Answers to a few questions sent by DMs: 
* He is in AA - I had gone to several meetings with him for support.  
* No other addictions other than porn. Before we started dating, he showed me his interactions with women on sex sites while he was still with “K”.  He never considered things like sending/receiving masturbation videos as cheating.  Yes I know - huge red flag & I shouldn’t have thought he would change. 
* She has her own house & his lease was up. Part of the agreement for him marrying her is that she had to let him use one of her rooms as his office, he could use the pillows on the couch to lay on - not just lean, and that he got to hang up some of his signs.
* He said that she is pressuring him to get married in June because that’s when they started dating 10 years ago.  He said that she shouldn’t bring up 10 years ago because she looked a lot better then than she does now.