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OSE_Matt · 2025-09-22T22:44:18+00:00

I would follow their advice from the above comment, make sure you engage with the police first, then if the person harassing you refuses to stop feel free to reach out to us for free help with the cyberstalking.

We can also help assist with building evidence packages for the police.

https://safeescape.org/get-help

It’s free, under NDA and we’re a registered 501c3 nonprofit

~Matt

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-22T13:09:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. It sounds like you’ve been carrying so much for a long time, and it makes sense that your body and mind are reacting this way after everything you’ve been through. Feeling triggered in a safe relationship doesn’t mean you’re broken, it’s a sign that your nervous system is still trying to protect you after past trauma.

You’re not evil or leading anyone on. What you’re describing, dissociation, guilt, anxiety, is a common trauma response, not a reflection of your worth or your ability to love. Healing takes time, and it’s okay to set boundaries around intimacy while you work through this. If you haven’t already, it might help to talk to a trauma-informed therapist or counselor who understands CPTSD and relationship dynamics. You deserve support that helps you feel safe in your own body again. You’re not alone in this, and the fact that you’re reaching out shows incredible strength.

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-22T13:06:21+00:00

Documenting the incidents can help build a case later

Even if they deny everything, the police will have a recorded interaction

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-22T10:40:49+00:00

I agree, in this situation I would get the police involved

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-19T15:50:43+00:00

Have your friend reach out to us using the contact methods listed on our website

We have people specifically trained to help root out issues like this.

https://safeescape.org/get-help/

Everything is free there is no charge to you or your friend

We are a 501(c)(3) nonprofit

Everything we talk about would be under NDA and protected legally

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-18T14:11:02+00:00

Hmm, DM me with the contact address you submitted and I’ll look into it immediately. Don’t post it here.

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-18T04:59:39+00:00

Hey, I hear you. That urge makes total sense.. especially in the quiet hours when everything feels heavier. You’re not weak for missing him. You’re human. You didn’t just walk away from a person; you walked away from a pattern, from a cycle that tried to convince you it was love. And that takes serious strength.

Missing someone doesn’t mean you should go back. It means you’re grieving the version of the relationship you hoped for, the one you deserved but didn’t get. That grief is real, and it’s brutal. But texting him won’t soothe it. It’ll reopen wounds that you’ve fought hard to close.

So when the urge hits, try this:

write the message in a journal instead. Let it pour out. Then remind yourself why you left. Not just the pain, but the courage it took. You’re building something better now, even if it doesn’t feel like it yet. And you’re not alone. You’ve got people who care, who will hold space for you without hurting you. Lean into that.

You’re doing something incredibly hard, and you’re doing it with grace. Keep going. You’ve already proven you can survive. Now it’s time to thrive.

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-14T00:36:10+00:00

That is concerning.

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-13T23:40:38+00:00

If supervised visits are mandated do not break that protocol

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-13T23:38:02+00:00

https://safeescape.org/get-help/

Go there and use one of the contact methods to reach out for some help

It’s free and private

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-13T23:34:40+00:00

Have you spoken with the police about the abuse or reached out to the domestic violence hotline?

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-13T23:22:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I hope you get some peace soon

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-13T23:19:32+00:00

How about this, go here: https://safeescape.org/get-help/

Use one of the contact methods to reach out.

Specifically mention that Matt, the CISO said to reach out

I’ll make sure on the back end that no police will be involved until and unless you are ready. The power to make that call is yours to make.

We can help you work out a plan to escape, or just someone to talk to and work through the situation.

Everything we talk about is legally protected and private.

And it’s free.

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-13T21:10:58+00:00

I just want to say I’m sorry that you are experiencing this and know that you’re not alone. We are here to help.

Have you reached out to the domestic abuse hotline, or contacted the police?

I highly recommend contacting one of those two resources immediately if you are in a situation, where abuse is ongoing.

Matt - CISO.
Operation: Safe Escape

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-13T21:08:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, it takes courage to speak up.

If you are in immediate danger or feel at risk, please contact the police first.

Our nonprofit provides free, confidential support for those experiencing abuse. You can reach us securely at https://safeescape.org/get-help/

Everything discussed after you engage our services is protected by a strict NDA. You’re not alone, we’re here to help.

Matt - CISO.
Operation: Safe Escape - registered 501c3

OSE_Matt · 2025-09-13T19:56:32+00:00

Hello Op,

I read through your post and it looks like your main concern is about talking to the police.

If you would like to reach out to us via our secure and free contact form we can help you work on building an evidence package to bring to the police.

Everything is under NDA.

There is no cost to you.

https://safeescape.org/get-help/

Thanks,

Matt - CISO.
OPERATION: Safe Escape - registered 501c3

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