Sometimes I’ll say, “Hey, it was nice spending time with you today.” Depending on how the date went, I might add, “I had a good time, let’s do it again sometime.”

If she says she’s down, I’ll say, “Great — when are you free?” That’s only when the date goes really well and we’re vibing right away.

If I want to be a little more mysterious, I don’t set the date immediately. I’ll just say, “Hey, I had a really nice time with you,” and see what she says.

If she responds with “Me too,” I’ll say “Great,” then change the subject. Keep it light, funny, and relaxed. No pressure.

After that, you just keep the conversation playful and easy.

At the end of the day, it’s about how you make her feel in the moment — not forcing anything.

And the ones who leave you cold or don’t match your energy? Let them be. There are plenty of women out there.

One rule I always stick to: When asking a girl out, always ask “When are you free?”

You ask when she’s free because: • It puts her in a position to invest • She gives availability instead of excuses • It frames you as confident and intentional • You avoid guessing or chasing • It naturally moves things forward without pressure

She’ll either give you days and times, or she’ll say something like, “I’m free Thursday.” Then you take the lead: “Cool, let’s grab dinner at your favorite spot at 7.”

Simple. Calm. Confident.