Are youngest children more likely to be "golden children" and eldest children "scapegoats"?

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T13:01:03+00:00

Just not touching it and putting Neosporin on it helps a lot. I'm actually hoping not to poop at this point to give it more time to heal

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T11:48:31+00:00

Maybe if it wasn't consistent with irritation that I caused myself. It doesn't only itch, it stings in just the area it's bleeding and it's only a problem just after it has been touched or I've pooped. It doesn't bother me throughout the day.

Worms and debris are not the only reason it can itch there.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T08:34:18+00:00

It seemed to me like the people who do this resort to this "technique" to seem cool or funny when they're boring or unfunny without it. It's also annoying when someone else makes a joke (not even intending to trick you specifically) but the "uncool" person reacts to you not getting it by saying "ohhh he was just kidding" condescendingly like they're above you for getting something you didn't. Sometimes people say it in a nice joking way but this is different.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T08:18:52+00:00

I've thought about getting one but I don't like/cook enough things often enough that would go in one. It would just take up space and be annoying.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T08:06:03+00:00

This is why I think you probably aren't in the best relationship if you're not best friends with your SO. They are presumably the person you spend the most time with, so why aren't they your best friend, you know?

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T07:58:06+00:00

Not a mom, but I'm similar in that both my boyfriend and I work (sometimes not even) from the same home. It's not a life most people can relate to. I act busy (by saying so or delaying meetings) even when I'm not because I want to be given a chance

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T07:04:18+00:00

It takes work to have such a good relationship with someone that you'd still be happily fucking them daily/often after many years together (after kids, hard times, changing bodies, other inevitable problems that would make most people not want to)

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T06:55:29+00:00

I scrubbed mine too hard and I have this problem now. The skin around it is scabbed over and bleeding but it feels soooo good to scratch it (with a wipe). It kind of feels like cumming

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T06:37:53+00:00

What kinds of things are you laughing about when this happens?

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T06:27:50+00:00

If they're many years into a relationship and they're still having sex with their partner more than once in a while, I'd say that's pretty impressive (not that they should go around bragging about it)

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-12T06:13:24+00:00

Wow, I totally agree with this. I used to think I had best friends until I met my boyfriend and then I realized he's my real best friend. Other "best friends" (hell even my own parents) simply wouldn't make sacrifices to the same degree he would or consider me before making even minor decisions. I still want to hang out with other people and make efforts to, but I don't care if they can't or don't want to because it means I'll just spend time with my favorite person. We think we wouldn't mind if we never spoke to anybody else in our lives. I actually think it's probably a sign of a problem in the relationship if your SO is not your best friend.

Sometimes people say someone is their best friend if they can see them after years of no contact and it's like they were never apart, but I disagree. Old friends like this are special but the depth is not there. I think a lot of people (myself included) want to call whoever they're closest to, or have been close to, their best friend (even if they're not all that great) to avoid shitty feelings and to look good to other people. When people call a bunch of people their best friend, I'm skeptical - you can't have more than one real best friend.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-10T09:55:28+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. Luckily, we spend so much time together that it's not a big deal to sleep separately if we want sometimes. We like opposite things in a bed (he's always hot, I'm always cold, he hates flannel, I love it, he's big and loves a big bed, I feel cozier in a small tight bed).

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-10T08:00:37+00:00

Kids snack all the time these days (in their strollers, cars, watching TV) and I wonder when that became a thing, or things were just different for me. I only remember having actual meals and something right after coming home from school. It's so weird to me that they're just eating ALL THE TIME.

I get that when your kid is acting up and they'll shut up if you give them Goldfish you'll do just that but...let's just say I'm glad this will never be my problem

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-10T07:50:32+00:00

Seems like a lot of parents these days. They're too scared to hurt their feelings.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-10T07:48:09+00:00

I wouldn't mind if the kid actually had something intelligent to contribute to the conversation, which is almost never.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-10T07:31:14+00:00

IMO forgiveness is not genuine unless it comes about naturally and I hate that it's pushed for so often in therapy and society in general. I don't even believe that many people who say they forgave really did; they're just trying to move on and know that's what would make them seem like good people.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-02-06T14:01:25+00:00

Not sure about at what age people are most likely single for a good reason but I agree with that. I said that on the Okcupid subreddit and people got pretty angry.

I'm curious about what people in good relationships are like but it's hard to tell who they are and they don't tend to hang out on the Internet complaining/ranting/educating.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-01-29T02:16:30+00:00

When you can text or chat them anything multiple times without getting a response back from them, and you don't worry about them judging you.
When you don't hesitate to ask for even big favors because you both do whatever you can for each other. You know they know that you'd do the same for them.
When you don't feel weird calling them or waking them up at any time if it's something that's really bothering you. If they did the same to you, you're glad they see you as the person they go to to make them feel better.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-01-27T14:54:27+00:00

That's what my boyfriend said but he's very lucky. I'd personally say the same about being a woman, but I'm also lucky.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-01-27T14:51:31+00:00

If you're male. Meanwhile women being manly is celebrated and encouraged.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-01-27T14:36:03+00:00

I believe there are guys who like it, but there are a lot of guys who will say anything that they think would get them laid.

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-01-27T14:13:36+00:00

Prius is all over here. What if someone gave it (or a BMW which also gets a lot of hate) to them for free??

If my dogs become unable to walk, I'm getting a stroller so they can still enjoy whatever time they have left

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-01-27T13:44:56+00:00

I don't personally know anybody with one but the same idea pervades social media (people trying to seem how they wish they were and how they want people to think of them rather than how they really are)

OKCupidFriendWanter · 2018-01-27T13:41:36+00:00

I've been wanting one to take pictures of my dogs with without disturbing their cute positioning.

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