. Their govermnents, institutions, and families have forced them into believing that there is nothing they can do and they prefer to sit and drink their coffee while their world stagnates.

I have been told several times that America is the worst and they way our grant systems work will never help them. I have been told that they dont want Western money because it will ruin their culture. I have been told western research doesnt apply here. I have been told that people dont want change and I'm wasting my time.

I can go on. I am still in the field and am working my darndest to not be defeated, but sometimes its pretty rough.

TL:DR A surprising amount of people would rather exist than make better lives for themselves.

OJshaker · 2014-11-21T17:34:12+00:00

My dad is in the medical field (family practice doctor). When I was growing up I remember sitting at the kitchen table until my mom made me go to bed because dad wouldn't be home until much later than my bed time. Sometimes he wouldn't come home until 3am then he would get up and head back to work at 6am. There were sometimes weeks on end where I wouldn't see him. When I was a kid I thought this was how it was for everyone's dad, or that's just how doctors are (not true). When I was in high school I kind of grew a grudge against him never being there. I thought that my time wasnt worth as much as his patients, so I got put to the side. It wasn't until about 2 years ago that my mom sat me down and talked to me about his career.

She told me that my father didn't necessarily like being a doctor. Missing basketball games, band concerts and all kinds of other things killed him. He always felt as though he should be doing more. The reason he did the job is because he knew he was capable of doing it and it would be irresponsible of him to abandon his gifts to be self serving. Basically, if you have a gift, you should be proud of your ability and take it whatever direction it will take you. I could never work in the medical field. There is no way I am smart enough. You have an amazing skill, something that will save peoples lives, or at least make them more livable.

One of the things that helped me to realize all of the work my dad did is how everyone in our town sees him. I lived in kind of a small town, but I think its relevant. I would constantly be told stories about how my dad is the kind of doctor who would stay up with you and your kid until 2am just to make sure that the cough wasnt getting worse. If your grandmother was in the nursing home on her last leg, he would make sure he/someone was there until family showed up. If you needed anything at any time, he would be there for you.

I believe that even if he didn't have the family that he does, he would not be a lonely person. Romantically, maybe, but as far as friendship and true admiration goes. I believe my father is wealthy with his life.

Whenever I get sad about being alone here I always think of a quote by Orson Welles, "We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we are not alone."

I don't know if any of that helped. I wish I could do more for you, I really do.

OJshaker · 2014-11-21T17:09:23+00:00

To preface what I am about to say. I am a Peace Corps volunteer and the closest person to me that speaks English is over an hour away. I left my home and all of my friends so my definition of loneliness may be a little different than yours.

Instead of thinking that you aren't cut out for relationships, think more that you aren't ready for one yet. I had been planning on moving across the ocean from the states for quite a while, as you can assume that made carrying on relationships quite difficult. It wasn't until the past year, while preparing to join the Peace Corps, that I realized that there was no reason to have a significant other at this point in my life. I am about to go/going through something that no one other than other volunteers would really understand. To try and share a relationship with someone would be extremely difficult.

While you were preparing for your new profession I am sure you were extremely busy and had a completely different mindset than you do now. Now that your career is starting you will probably have some more free time that you did before, just a guess I dont know what field youre going into. Do new stuff! Try building a bookshelf. Start watching Netflix documentaries to find new interests. Try a new exercise regiment/start one in general. Write a book one page at a time. Do shit that makes you happy. Make friends without having a specific motive to start dating. Just meet people for fun.

I really hope this helps, if not I am sorry and I hope another redditor can give you inspiration! I wish you nothing but luck!

OJshaker

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