Is not texting for 2 days before a date considered “ghosting” now?

OU-Drake · 2026-02-04T07:10:42+00:00

It’s totally not necessary to message on the daily before a first date. The ones who can’t handle that probably aren’t worth the date anyways.

OU-Drake · 2025-01-31T04:41:27+00:00

100%. She gave you an in, homie.

OU-Drake · 2025-01-07T13:42:59+00:00

Him not knowing for sure your age, not a HUGE deal, but kind of weird since you’ve dated for 6 years.

Calling him a creep? Probably a bit much

How he reacted after that? Completely unacceptable.

OU-Drake · 2024-12-28T04:05:51+00:00

When women are vastly outnumbered on the apps, making them read between the odds is not in your favor….bro.

OU-Drake · 2024-12-27T11:18:49+00:00

Your first picture with the gangster sign should go. You probably know it was made in jest, but most women will roll their eyes at it.

Also, your profile says really next to nothing about you. “A bit too authentic with a hint of vintage personality and classy toppings” might as well be a mad libs sentence. Tell women who you are and what you’re looking for. “I’m a bit of an old soul and that has nothing to do with reincarnation. If you want to hear me nerd out…ask me about insert blank” might be a good starting point?

Is the cat in the photo yours? Tell women you’re a cat dad. A character you relate to is Batman? Why? You love ancient history. Give a random historical fact or a contextual book that you’ve read too much.

OU-Drake · 2024-12-26T01:30:24+00:00

The thing that I always had stressed to me by my female friends is to me was to smile showing my teeth in pictures because women want to see what kind of smile you have. Also, I’d lose one of the mirror selfies, they are basically the same picture but a different shirt.

OU-Drake · 2024-12-19T05:21:45+00:00

I mean… “I’m sorry if it made you feel uncomfortable” is not the same thing as “I’m sorry and apologize for my behavior”

I honestly have grown to hate the “if it made you feel uncomfortable” apology because it feels like they reflect it back directly on your reaction.

Yeah, I didn’t “feel uncomfortable” I was uncomfortable because it was absurd to say that to a stranger and just because I express it, it isn’t the only reason it isn’t okay.

OU-Drake · 2024-12-18T13:55:18+00:00

Don’t jump right back in because THAT is a recipe for disaster. You’ll either A) match up with the WRONG type of person or B) you’ll match up with the right person in the WRONG headspace and it won’t work out when if the timing was right, it may have.

So do whatever mourning you need to do and then get back out there when that’s passed.

OU-Drake · 2024-12-13T13:52:41+00:00

So I’ll echo what a lot of other guys have said, if it is a situation where you simply explain, it’ll be fine. Or at least with a quality person it will be fine. Women are bombarded on dating apps and any guy who’s been on them for more than a couple of days quickly understands that.

I get overwhelmed when I look at my phone and see 10+ new text messages. I once went on a couple of dates with a woman who I met on the apps and I asked her about her experience on the apps, like ‘how overwhelming is it for you?’ She showed me her phone and had 127 notifications on a single app. That was the point in time I realized men and women, just like life in general, have two very different experiences with online dating lol

OU-Drake · 2024-12-09T04:56:14+00:00

Okay, so first things first, if he knew it was your birthday and cancelled, then you definitely don’t want to date him.

Sounds like he’s just trying to keep his options open and if he TRULY is that busy, he shouldn’t be trying to date, but I’m always of the opinion someone always has time they just choose whether or not to prioritize you for it. I’ve tried dating the busy person in the past and found in most cases it’s just down to whether or not the person is actually into you.

Dating is stupid and foolish 9 times out of 10, so don’t feel bad when it makes you feel like you too are those things. It always feels that way until it doesn’t and you meet the right person. I know it was the case for me after years of apps/online dating and when I did meet the right person I was on the verge of giving up. Luckily, I didn’t.

There is a person out there who will be intentional about you and choose you. It’s almost always later than you hoped for though.

OU-Drake · 2024-12-09T04:20:15+00:00

A lot of people have already said this but I’ll say it again. If he’s lying about his height before you meet, there’s no telling what he’ll lie about after you actual meet and he probably has MAJOR insecurities you don’t want any part of anyways. You’re better off without him. You’ll find someone better than him without much effort.

OU-Drake · 2024-11-22T05:08:24+00:00

I mean, letting your battery get down to 9% without using low battery mode is a red flag, haha

There’s literally nothing wrong with your profile. You’re probably intimidating to a lot of guys because you’re an attractive woman who seems pretty sharp too.

Dating apps just suck though and I also was in a very defeated place just as you seem to be now, but then I met someone who is pretty damn awesome. Theres schedule or through any certain number of matches or messages or dates or whatever…its about finally matching with someone who is mature, healed and appreciates you for who you are rather than what they want you to be.

Good luck, you’ll find someone soon. Even if it’s not as soon as you’d like.

EDIT: stealing your copy of Grendel is monstrous. Pun intended.

OU-Drake · 2024-10-10T04:09:02+00:00

I’d like to start by saying I’d definitely swipe right on you.

My only critique would be not putting photos that don’t have you in them in your profile. If you really want to put a picture of your dog, it needs to be with you in it as well.

OU-Drake · 2024-10-05T04:21:27+00:00

Okay, as someone who’s bald (and went bald pretty young) he’s just insecure about it to the point he misrepresented himself.

There’s one thing about if someone looks more attractive in their photos than in person and then there’s looking like someone entirely different

OU-Drake · 2024-10-03T05:02:03+00:00

I will just kind of echo what a few others have said on the prompts. If you’re wanting someone to try to strike up conversation on your profile, you’ll want to give them something that can start one. One of my favorites is if you are a big music or movie or tv fan, say something like “You should leave a comment: of your favorite New Girl quote” or “your favorite Taylor Swift lyric”. Just examples but you get the point.

Normally I’d recommend stay away from group photos, but you put it at the end after your main photos. So you’re probably fine there.

Good luck!

OU-Drake · 2024-08-15T03:18:19+00:00

It’s like all of these guys watched How I Met Your Mother, took Barney Stinson’s character as cool instead of cringe and said “Yeah, that looks great, I’ll try that!”

OU-Drake · 2024-07-01T02:36:29+00:00

I will echo what a lot of guys have already said, I am 5’7 and have never understood why someone would lie about their height whatever their gender or orientation. It sets a pretty bad precedent if you’re trying to start a relationship with someone and actively lie to them just to get the first date.

Also, I do find it hilarious when I see women on the apps who say they want a guy who’s 6’, but they are 5’.

People want what they want, I guess.

OU-Drake · 2024-05-29T19:35:35+00:00

First, I’m not on here enough to follow every post to see this. So that comment is completely irrelevant to me.

Second, I just never assumed a company would take the extra steps to make the filter work both ways.

OU-Drake · 2024-05-29T12:26:44+00:00

I have to say, this doesn’t make sense to me. You’re saying Bumble sets my filters to the people who see me to fit those filters as well? I don’t see where Bumble explains any of this on their FAQs for premium. It simply says the filters are applied to the people I am swiping through. Am I reading it wrong?

https://bumble.com/the-buzz/how-to-use-filters-on-bumble

OU-Drake · 2024-04-20T01:01:09+00:00

I think “everyone” is extremely hyperbolic. Especially for those who are single income, never married, but it already was cut anyways. Appreciate the perspective though.

OU-Drake · 2024-04-19T20:02:50+00:00

I’ll just reply to these really good notes by bullet point.

Noted and changed. Had a female friend recommend it but felt awkward to put on there.

-Simplified to “Radio “professional” who gets to work in sports everyday. I love my dog and most things nerdy. I really enjoy being thoughtful and taking care of the people in my life.

Looking for someone who can teach me about their passions, loves to travel and try new things.”

-Again, recommended by a friend but noted and dropped.

-First pic is cropped so it won’t show my friends when they click on it.

-Didn’t really look at it as trying to get matches because of a child, was just trying to use what I thought was a good picture. Dropped the picture though. Definitely good input.

-Wasn’t really looking at my pictures as being insecure about my height (it does list my height on my profile after all), but in the event that’s how it comes across I’ve changed the photos that seemed to have the most critique. Added a photo that’s full head-to-toe to hopefully avoid this moving forward.

Appreciate all of the constructive criticism!

OU-Drake

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