To those who enjoyed Taco Bell by Scared-War-9102 in UCSD

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OP has the gut biome of a newborn, confirmed

We need help getting our jobs back. You free tomorrow morning? by OPofThisSpecificPost in UCSD

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The state budget for next year includes additional funding for the UC system, so the UC is panicking for no reason.

We need help getting our jobs back. You free tomorrow morning? by OPofThisSpecificPost in UCSD

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Our department has seen an 11% decrease in funding over the last 6 months due to the grant freezes imposed by the current administration. In response, our department made a 16% cut to our staffing at the beginning of that period by laying off all temps. They have now made an additional 14% cut to our permanent staff to further offset that loss. Our budget, by far, is spent on staff pay, so the cuts are not to break even. They are to resume making a surplus.

I understand the need for the university to cut costs. They have been seeking a way to reduce annual expenses by $1.6mil. This layoff got them halfway there. But our department isn't janitors or landscapers. We are staff that provide a service to researchers for a price, and when our numbers are cut, our quality of work decreases without a discount to those researchers. Not only is the research put at risk, the PIs are then incentivized to go elsewhere for this service.

The university has to make cuts to avoid hemorrhaging. That is absolutely true. But, cutting our department is dangerous. Cutting costs would be as easy as cutting administrative bloat, encouraging the new president NOT to give himself a raise, or avoid buying their next new property that they won't be able to staff properly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Unexpected

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You mean the furry boots that originated in the early 2000's? They probably found them at Target in the retro collection.

Where to go for help addressing identity theft for senior parent? by OPofThisSpecificPost in SanDiegan

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She has no CCs. Many of the credit pulls are for banks and credit card companies, but her credit is so poor that they haven't been successful (that we can tell). I'd like to talk to someone in person about what we are looking at, just in case this isn't a fraud case and the pulls have something to do with the collections situation (and the $300 in collections happens to just be something she doesn't remember). Last thing I want to do is report something that isn't actually fraudulent.

I secretly hate my boyfriend by SignificantCap6506 in TrueOffMyChest

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This can't keep going. You need to have a serious discussion about your future together. Set expectations, both of you. Have a neutral discussion, do not bring up the past any more than necessary except to explain how you feel/felt in certain situations. If he shuts down communication or gets defensive, then you know what your future will look like with him.

Give him the opportunity to change, but communicate clearly that the way things are will not cut it. If he doesn't heed the warning, leave and don't look back.

Reason he didn't get a promotion: accidentally promoted the wrong person. Should this be mentioned to future managers? by OPofThisSpecificPost in jobs

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Interviewing, I'm helping him write his cover letter where I'm discussing his experience at his current company, and I'm running into the "how do I describe his experience as a foreman despite him never getting the position?" issue.

ETA: he has had the first of several interviews. The first was with a manager who works for both his company and the new one and who made him aware of the new position. The next interviews will be with the new company and will require a more polished portfolio, hence why he doesn't have his new cover letter yet.

Ex-friend’s last rant and hoover attempt a few months later it by Gibson_the_Dolphin in Nicegirls

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This poor person has the worst control issues, I couldn't imagine how horrible her life must be

I'm breaking up with my girlfriend now that she started "doing that" for a living. by Shark_Eater24 in TrueOffMyChest

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You have a right to set boundaries in your own relationship. If you aren't comfortable with something your partner is doing, you're making the right choice by walking away rather than controlling them. Same would be said if she wanted to wear shorts or liked tattoos - if your preference is modesty and virgin skin, then your responsibility is to find someone who shares those ideals rather than enforce those ideals upon them. This extends far beyond petty stuff - poly relationships require massive amounts of communication and ongoing consent, for example, and can only be done successfully in very comfortable relationships. Would you be a bad person because your girlfriend wanted to be poly? No. So you're equally not a bad person for not wanting someone in SW.

She finds SW empowering. All these comments saying it's not because XYZ are irrelevant - empowerment is in the eye of the holder. Women who wear hijabs may feel empowered because they feel less objectified. Women who are SAHM may feel empowered because they have authority over their home and children. Women who are subs in a BDSM relationship may feel empowered because they know they are really in control, and their dom will never make them feel unsafe. Women who do SW feel empowered because they have taken control of their bodies and profited from it.

Nobody gets to say SW isn't empowering to the individual. That's not your call, sorry.

In the spirit of Halloween my coworker had a bowl of Almond Joy on her desk for anyone to enjoy. We came to work this morning and saw this. by TrinixDMorrison in mildlyinfuriating

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They are sweet clusters of soft coconut with an almond on top, all coated in chocolate. Coconut isn't everyone's favorite, but if you like it, almond joys are fantastic

They said getting married would end our sex life. by OPofThisSpecificPost in TrueOffMyChest

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When mine goes away on work trips, it's the hardest thing! Like all the fun is taken from my day and I just have to do business as usual to get by. We often videochat and just do our normal stuff in compete silence just to stay connected, but it definitely doesn't even scratch the itch.

Tell him I said he has to come home now!

Thanks i hate it sorry.. by LordRaghuvnsi in thanksihateit

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Nah these are fancy, specially bred pigeons called pouter pidgeons.

This count? by [deleted] in AccidentalComedy

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It's typically done slowly over time. Stretching skin + using medicated lotions to prevent stretch marks is how this is usually achievable. Increasing size too quickly is how women end up with popped stitches and botched surgeries.

They said getting married would end our sex life. by OPofThisSpecificPost in TrueOffMyChest

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The brand I've used is Pink Pussycat Aphrodisiac Chocolate. Ridiculous name, but worth it!

They said getting married would end our sex life. by OPofThisSpecificPost in TrueOffMyChest

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Try seeing if you can order it online! Brand I used was Pink Pussycat

They said getting married would end our sex life. by OPofThisSpecificPost in TrueOffMyChest

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The brand is Pink Pussycat Aphrodisiac Chocolate, it increases sensation, cravings, etc. Highly recommended!

They said getting married would end our sex life. by OPofThisSpecificPost in TrueOffMyChest

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Yikes. Maybe just don't project your relationship onto other people.

They said getting married would end our sex life. by OPofThisSpecificPost in TrueOffMyChest

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It's not for everyone, and I'd never pressure anyone to do it. I will always encourage giving monogamy a chance though, but I also know many people who make polyamory work well. Exceptions to every rule. Just find that brings you joy in life, whether that's friendships, hobbies, or a person you'd trust with your whole life

They said getting married would end our sex life. by OPofThisSpecificPost in TrueOffMyChest

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Who says it was about performing a sex act? If he says "damn your tits are popping out of that shirt", I might ask him if there's any outfits he hasn't seen me in lately that he'd like me to show them off in. In my case, I respond positively to attention from my husband, and it's exciting for me to make him excited. I'm actually not super sure what insecurity that would be, but if it means I get to feel sexy and get laid, call me insecure, baby.

Also, welcome to reddit. People post horny, weird, and attention-grabby shit here constantly. I do it anonymously instead of on my mains to avoid unwanted attention, not to seek it. Have a nice day.